kaylan Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 I always thought the notion that women matured faster than men was a huge myth. In dating we see the guy tends to be a couple years older...and people tend to wanna say its to due maturity. But in my experience, thats bull poopie. I feel its not a gender thing. Women my age have always seem largely as immature as the guys. For all the things women say that makes teen and 20 something guys immature...women do the same stuff. Going out to get drunk, sleeping around, not having a solid career plan just yet, lack of financial stability, even more partying lol. Oh and then theres video games...not make girls game...but Id say that women taking numerous pictures and spending so much time uploading them is equivalent. Women seem to social network as much as guys video game. In my opinion the only reason the whole "women mature faster" thing came to be is because of sex. Women PHYSICALLY mature faster than guys....so this is why younger women are courted by guys a couple of years older than them usually. Then they get fed the "youre mature for your age " line. I just thought Id make this thread because I ran into an old coworker this week, and the topic came up. And I cant stand when chicks my age try and act as if they are light years ahead of me. I know plenty of girls my age and even a little older who are immature as hell and dont have their act together. And personally, I dont find girls under 21 to be anywhere near my level mentally. They are still like kids with no life experience imo But times are a changing...It seems a lot of women are starting to chase the young bucks and telling them how mature they are as well. This 24 year old woman just got busted for hooking up with some 15 year old boy at the gym....while his mom was there! Jeez. Anyways....discuss.
Woggle Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Go to any club and you will see women who are just as immature as the men. The drunk women dancing on tables and literally throwing themselves at any cute guy are just the picture of maturity. The other night I saw a woman flashing cars passing by outside of a club.
Author kaylan Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 typo.....I meant to say "not many girls game" in my third paragraph.
RedRobin Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 I dunno. Just looking into my crystal ball... I get this very strange feeling that when you get to a certain age, Kaylan, you will start arguing the opposite... After you've spent the majority of your 20's and 30's.. and who knows... maybe your 40's... sowing your oats and want to start a family, you'll start to fall in line with the evo-psych crowd and starting pitching the value of dating younger.
ThaWholigan Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 I had a conversation about this with my old friends a while back. Girls do mature physically faster than we do, but generally neither gender automatically matures faster than the other in my opinion. It's more of an individual and cultural thing, as well as environment. Rather than gender. It's funny because in the majority of circles I move in, I usually come across as the mature, conservative one. That's simply because I can be reserved a lot. Girls aren't very reserved these days whenever I meet them . Perhaps the 1st few times I met the last girl I really liked, she came across very reserved - then as I got to know her I found out she was just as crazy as me . Every now and then I think about that girl......
USMCHokie Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 I had a conversation about this with my old friends a while back. Girls do mature physically faster than we do, but generally neither gender automatically matures faster than the other in my opinion. It's more of an individual and cultural thing, as well as environment. Rather than gender. Yep, I agree, it's too difficult to say conclusively that it has anything to do with gender. It varies based on the individual and the way they grew up and live now. Of course that won't stop anyone from arguing that the other gender is less mature based on one person they met... 1
Author kaylan Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 (edited) I dunno. Just looking into my crystal ball... I get this very strange feeling that when you get to a certain age, Kaylan, you will start arguing the opposite... After you've spent the majority of your 20's and 30's.. and who knows... maybe your 40's... sowing your oats and want to start a family, you'll start to fall in line with the evo-psych crowd and starting pitching the value of dating younger. Ive always said evo-psych is BS. And I like women my own age. I havent even truly sown any oats yet lol. And I wont be wasting my 30s on chasing women. Thats the decade for career and family. I couldnt ever date a chick more than 4 or 5 years outside of my age. And I much prefer her to be within 3 years. As it stands right now, my dating range is 22 to 28 for my 25 years of life. In my 40s it will be similar. No way will I be going after really young chicks. I like someone whos on my level in terms of life experience. Edited June 30, 2012 by kaylan 1
mortensorchid Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Funny, I was just talking about this with someone the other day. I think that is true that women mature faster than men do physically. Unfortunately due to all the additives in foods, girls are getting their periods as young as age 9 or 10 now (when I remember in my day there were one or two who got their periods a year before I did, because I went into the 6th grade without and got it in the middle of the year). As to emotional maturity ... That's another issue.
angie2443 Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 I agree. I don't see anything bad about a twenty year old acting like a typical twenty year old, though. I get annoyed at older people (I'm older myself) who roll their eyes when they see very young people bieng silly, making mistakes typical of a twentysomething person, and naive in that way that many young people are. I also get disgusted at older people trying to take advantage (hook up) of younger people by telling the younger person that they are mature beyond their years. I don't care if the older person is a man or woman, it's disgusting regardless.
ThaWholigan Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Funny, I was just talking about this with someone the other day. I think that is true that women mature faster than men do physically. Unfortunately due to all the additives in foods, girls are getting their periods as young as age 9 or 10 now (when I remember in my day there were one or two who got their periods a year before I did, because I went into the 6th grade without and got it in the middle of the year). As to emotional maturity ... That's another issue. I agree, girls are hitting puberty way earlier now, it's very troubling to me. I was driving with my friend recently and I saw a girl from behind, I was like ":love:". When we drove past and I saw her face, I was like ":eek: she can't be older than 14!!!". They look too old IMO. Don't look like girls. Reminds me of when I was chatted up by a girl from Liverpool when I was 20, and she turned out to be 14. I was like "Love, I'm a LOT older than you". Have always been more into girls my own age, no younger than 20 for me currently.
Sid6.7 Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 This myth was perpetuated by women. Tell a lie enough and people become to accept it as truth. What we don't hear is what is the truth. Women will never be able to tell Men what maturity means in a nutshell. It won't happen. The reason for that is this pesky thing called personalities. What one female may think is immature another might think is completely mature. Unless, some female here wants to entertain us and tell us what constitutes maturity for the male gender.
angie2443 Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Unfortunately due to all the additives in foods, girls are getting their periods as young as age 9 or 10 now . I believe the main theory behind this is that children weigh more now than they did in the past. It takes a certain amount of body fat to start the process that leads to a girls menarche.
mesmerized Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 I completely agree that I don't think women necessarily mature faster than men but they are (and always have been) under a lot of pressure to DO SO! Why? because even though we live longer than men, our lives seem to be considered worthy to men/society for a much shorter time. Just look at yourself, when you refer to yourself you say you're "only 25" so you are allowed to be young and dumb. Whereas a woman at 25 is pressured to become mature and go after a family, husband and all the responsibilities that come with it. We've always been expected to act more mature for our age, at any age, while men are ok to be immature because "boys will be boys". Only recently we've realized that women also have the same desires as men (still nor fully digested yet by most people) and we tolerate more immaturity from younger women. That's another reason why it sucks so much to be a woman in this world.
RedRobin Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Ive always said evo-psych is BS. And I like women my own age. I havent even truly sown any oats yet lol. And I wont be wasting my 30s on chasing women. Thats the decade for career and family. I couldnt ever date a chick more than 4 or 5 years outside of my age. And I much prefer her to be within 3 years. As it stands right now, my dating range is 22 to 28 for my 25 years of life. In my 40s it will be similar. No way will I be going after really young chicks. I like someone whos on my level in terms of life experience. My 'predictions' are seldom totally off-base... It is a blessing and a curse. But feel free to prove me wrong I hope you do. Regarding maturity... The argument reminds me of the definition of 'intelligence'. Human intelligence is measured by speaking ability, socialization, and ability to use tools to make useful objects. Research has determined that many animals have intelligence or sensory awareness that far surpasses humans in some respects. So it is all a matter of interpretation... and what 'bar' is used as a measure.
Feelsgoodman Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 But in my experience, thats bull poopie. I feel its not a gender thing. Women my age have always seem largely as immature as the guys. For all the things women say that makes teen and 20 something guys immature...women do the same stuff. I think you are confused. When people say women mature faster, they are talking about physical/sexual maturation (in other words, women age faster). Cognitive maturation is a totally different matter...nowadays, many women never get past the mental age of 16.
Sid6.7 Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Regarding maturity... The argument reminds me of the definition of 'intelligence'. Human intelligence is measured by speaking ability, socialization, and ability to use tools to make useful objects. That argument reminds me of women mature faster than Men. Intelligence and maturity are not one in the same nor are they interchangeable.
RedRobin Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 That argument reminds me of women mature faster than Men. Intelligence and maturity are not one in the same nor are they interchangeable. Do us all a favor and join the other two 'Sids' on the Planet BS. K?
Sid6.7 Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Do us all a favor and join the other two 'Sids' on the Planet BS. K? Who is the mature one here?
seachangeoflove Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Tell a lie enough and people become to accept it as truth. kind of like your posts? oh wait...no one is believing it 1
Sid6.7 Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 kind of like your posts? oh wait...no one is believing it According to who?
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