Haju0907 Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 (edited) I'm in my late 20's and my crush is in his early 40's. We work in the same building. He used to came to my work area and some what hitting on me. (even told other co-workers that he was trying to hit on me but I won't budge) Then, he started to ignored me for few weeks. After that every time he saw me he called me 'hey beautiful' Once he told me that he would take me out for dinner and stuff, but at the time I thought he was just joking around Then he started to ignored me again! Now I realized that I had thing for him too. We talk but nothing special. So I sent him an email couple of days ago, saying "you should take me out for a coffee sometime, XXX-XXX-XXXX" with my number. He hasn't call yet, how long should I wait, before let it go? Not sure if sent him an email was a good idea.... was this a mistake? Edited June 30, 2012 by Haju0907
ThingsAreComplicated Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 you don't want to hear it but yes it was a big mistake. I really can't believe you are in your late 20s...
Author Haju0907 Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 is he married? No he's not married, but divorced.
Author Haju0907 Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 you don't want to hear it but yes it was a big mistake. I really can't believe you are in your late 20s... ?? why are you saying that it was a mistake and what has anything to do with my age??
ThingsAreComplicated Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 because this situation is so basic that you should know for yourself how to handle it considering your age and it shows insecurity. anyway: #1: he was talking with co-workers about you before anything happened whatsoever -> really bad style #2: he calls you names -> means nothing #3: you talk but nothing special -> so it's purely based on looks I guess? #4: considering this starting position you THROW yourself at him by giving out your phone number and TELLING HIM to take you out. are you kidding? If you take the initiative, which is basically cool, you have to do it RIGHT. You should have asked him directly and proposed a place and time to meet for coffee. Then you would know what he is up to. Now things look like this: either he will never call you and go on like before which basically means he has absolutely no interest in you. Any decent man would call you after this. If he is clever he will more likely keep you in suspense for a while, throw in a breadcrumb here and there and use your obvious affection for him against you until he eventually get's you to sleep with him. But you can't distinguish anymore if he is interested in you as a person or a trophy. You should "let this go" right away... 1
RedRobin Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 He's probably forwarded your email to all his work buddies... Any other interactions with you will be similarly passed around... is my guess. I work around all men. Have my entire life. This is how alot of them act. Especially the recently divorced 40 somethings who are trying on their mo-jo with the youngin's. If he's smart, he will avoid work entanglements anyway. I'm sure it was enough for his ego that you asked.... Now, do your best to pick up the pieces of your ego and move on... and don't get sucked into this in the future. If he were genuinely interested, he would be acting much differently.
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