My ex told me she is pregnant with her rebounds baby! Devestated!

[lovelost24]

I mean I've read stories on here but nothing like mine! How the hell am I suppose to move on when the girl I love is having another guys baby! She broke up with me and admitted that she still loves me and misses me but now she is pregnant! This was suppose to be our dream we were suppose to start a family together! Ugh I Wish I could just disappear for the next few year until this is all over! Can anyone help? How am I suppose to move on!

[Balzac]

Best you ask yourself was this a 1% method failure rate or was this careless enemy action? It sounds like you've drunk from the well, how is it you avoided a pregnancy?

 

I feel your pain but I'd say you dodged a bullet. Moving on shoukd be your goal now. Unless you're eager to enter the realm of raising another man's child.

[Eddie Edirol]

You can disappear. STOP TALKING TO HER. Nothing is a better deterrent from talking to an ex like pregnancy from another guy. Use that to stay away from her.

[Chi townD]

Dude, she made the choice to run off and hook up with someone else. That's her decision. She made that choice and now she will be linked to this guy for the rest of her life.

 

She had her chance with you. She threw it away. She could have been with you. She threw it away. She had a chance to work things out with you. She threw it away. She took this direction with her life. These are the decisions she made.

 

And you don't have to live by her decisions or her mistakes.

[Balzac]

I must say that you do sound devastated. How long was the estrangement? Were you dating or sexually active with other women?

You have not shared with us her demeanor during her announcement.

 

Talk on and folks here will help you to work this through to moving on.

[LoveAnimals]

Wow thats got to hurt..Move on from her..

[blotter]

How are you supposed to move on? What's left to do but move on? This relationship is deader than a doornail.

[spicolli]

I dated a girl for five years in college. I definitely thought I was going to marry her. As a matter of fact, I "knew" it. After college when were trying to make things work, as we lived a few hours apart, our relationship started to crumble. But it did not stop her from stringing me a lone and making me believe it was going to work, until one day she told me it was over. A few weeks later she told me she had a new boyfriend. 6 months later she requests me on facebook, I politely decline. She goes off on how immature I am for that, after all we have been through (allshe put me through is more like it ). Ecentually she tells me the reason she requested me is so that i can hear from her, that she is pregnant.

I was CRUSHED. This was my dream, not theirs, and it was the worst nightmare I had experienced (at the time). But as weeks and months went on, I realized that this was definitely for the best. We were not on the same page as potential parents etc. Then when I got into my most recent relationship, she would contct me Non stop (and it wasn't about the weather or sports), all while married nontheless! It made me so grateful I did not marry this girl, no matter how much I loved her.

Eventually you will clear from this fog (do not attempt to rush this process) and whether you find another love, or remain single, it doesnt negate the fact that you are genuinely better off!

Best of luck dude.

[Balzac]

Never underestimate the desire for misery to seek company. The OP may be in a prime position to perform the "emotional tampon" trick for this ex. To support her during this pregnancy. Miserable people put forth vast efforts to have a back up man waiting in the wings.

[lovelost24]

@Spice your story is just like mine she texted me saying I miss you then calls me and says I'm pregnant while I'm going no contant on her for a month the only reason we didnt work out is because of the distance we were deeply In love that's why this is the worst possible news that I can here! But how we're you feeling when u first heard the news? I mean I know she rather have the kid with me but it just couldn't happen.

[spicolli]

I remember exactly how I felt. I remember it like yesterday. (It was about four years ago) I remember laying in bed staring at the wall, for hours. With the most empty lonely feeling in the world absolutely encompassing me. I remember feeling I would never ever ever get over it. I remember being borderline suicidal. I remember feeling like this guy is sooo much better than me.

I also remember being desperate, kissing her ass, offering to raise the child with her if things didn't work out with the "rebound." I also remember waking up 8 months later brushing my teeth, looking in the mirror and telling myself, its over TODAY. Her having a baby with someone so quickly after a 5 year relationship, had little to nothing to do with me. It was a character flaw of hers. Not mine. Was a perfect? Hellllll no, but someone who would do this to me is not worth my perfection. Then I remember telling myself

The world will now recognize my worth, whether she did or did not.

Fast forward a few months and she was calling me, it wasn't going to work with the baby daddy, there she was in her parents basement alone, while I was out partying on a yacht. The guy she left for greener pastures was there to console her I wasn't rude, I let her know what an amzing blessing a child was, and she needed to recognize it as such. What a bullet I dodged. I think you did too.

You're not alone my friend. I am in the hospital after minor surgery right now, ad will check my phone often if you need someone to talk to.

Hang in there!

[Samilia]

I think Spicolli's post is going to help you out of the hole. I can't imagine how devastated you must be right now, I'm sorry this is happening to you

[YellowShark]

I mean I've read stories on here but nothing like mine! How the hell am I suppose to move on when the girl I love is having another guys baby!

 

Easy. You love who she *was.* Not who she *is*. Move on.

 

 

She broke up with me and admitted that she still loves me and misses me but now she is pregnant!

 

Ahhh... Earth to lovelost. She dumped you, and then went and banged another guy and got preggo almost right away. You cant make someone else love you. Let go. And frankly dude, her actions do not match her lies words. She has a real weird way of showing "love."

 

This was suppose to be our dream we were suppose to start a family together!

 

Well I wanted to win the lottery. But I didn't. So life has to go on. Think about it. You can leave the toilet seat up. Hog the remote. Leave your underware on the floor. Have beer in the fridge and no vegetables. Bring any chick home from the bar and bang her. Save a TON of $$$ not supporting the EX girlfriend and her "baby daddy's love child."

[forgottenangel99]

Poor guy, wish her well and look to the next well ending scenario.....

 

Hope you feel better, she's not worth you feeling anything less than happy to be rid of her and her crap!!!

[lovelost24]

@spice thank you do much for your story that has helped me realize that it's very possible to overcome how I'm feeling, I wouldn't say I'm suicidal like you felt but I feel so empty and alone and feel like she will never be replaced knowing that it's almost absolutely over. I never thought she would actually do this to me! She knows how much I cared for her! But I'm sure I'll look back on this in time and realize it was all for the better, are you and your ex still in contact? Are you completely over her? What happend with her?

[spicolli]

Well, the first thing you need to acknowledge, is that she did not do anything to you. There was no malice or vendetta in her getting pregnant, she may have slept with this man to get back at you, but I sure doubt she intentionally got pregnant. And unfortunately now, she has brought an innocent child into this world, that like so many others, she isn't prepred for. Yes I am completely over her, because although it took forever, she is so unworthy of any emotion, negative or positive of mine. I focused too much on her outer beauty, and ignored what an ugly monster lay beneath.

I don't keep in contact with her, because I was disgusted with how she would contact me when I was in my most recent relationship. She thought I would always be on her little line, and genuinely mistook my kindness for weakness. And again mind you SHE IS NOW MARRIED. Fact is you can't change peiple like this, and you're better off.

How old are you? How long was this relationship? I'm sure this is in your post but its late where I am, and I'm in a hospital bed and I'm genuinely exhausted.

It really doesn't matter how long it took me to get over her, bc we are different people, with different circumstances, don't waste your on this girl any longer. I did and it just prolonged my healing tenfold.

And please stop referring to me as spice. Spicolli has no E, and isn't terribly difficuly to type.

[gant29]

Just don't understand the negativity and attitude when it's not needed. Your comment about it being "not difficult to type" is indeed snarky and I don't think the other poster deserved that comment from you. -Especially after he thanked you for you input on his relationship. It was probably none of my business, I probably shouldn't have typed anything. I am sorry you are in the hospital, I just got out of the hospital myself last week. I hope you feel better.

[Sugarkane]

I'm sorry for your loss OP. But it doesn't bode well when you get yourself pregnant by someone you barely know. That's her problem, no one held a gun to her head. If I did what your ex did and got myself pregnant by a rebound, my own patents would call me a slut/ whore, If I did something like that. At least you weren't stupid enough to have a child with a stranger.

[whoknows11]

No question, id say move on. Even if shes just lying by any chance, id still leave. I personally believe once an ex finds someone else, flirts or does anything with a guy, you should just move on and not think twice or even take them back. Itll sit in your mind if you two got back together. Youll be thinking things like, " does she like or still want them",will it happen again, things like that. Itd be so hard to trust the person, which isnt a good thing. You could find yourself getting jealous and insecure and possibly just trying hard to one up the other guys and making sure you do what you can to try and prevent it. Its not under your control. In the end of it all, youl be so stressed, worried and miserable. Especially if they leave again.

[Eddie Edirol]

I never thought she would actually do this to me! She knows how much I cared for her!

 

OP She doesnt care about how you care for her, because she moved on from you, probably isnt really thinking about you in the way she used to, and is only thinking about the baby daddy. So she didnt do it to you, she did it for her. The only thing she is doing to you is leading you on so you will be a backup, to be there for her to vent to you when the baby daddy doesnt want to hear it. So rid yourself of her, dont talk to her ever again, and when you learn how both of you contributed to this relationship not working out, use that info for the next relationship youre in. And listen to Spicolli.