mortensorchid Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 I was having a chat with a friend of mine the other day. He was telling me he has two children (about 10 or 11) and they (both girls) are getting to "that age", and he is worried about their maturity and their eventual entrance into the dating world. Boys are out there, he said. I told him not to worry, because contrary to popular belief, it's girls who are doing the chasing and pressuring not boys. And this continues into adulthood. I was one of those girls/women at some point. When you are in the junior high school era when you are starting to mature is when you first feel the want or need to be "with someone". And the girls are the ones who are doing the chasing - be they calling, writing notes/emails, physically following others around, etc. This continued into the high school era. Granted, we are not mature enough in either of those periods of our lives, but I see this behavior continue until adulthood, that it is women who seem to do the chasing. Men seem to get used to women chasing after them, and they don't take you very seriously because of it. There was a moment or two when I realized that this behavior is not something new. Everyone's mom probably told their daughter at some point to let him chase you rather than the other way around. Old fashioned? Yes, it is. But after I have reached a certain point in my life, I realized that this is the right thing to do. It is hard to accept, but if the man does not call or attempt to contact you, then they are not interested. It wasn't something that you did or said, it's just not meant to be for whatever reason. So that's why I live by this new creedo - let him contact or chase me if he's interested. Lonely life? Yes, I have a lonely life, but it's better than being with someone who does not deserve you. 4
utterer of lies Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 you are just stupid Your eloquence is only matched by your charm. She has a point. Its better if the other person is doing the chasing, if the other person is more interested in you than the other way around, regardless of gender.
YellowShark Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 I find it incredibly hot when a woman shows interest. I like when they chase me. It only makes me want to chase them back. I do not like the "limp fish" approach. Where the guy does all the chasing. It's boring and shows me she is not an independent thinker and frankly, wants to be catered to hand and foot. Yawn. 1
jobaba Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 I was having a chat with a friend of mine the other day. He was telling me he has two children (about 10 or 11) and they (both girls) are getting to "that age", and he is worried about their maturity and their eventual entrance into the dating world. Boys are out there, he said. I told him not to worry, because contrary to popular belief, it's girls who are doing the chasing and pressuring not boys. And this continues into adulthood. I was one of those girls/women at some point. When you are in the junior high school era when you are starting to mature is when you first feel the want or need to be "with someone". And the girls are the ones who are doing the chasing - be they calling, writing notes/emails, physically following others around, etc. This continued into the high school era. Granted, we are not mature enough in either of those periods of our lives, but I see this behavior continue until adulthood, that it is women who seem to do the chasing. Men seem to get used to women chasing after them, and they don't take you very seriously because of it. There was a moment or two when I realized that this behavior is not something new. Everyone's mom probably told their daughter at some point to let him chase you rather than the other way around. Old fashioned? Yes, it is. But after I have reached a certain point in my life, I realized that this is the right thing to do. It is hard to accept, but if the man does not call or attempt to contact you, then they are not interested. It wasn't something that you did or said, it's just not meant to be for whatever reason. So that's why I live by this new creedo - let him contact or chase me if he's interested. Lonely life? Yes, I have a lonely life, but it's better than being with someone who does not deserve you. Halfway decent advice ... if you happen to be a physically attractive person. If not, then you have to chase. That simple.
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