Ex is going to talk to me ;/

[Thisisbs]

One of my good friends was talking to my ex. My ex had told her that she knows she played with me and she said she want's to be actual friends again.

 

I laughed at the fact that she even brought me up in any conversation

 

Ex said that she thinks of me as a brother.

 

( I guess you make out with your brother all the time! )

 

Apparently my ex said a lot more, but I told my friend that I won't believe or doubt anything unless I hear it from my ex, and she understood and said that my ex would probably talk to me in a few days, when all my friends are going to the beach (her included).

 

I'm not sure what I should do, I have been in LC for about 3 weeks, I respond when she asks me things, but that's it. I can't ignore her, I can't ignore anyone, I'm just that kind of person, so I had to go with LC.

 

Should I hear her out?

 

She obviously feels guilty, but I don't know how much an appology or w/e is gonna help me, I mean honestly, if someone tells you "Sorry, I didn't like you and I still don't want to be with you but you're like a brother and I want to be friends!" will that really make me feel better lol. I have an idea of what she might say, but I just don't know how I should respond to this.

 

Thanks in advance LS community <3

[ssmith3427]

It's mostly going to be hard to be friends if you still have feelings for her, I'm in the same situation. But, if you were friends before you got together there may be hope, just not right now. If you get in touch, you will have false hope, and that is no way onward to girls that do see you as a lover and not a brother. She probably does still care for you, but more in a platonic way, now if this is the case it is best to keep NC.

 

She is thinking about you, so let her think about you, if she wants you in her life bad enough she will do anything to contact you. So I would ignore any attempts of her contacting you, she did the breaking up, she can do the making up. Just make sure it is the right time for you, I'd make sure you have little feelings for her before you get in touch, you have to do what is best for you now, and breaking NC will likely lead to more pain, and that dreaded false hope.

 

I would ignore her attempts, stick to NC, don't reply, this way you can get some of your dignity back, and maybe even make her wonder that you have changed. Changed from someone who was always available to someone who is more of a mystery.

[Thisisbs]

Yeah we were really good friends before we got together. I don't think I can completely avoid this next contact though, since we are seeing eachother in a group of friends and I don't really want to bail from the occasion.