BetrayedH Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 So then over the next two years they only had sex twice? I know we don't have the full picture here but unless they truly still lived far away from each other, that seems really far fetched. You gotta understand that they only want youto know what you already know and nothing more. They might go a little further to offer you some trivial truth but it's rarely the whole truth. I eventually found out my wife had a threesome, screwed him on my couch...you wouldn't believe how far the rabbit hole can go. This was after 7 months of her professing new found honesty, marriage counseling, reading books out the ass. They're cowards and liars. Unless they fix that, you can't trust a damn thing.
Author ShakeyMouse Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 Wife and I talked and she finally admitted that part of her wants to stay married and part of her doesn't. I don't know what to say to that. One of my biggest fears was we would start reconciling and she would at some point say she doesn't want to stay married. We are 2mos out from me finding out about the affair, we've been to one session with the therapist and she says this. I feel so stupid, I feel like I've "lost" if that makes any sense. She says this is the first time be has been completely honest. She says there are things that happened prior to the affair that she didn't like and they weren't all my fault. I don't know how I feel about that. I think I've let her or I'm about to let her destroy me again. I need help.
TaraMaiden Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Wife and I talked and she finally admitted that part of her wants to stay married That would be the part with the house and bank account and part of her doesn't. That would be her and her lady-bits. I don't know what to say to that. You say - "Well tough honey, it's all or nothing. And if you have to think about it and decide, then it's 'nothing'. There's the door." One of my biggest fears was we would start reconciling and she would at some point say she doesn't want to stay married. That's not a fear. That's a dead-cert. If not now, very soon.... We are 2mos out from me finding out about the affair, we've been to one session with the therapist and she says this. I feel so stupid, I feel like I've "lost" if that makes any sense. She's tired of pretending, that's why. At first she went along with it, because she was a coward and couldn't really say what she wanted right from the outset. Now, it's easier, because you've had time to get used to it.... She says this is the first time be has been completely honest. She says there are things that happened prior to the affair that she didn't like and they weren't all my fault. I don't know how I feel about that. This means "I should never have married you in the first place." I think I've let her or I'm about to let her destroy me again. I need help. Listen: She can't 'destroy' you twice. the damage has already been done, these are just a series of after-shocks, but your life is already rubble. In order to rebuild it, you need to let 'Miss Earthquake' move on. You may well feel devastated - we all would after a three-year sham and a pack of lies - but life isn't over, and sometimes - rather like a gangrenous growth - you have to cut it off to heal it properly.
GLDheart Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 I'm not even really 100% sure I want to stay with her. My emotions are all over the place. And to be completely honest I don't know if I can get past this. My man please go no contact with this low life of a woman. There are better women out there waiting for you. Get her out of the way so that you can get to them. You should be respected by a respectful girl that has love in her heart not selfishness. Move on. Save yourself the future heartbreak your current wife is already planning for you. You can "love" her from a safe distance on this one.... As far away as possible. 1
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