Kira2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Me and my ex-boyfriend was together for a year and 3 months. We broke up the day after prom because he was drinking and acting totally immature. The plan was for him to spend the night with me, but that didn't work out due to him being insecure. He accused me of cheating on him because a car pulled up in my drive way at 3 in the morning. He tried to drag me out the car so I threw his keys and went in the house. After I returned I asked him did he know where his keys were and he got all upset and started looking for his keys. I tried to help, but he called me a bitch and was just very disrespectful so I ran and locked his car doors so he couldn't get in his car. We started fussing and causing a scene. He ended up having to sleep in his car because he couldn't find his keys. Anyway to make a long story short, he met this girl a couple of days after we broke up. He wouldn't answer my calls, texts, or messages on Facebook. He didn't want anything to do with me. I just wouldn't give up though, I left voice mails on his phone crying hysterically, sending him long paragraphs in text messages and Facebook. Still he wouldn't respond. I was shocked! I mean I never thought I would see the day that he would put an end to our relationship. After about two weeks he started coming around and we would have sex occasionally even though he was in a relationship and had a whole girlfriend at home. I would cook for him, do all the things I did when we were a couple, thinking this was going to make him come back, but it never did. He would leave, go home to her, and wouldn't answer my text messages, phone calls, e-mail...nothing! He didn't even call me to wish me a happy birthday or attend my graduation which he said he was going to be there. Now he's locked up, he called me and wants me to be there. I write him, put money on his books, I even ordered him a food tray online. He even asked me to go pick up his check and pay his car note. I'm doing everything his girlfriend is suppose to be doing. I just don't know if I'm doing the right thing. I don't want to end up hurt in the long-run. Now he's telling me he loves me and that when he gets out we're going to sit down and have a long talk about our relationship and where I stand, but he's constantly lying about his relationship with this girl. I don't know what else to do. I've tried everything to make up all the wrong I have done. I asked myself, what would God do in a situation like this? Unlike my ex, I have a heart and I am willing to forgive people for inflicting pain on me. I try not to hold grudges, but I don't know....someone please give me some advice.
EmergenC Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 I'm so sorry for what you're going through now. If you could step back & see this with a little more perspective, this guy has you absolutely wrapped around his thumb. And your continued behavior this way is only showing him that he can have his cake & eat it. He's left you for another & you've continued supplying him with sex, emotional, monetary support. Why does he need to be in a relationship with you if he's getting all of these things from you now? He clearly doesn't respect you, his behavior is entirely selfish. If he doesn't respect you, he doesn't love you. Love starts with respect. 1
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