Quest4_TheLost Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 Ok so this guy and I have been talking for for 4 months or so.. We have set up times to go out. Once I wasn't feeling well. The other 2 times I never hear from him on the day that we are suppose to meet up. No I didn't make the effort to contact him, cause well. A guy isn't worth my time unless he shows he is worth my time. Anyway.. I know he is very busy with school work etc. Which is fine and dandy. But I think he is a bit to busy for a reltaionship. THe last month we didn't talk at all he said he lost his phone. I was dating someone else and really didn't care. He is txting me again and like making comments about how he wants a relationship. He has made it pretty cut and dry.. I really hate being preassured in these sitatuions. I don't know if I want a relationship at this point and I'm pretty sure I'm not interested in a guy that is to busy to have time for himself let alone for me. I would like to be friends could always use another friend. Everytime I say we'll see what happends or he starts flirting with me I try to avoid it. He as also tried to set up the first date at his apartment he is a cheif and wants to cook for me. I could give a dingy doo! I don't go to first dates at someones house. I met him online. I think thats pretty much the back story. At this point I can't be sure if he is looking for just sex or really does want a relationship. But I don't want anything at all.. Is there a nice way to say I really don't want a relationship right now??
Author Quest4_TheLost Posted June 29, 2012 Author Posted June 29, 2012 I still don't mind meeting him or what not.. I just don't want to string him along or lead him into thinking there is a possibility of somthing when I really don't think there is.
YellowShark Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 First thing is don't go to his place. Then you're trapped. Meet him for a coffee. Not a drink. A coffee. Spend 20-30 minutes even seeing if there even is chemistry. Cooking diner for you is a 4th or 5th date thing. Also tell him flat out at the coffee date you're not sure about dating anyone right now. But he seems nice and you wanted to meet. If he is gracious and says "cool," then he's a nice guy. If he gets all weird and pushy. Forget him. Good luck. 2
Author Quest4_TheLost Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 Thanx yellowshark.. Yea I wasn't going to his house.. We were planning to meet for dinner though since were both foodies.. But everytime the date gets cancled and he tries to replan it. His first suggestion is for me to go to his place. Its always the same request too. Last week he wanted to get together thursday for dinner. But again thursday came and no word from him. Then today he msged me asking me again if I'm free next week and when. He knows my schedule is pretty open atm and its his schedule that we are working around.. At this point I am starting to get really annoyed this will be the 5th time he has tried to schedule somthing and failed to do so. Since I am only looking for friendship I have obviously put it off. But right there is yet another reason I have lost intrest in him completley!
YellowShark Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Last week he wanted to get together thursday for dinner. But again thursday came and no word from him. Huh? He was the person who made the original plan. And then Thursday came and went without a word from him? I would be turned off. Then today he msged me asking me again if I'm free next week and when. He knows my schedule is pretty open atm and its his schedule that we are working around.. At this point I am starting to get really annoyed this will be the 5th time he has tried to schedule somthing and failed to do so. 5 times? Uhhhh.. Its like baseball. 3 strikes.. you're out. Since I am only looking for friendship I have obviously put it off. But right there is yet another reason I have lost intrest in him completley! Ya. Bail. There's other "Foodies" out there. 1
writergal Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Yah, YellowShark has great advice. This guy had 5 chances to see you and backed out at the last minute each time. Huge red flags. Huge. Since you met him through online dating I'm sure you'll have no problem finding more foodies who won't cancel a date with you. I wonder if anyone here has written a thread that's against online dating. I may have to start one. 2
Author Quest4_TheLost Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 OMG!! If you write a thread about online dating I will def be there to share my horror stories lmao.. Agreed yellowshark and thanx again for the replies guys! In all reality even as a friend I would want someone thats reliable lol.. Perhaps he keeps doing it because he is still aiming to try to get me to his place! So txts today was.. When do you want to hang out? Me: Mm I've told you on a few occasions to set up a day and time and where you want to meet.. NO REPLY!! LOLZ Next time he txts there shall be no response! 1
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