Norse Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 First off my story if you guys don't remember http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/330903-i-want-but-i-cant-cope I'm looking for lots of input especially from Philosoraptor. I only managed to slightly break nc at week 2 mark when a friend of mine called her in order for me to find out if her number changed, and she answered and asked if it was me then hung up when my friend said his name(btw she doesn't know him). Today marks 3 weeks since BU. I don't know if it's a mental thing or what but every 7 days I seem to have intense scared/typical BU feelings. Anyway, I'm starting to feel like it all happened way too fast. Like she even asked me in the conversation prior to the BU one what was wrong with her, and I was all stupid and told her nothing. Now as you see in my other thread I have a whole list of her cons. I'm not going to bother contacting her yet(and possibly not at all), at this moment because she is enshrouded by family and friends as for the past 2-3 weeks shes been doing nothing but events with them, and contact by no means would be good while she had people around her, she wouldn't be able to talk anyway. But my friend is suggesting I talk to her, because he says I'm sitting around and moping or some word, and it would be better off to talk to her and see where I'm at, however I think unless I call or email her she's not going to respond. I think she would read an email, texts are easy to ignore, and actually she ignored my phone calls pretty good, but I don't know how her feelings are after 3 weeks of nc... What I would like her to know is that I always wanted to do things her way and make her happy, and eventually it took its toll on me, and I started expressing how doing things in her favor all of the time pushed me to a point where I couldn't do it, and I would make remarks and go about guilt trips and other stuff I guess so she could see how I felt, I couldn't just come out and say "enough, lets do things the way I want to for once." As she said she first time we broke up when she asked me back "I took advantage of your kindness" well in a manor she did again. Her other issue was that the relationship had too many problems, which were really times we got into it over things, and let me say in any relationship I've known of or been in there are arguments, fights, and disagreements. But she was set on telling me that she believed there was someone out there for her that would have less problems, and she was unhappy. She also kept going on about how people in relationships with such things as arguments disagreements, fights weren't happy. So if I did talk to her I would want her to know in an adult relationship there are arguments, fights, etc, all of which I tried to tell her before while she was angry/upset over an event of jealousy that happened a day before. But now I feel she may have calmed down and be sensible about things.
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