BBB08 Posted July 5, 2004 Posted July 5, 2004 Hi everyone i just need some help with my situation. I met this girl and we hit it off right away. Had a great time, she adored me, called all the time, enjoyed coming here from a different city by bus to hang out. 3 months in out of the blue she says " i dont think i can see you any more" i was hurt but said ok if that's what you want. 2 days later i get a message on my phone saying How sorry she is and she can't go on with out me and asked if we can go out again. I agreed. Things were good, then with about one month left of highschool she started acting distant saying she wasnt focusing on school and with one month left she now has to cram everything. I was supposed to go see her and she asked if i can come later, i agreed. She didnt end up calling me all day all the while i was waiting for the bus. I waited and called till 6 and nothing. So then i called her and left a message saying what was her problem and she's been acting strange we should go on a break. 2 days later i get a text saying " I was starting to fall in love and im afraid of commitment, among school and work it was to much im sorry" i understood this and i text her back saying " i understand , thanks for the good times, good luck" she text's me saying "we're you" as in was i in love. I was angry so didnt answer. The next day on the computer immedieatlly she says " you didnt answer" i was like why do you care " she's like i just want to know" i didnt say anything. So then she said she needs gto concentrate on school and that we should take a break till then. I was like i said that already. SO we talked during the break , kept it light. I saw her for the first time in a month she suggested we meet at an event. She brings one of her Girlfriends. And they both just ingnored me and talked on their cell phones all day pretending their so POPULAR (19 by the way) i'm 23. So i offered to drive her home to get her alone with out her friend and i said " i need some closure" i was waiting for the cheesy line " i dont know what i want " i want to be single" and she says well we can't go out right away again but let's take it a day at a time. So why won't she just say she doesnt want to go out with me anymore. She messages me last week i couldnt talk long i said have to go. Today after a week of NC i say hey what's up in a friendlly matter. And she was rude and sounded upset. She sends me a pic from her grad of herself. We were talking and i decided i'd phone her cell so we can talk in person just to catch up. She doesnt answer it. I say i just phoned you she goes " i dont have my phone on me" i go want me to call you house she says " i'm not at home, i'm going to nap" i say have a fun nap she sends a smiley and says I'll try. So my question is. She broke it off with me b4 and came back after 2 days. If she didnt want to have contact with me anymore why doesnt she just say it. And it didnt end in a bad way it was a mutual decision and now she acts so crabby to be when i just try to be freindlly. I mean if i had no feelings for an ex and she tried being friendlly i wouldnt be mean to her. Thanks for the feedback.
wishfullthinkig Posted July 5, 2004 Posted July 5, 2004 well first of all she 19 barelly out of high school. I think at first she was attracted to the whole "older boyfriend"deal. Being that young is really hard to figure out what u want in life and relationships.Dont think she even knows. Best advice to u is dont discard the relationship u have with her , but also dont put your life on hold because of her either. U should sit down with her and talk to her find out what she wants. If u feel uncomfortable doing it directly ask her "just because" At the end its u who has to make a decision whether or not this relationship is gonna work.And unfortunatelly thats always a hard decision. Good luck
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