Paigey Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 So from past threads me and my on/off ex were together for 7 years, it finished 6 weeks ago, a lot's happened since then. We finished and he was messaging guys before then (long before :S) and on Tuesday I find he has a new gf, i'm not as devastated as i thought i'd be, but i am really miffed about how he could jump in so quickly. I think personally i'm doing okay, i'm working through things and trying to not focus all my energy on him, he's done me a favour at the end of it- I can finally see that. But i still don't get how he's just landed this new relationship. Am I being stupid? Like should it really bother me, could really do with any advice/experience lovershackers, know i'm better off without him but can't understand this new feeling!
CopingGal Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 You're lucky. Some people have to deal with their ex having a new partner within days...days, meaning less than one week. Consider yourself lucky it took your ex 6 weeks. It's heard. It feels like your ex forgot you so easily. I know the feeling. But what your ex does is your his business. Just concentrate on yourself and avoid getting info about the new relationship.
Tiera D Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 my ex gone out with the dick the very next day we broke up.. TD 1
LoveAnimals Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Hey Paigey, i understand your feelings especially after such a long relationship. Who knows if this is just a rebound or something else but you seem to be holding in pretty well. My friend says one of the hardest parts after a break up no matter how long the BU has been is seeing them with someone else. With time it wont hurt as much.
Mariana345 Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I'm so sorry for you, that you have to know that kind of stuff... As LoveAnimals says... It could be a rebound, (not that being that would make much diference in your heart, but still...) You have to keep moving forward, is the only thing to do I'm terrified to know something like that! I ask my friends to not tell me, and as much as I want to go and check his emails and facebook accounts (yeah, I know the passwords... but he gave them to me long time ago...) I rather keep wondering. I don´t want to know anymore things about him, if he is happy or not, if he is seeing someone... I don't want to know anything you should not having information about him anymore...
Author Paigey Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Thanks for your replies once again LShackers, really appreciate it And the one thing I realize more than ever is i really don't want to know any more, she may or may not be a rebound-but it's not what should matter I have to keep concentrating on me and how I am so God damn lucky that he's out of my life and thankful to him that it wasn't another 7 years down the line-although I admit i miss him like hell-but not who he is now just who i thought he was, but that's going to take some time. As i said thank you for keeping me in check and I know some people have had it worse than me so sorry if it seemed like I didn't take all the people who've had to deal with this straight away into consideration. 1
Mr Scorpio Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 You're lucky. Some people have to deal with their ex having a new partner within days...days, meaning less than one week. Consider yourself lucky it took your ex 6 weeks. It's heard. It feels like your ex forgot you so easily. I know the feeling. But what your ex does is your his business. Just concentrate on yourself and avoid getting info about the new relationship. Yeah. The first time my ex left me, she had replaced me within a week. The second time? She had replaced me before even dumping me. Cruel, that one. Now if I could only stop obsessing over her. 1
barese1 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 yeah I was replaced within a week from my first ex. people like this are not worth the time. It shows they just shut off or don't have the feelings for you that you have for them. rebound or not they're just idiots. My current ex just got out of a relationship when I met her and I didn't even think that I may be a rebound. RS are sh^t
Norse Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I totally feel you, my ex replaced me with the stunt double for the cgi troll in Lord of The Rings only three weeks after we broke up. We dated for almost two years. 2
Gulf-Delta Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 It's your exes desperate attempt to not be lonely. They're grabbing the nearest thing so they can either try to forget you, or not have to cope with the lonliness. Or both. These people who get into relationships so soon are fooling themselves because they never have time to process the breakup. And the poor saps they end up with are probably gonna end up hurt too, becuase they're being used. It's your ex looking for a crutch so they can forget.
Stanza Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Paigey, I hope you keep feeling like that, but it may hit you later but we'll be around for you
blondie 12345 Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 my ex gone out with the dick the very next day we broke up.. TD My ex dumped me and our son the day after he had a new girlfriend just shows how much our 10 year relationship meant
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