TaintedHeart Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Me and my ex broke up about a month ago. Though it may be longer. It's been a weird break up for me, emotionally I mean. At first I didn't feel very much, then I felt too much and was a complete mess, then I went back to the numbness stage then back to the emotional wreck stage! Then this morning I woke up to a text from him. It read this: 'Hi, I can't believe we haven't spoken for a month! Have you got a boyfriend yet? Sorry, I'm being too nosey, bye.' The boyfriend question shocked me but I didn't show that it bothered me, so I text back saying how quick the time has gone and how there is no boyfriend. We exchanged a few more friendly texts then he text back saying this: 'I'm not sure if texting is such a good idea. I'm kind of seeing someone but things aren't so great. I'm a d***k. Bye.' I really didn't know what to say so I sent a lame text back saying 'Hmm ok, sorry, bye' I have no idea why I said sorry! So what the hell was the point of him texting me! I don't know what to feel! One minute I'm sad then the next I'm angry! I mean it's like he text me just to tell me is seeing someone. What a child! Why would he do that?! So yeah, I feel like I've been kicked while I was down.
dixiepix Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 HE SOUNDS INCREDIBLY IMMATURE. I would move on. Don't answer any more of his texts as he is just trying to keep you hanging. Spend time with friends and just enjoy your freedom to talk to whom you please. Start doing something for you such as an exercise program. This happened to me 20 years ago. When I would get angry about it, I would exercise. I started jogging, jumping rope and aerobics. Within 6 months, I could jump rope an entire hour and I was very fit... and hot. He, he. Rarely was I ever the one who was dumped again... and I still have to worry very little about gaining weight from what I eat! Now married with 4 kids. In fact, he would make it a point to somehow see or get in touch with me every 10 years or so, trying to get me back. I saw him a few years back and he said that was the biggest mistake he ever made was losing me. He is still a player and still not married... and likely not very happy.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 HE SOUNDS INCREDIBLY IMMATURE. I would move on. Don't answer any more of his texts as he is just trying to keep you hanging. Spend time with friends and just enjoy your freedom to talk to whom you please. Start doing something for you such as an exercise program. This happened to me 20 years ago. When I would get angry about it, I would exercise. I started jogging, jumping rope and aerobics. Within 6 months, I could jump rope an entire hour and I was very fit... and hot. He, he. Rarely was I ever the one who was dumped again... and I still have to worry very little about gaining weight from what I eat! Now married with 4 kids. In fact, he would make it a point to somehow see or get in touch with me every 10 years or so, trying to get me back. I saw him a few years back and he said that was the biggest mistake he ever made was losing me. He is still a player and still not married... and likely not very happy. The whole thing was very odd. Do you think he is trying to hurt me? If I starting seeing someone texting him to state the fact would be the last thing on my mind!
rAFC Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Actually, I think what he did is pretty common. He explained it all in the short text exchange with you. Basically, things aren't going well with his rebound and you responding to his text and letting him know you are still single was just the ego boost he needed to get through this rough patch with his current girl. Just go back to no contact and forget it ever happened. Next time you might consider not responding as it only serves to feed his ego and help him move on while simultaneously setting you back a step.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 Actually, I think what he did is pretty common. He explained it all in the short text exchange with you. Basically, things aren't going well with his rebound and you responding to his text and letting him know you are still single was just the ego boost he needed to get through this rough patch with his current girl. Just go back to no contact and forget it ever happened. Next time you might consider not responding as it only serves to feed his ego and help him move on while simultaneously setting you back a step. Pretty sad really. Well I didn't say much, just said ok and bye. I think maybe he was looking for a reaction, though I could be wrong.
blotter Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 If you really want to put the screws to him and get a little revenge go NO CONTACT and don't respond to his stupid breadcrumbs.
TaraMaiden Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Me and my ex broke up about a month ago. Though it may be longer. It's been a weird break up for me, emotionally I mean. At first I didn't feel very much, then I felt too much and was a complete mess, then I went back to the numbness stage then back to the emotional wreck stage! Then this morning I woke up to a text from him. It read this: 'Hi, I can't believe we haven't spoken for a month! Have you got a boyfriend yet? Sorry, I'm being too nosey, bye.' The boyfriend question shocked me but I didn't show that it bothered me, so I text back saying how quick the time has gone and how there is no boyfriend. We exchanged a few more friendly texts then he text back saying this: 'I'm not sure if texting is such a good idea. I'm kind of seeing someone but things aren't so great. I'm a d***k. Bye.' I really didn't know what to say so I sent a lame text back saying 'Hmm ok, sorry, bye' I have no idea why I said sorry! So what the hell was the point of him texting me! I don't know what to feel! One minute I'm sad then the next I'm angry! I mean it's like he text me just to tell me is seeing someone. What a child! Why would he do that?! So yeah, I feel like I've been kicked while I was down. Biggest mistake, right there. Bold, italic, underlined. it's not the texts that are stupid...... Learn, mark, move on and don't do it again!
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 Biggest mistake, right there. Bold, italic, underlined. it's not the texts that are stupid...... Learn, mark, move on and don't do it again! I won't! But if I hear from him again I might just say something like 'If you're texting me to tell me about a new girl then don't bother. It's of no interest to me' I can't believe he sank so low.
TaraMaiden Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 You're not getting it. Replying VALIDATES THEM. The fact you even reply means that you think enough of them to give them attention - and attention is what they want. They don't care what the kind of attention it is - it's attention, and you're paying. If you really want to drive the "Don't contact me at all" message - then don't contact them - at all. for any reason. 1
tryingtodiscoveranew Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I won't! But if I hear from him again I might just say something like 'If you're texting me to tell me about a new girl then don't bother. It's of no interest to me' I can't believe he sank so low. Tainted... He totally stills care about what you think and wants to make sure you still "care". So, try to enjoy the fact that you're on his mind, but you were able to escape a relationship with a selfish and immature person.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 Tainted... He totally stills care about what you think and wants to make sure you still "care". So, try to enjoy the fact that you're on his mind, but you were able to escape a relationship with a selfish and immature person. Hmm, I just think he done it to hurt me, which it did.
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