WWDDFD Posted July 4, 2004 Posted July 4, 2004 My mind is swimming, and I'm in a situation that I have no idea how to handle. Recently, I spent 9 months obsessing over a psychotic woman who played games with me only to boost her own ego; and despite all the signs pointing towards so, I ignored them and continued to play her game until I finally just gave up two weeks ago. Since then, something incredible has happened. I met a girl. She's very young still; 6 years younger than me in fact, just turned 18. I approached her (through myspace.com, over the internet )because she seemed to be having similar problems to me and I thought maybe I could have someone to talk to. Within minutes we were spewing our entire life stories to each other, something neither of us has ever done to anyone before; holding back nothing. And we just kept talking and talking and talking; my chat logs with her in 2 weeks are larger than everyone's but my two best friends, whom I've been talking to for 5 years. On the telephone we talk until our batteries die, and even if there's nothing to talk about we just sit there listening to each other breathing for minutes at a time, neither one of us uncomfortable with the silence. She's all I ever think about, I'm all she ever thinks about. I have told her every last detail of my life and she has told me hers. We have absolutely no secrets from each other. And a few days ago she said she loved me. I've never felt this way about anyone in my entire life before, and I said I loved her back, and now we can't stop saying it to each other. We still haven't actually met yet, but we're planning on it any day now as soon as transportation options become viable. She's already talked about marraige with me (years down the road, of course, but she says that she thinks there's probably an 80% chance I'm the guy for her). I feel so right with her. I know this sounds insane, and with anyone else, warning bells would be going off in my head... but with her this just feels so right. Am I in love? At first I was afraid I was just finding someone to replace the woman who was playing games with me. Then I was afraid that maybe I'm only interested in her because she's so beautiful and very sexually open-minded. Should I slow things down a bit? I'm afraid of myself =( She's been hurt by people before and hurting her is the absolute last thing I would ever want to do. She said to me last night... "I love you because you make me happy, I love you because you've got this personality that just pulls me to you. I think about you all the time, I dream of you. You are always on my mind. I can't wait to be with you.. and you are the first person I've ever really thought about having a future with, so I love you. I love you for being so nice and sweet to me. I love you for caring. I love you for being everything I need."
StartingAgain Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 You've just come out of a bad relationship and I mean just come out. You have been pouring your heart out to a woman on line and chatting on the phone. How in the world can the two of you be professing love? This is probably the false love that one feels when one has been having very intimate conversations with another. This is isn't to say that it won't won day grow into real love. But and this is an importatn but. You don't really know this woman, nor she you. Yet here she is talking about love. Two weeks of impersonal communication and she's talking about a future? This should scare you to death and make you think it's time to back off a bit. Besides, you are 25 and she is 18. You aren't the best age match.
Meet her Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 It could be rebound, but it could also be love. Meet her, see where it goes, but don't say anything you can't take back until you spend some time with her in person. As for the age difference, 18 is young, and there are probably a lot of experiences that she has not had yet, that go towards making a person who they are, but age is not really important. If two people are really into each other, all of those kinds of differences become irrelevant. Good luck.
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