Good article on why women dont favor short men

[irc333]

 

That said, I don't like being "bigger" than a guy. If he's short, then I want him a little... round. A short guy is fine, but a short skinny guy makes me feel fat. And being fat, or "bigger" makes it difficult for me to feel feminine.

 

 

Funny you mentioned that, I had emailed some chunkier/heavier shaped women thinking that I would get a response, because I thought women were humbled by their own appearances when it came to weight. And later on, I had found out overweight women can have a problem with shorter, leaner men in the same fashion a tall woman would a problem dating a shorter guy.

 

Same still applies even HORIZONTALLY. LOL

[Algermas]

What I don't get is this....like how some short petite women, let's say 5'3" and UNDER, will only date men 6' or taller.

 

Wouldn't man that's taller than HER be ENOUGH? I figured short women would have it easy and let's say for the sake of biological instinct of wanting to feel safe, I figured she'd be "safe" with men of most heights.

 

Like a woman that's 5'3" should feel "safe" with a man that's 5'8".

 

They do , but the feeling grows exponentially the taller the guy is. As a 6'8" broad shouldered guy who has dated plenty of <5' girls I can tell you they go absolutely insane just because of how much bigger you are.

[udolipixie]

What I don't get is this....like how some short petite women, let's say 5'3" and UNDER, will only date men 6' or taller.

 

Wouldn't man that's taller than HER be ENOUGH? I figured short women would have it easy and let's say for the sake of biological instinct of wanting to feel safe, I figured she'd be "safe" with men of most heights.

 

Like a woman that's 5'3" should feel "safe" with a man that's 5'8".

 

Perhaps think of it as how some 30s+ guys will only date gals 10-20 years younger than them. A gal younger than him isn't enough rather they likely find a attractiveness in a certain age range no different to me than those gals finding a guy of a certain height attractive not just a guy taller than her. For the sake of biological instinct to feel safe I figure she'd feel safer with guys the taller he is. A 5'3'' gal should feel safe with a 5'8'' guy and likely feels safer or safest with a taller guy.

[USMCHokie]

Jesus, why can't we just all accept that jealousy runs amok...? Short guys will be jealous of tall guys and throw all this nonsense out to knock the tall guys back down to the their level (e.g., tall guys have no personality!). And then older women will be jealous of younger women and throw all this nonsense out to trash younger girls (e.g., younger women are all gold diggers and whores!).

 

It's so evident sometimes...

[january2011]

I've dated a range of guys of varying heights. I found that there is such a thing as too tall as much as there is such a thing as too short.

 

Having said that, one of the shortest guys I dated and the tallest guy I dated were both "strong." Interestingly, the shorter guy was able to prove it, having been in dangerous/emergency situations as part of his job. The tallest guy only exhibited the "promise of strength" based on his physical appearance.

[Ruby Slippers]

I have had similar experiences to Iris. In my experience, it's usually men who make more of an issue about height - and even the taller guys do. I'm 5'10" and have dated guys from 5'9" to 6'4". I would date shorter guys, but I think most of those guys assume I wouldn't be interested in them, which isn't true. With one 5'9" guy, I never even noticed the slight height difference, because he was totally confident and never made an issue of it at all. In the beginning, he made some comment about loving my long legs, and that was that.

 

Even the guy I'm dating now, who is 6', has commented on it several times. Actually, he put 5'10" on his dating profile, and on our first date, I told him he looked taller than 5'10". He said yeah, he likes to under-promise and over-deliver. On our first date, he said, "I've never dated a taller girl. This is gonna be good." And I'm thinking - what does that mean? Then on our 3rd date, I was wearing boots with 2-inch heels, so I was his height. He commented on us being at the same height, and said, "That's OK - I don't need to tower over you." Interesting words, because my last boyfriend, who was also 6', got close to me one day, pushed himself up on his tippy-toes, and said, "I wish I could tower over you." Again, I'm like, OK, whatever, dude!

 

So yeah, in my experience, men make a much bigger deal of this than I do. It's kind of like penis size. Guys think we care WAY more than most of us do.

[MrCastle]

I don't subscribe to this idea a few women put forward in here that men are more hung up on height than women.

 

I think that is absolutely false.

 

I think if you went out in public and polled men and asked if they would date/sleep with a taller woman and asked women if they would date/sleep with a shorter man, the results would kill that idea.

[ThaWholigan]

I don't subscribe to this idea a few women put forward in here that men are more hung up on height than women.

 

I think that is absolutely false.

 

I think if you went out in public and polled men and asked if they would date/sleep with a taller woman and asked women if they would date/sleep with a shorter man, the results would kill that idea.

I disagree. Nearly every short guy I know does well with women. Maybe this is more of a phenomenon with OLD, and some of the more vocal women among you, but generally, I've never known a guys height to be a dealbreaker with a lot of women - at least not until I came onto the internet.

 

And I'm tall 6 foot 3, dark and handsome (), and my brother is short 5 foot 6, stocky and red (yeah, he's good looking too I suppose ). Yet, I'm the virgin and he's the ladies man .

 

It's not the height.

[sid3]

I disagree. Nearly every short guy I know does well with women. Maybe this is more of a phenomenon with OLD, and some of the more vocal women among you, but generally, I've never known a guys height to be a dealbreaker with a lot of women - at least not until I came onto the internet.

 

And I'm tall 6 foot 3, dark and handsome (), and my brother is short 5 foot 6, stocky and red (yeah, he's good looking too I suppose ). Yet, I'm the virgin and he's the ladies man .

 

It's not the height.

 

No its not the height, he's out and about going after what he wants and you're spending massive amounts of time posting on LS. I'm convinced you'd do quite well with the ladys if you didn't have a LS addiction. Hey, to each their own I guess, just like to mention though, you'll never be 23 again, just saying.

[MrCastle]

I disagree. Nearly every short guy I know does well with women. Maybe this is more of a phenomenon with OLD, and some of the more vocal women among you, but generally, I've never known a guys height to be a dealbreaker with a lot of women - at least not until I came onto the internet.

 

And I'm tall 6 foot 3, dark and handsome (), and my brother is short 5 foot 6, stocky and red (yeah, he's good looking too I suppose ). Yet, I'm the virgin and he's the ladies man .

 

It's not the height.

 

No, height is not the be all end all, but if you had a short guy dating a tall woman, I think the woman would struggle with it more.

 

Feeling awkward wearing heels, towering over her man, not feeling feminine, etc.

 

I don't think the guy would care much, he may even like the idea of conquering a woman taller than he is.

 

Judging by online dating and the bulk of responses any time this topic comes up on here reinforces my belief.

[ThaWholigan]

No its not the height, he's out and about going after what he wants and you're spending massive amounts of time posting on LS. I'm convinced you'd do quite well with the ladys if you didn't have a LS addiction. Hey, to each their own I guess, just like to mention though, you'll never be 23 again, just saying.

Don't worry about me, I get out more than enough. Business stuff permitting I'll probably be here less anyway.

[iris219]

I don't subscribe to this idea a few women put forward in here that men are more hung up on height than women.

 

I think that is absolutely false.

 

I think if you went out in public and polled men and asked if they would date/sleep with a taller woman and asked women if they would date/sleep with a shorter man, the results would kill that idea.

 

Some guys would date a woman taller than themselves. Many wouldn’t. And, yeah, most guys would sleep with her--I agree with you there. While they would date her, they would also wish she was shorter. No thanks. I’d rather be with a guy who didn’t feel like he was settling for me.

 

I dated a guy who was 5’6” (maybe 5’5”) and he admitted the height difference made him uncomfortable. (I was OK with it, except that guys in public sometimes made rude comments to me—not to him. They’d wait until he had walked up the bar or something and ask me why such a tall, pretty girl was dating such a short guy.) Another guy who was probably 5’10” complained one night when I wore heels, which I rarely do. So, if you polled me, I’d have to say that I’m apprehensive about dating a guy shorter than myself, but it’s not because I find his height a turn-off.

 

Taller guys like that I’m tall. My last two exes are tall. My most recent ex said he’d have a hard time dating anyone under 5’7” after dating me because he liked my height so much. My ex before him always said my height made him feel like he was dating a supermodel. I went on few dates with a guy in Nov. who was very tall and he said my height was perfect. I'll stick with guys (typically tall ones) who find my height attractive, not just something they are willing to deal with or don't like very much.

[sid3]

Some guys would date a woman taller than themselves. Many wouldn’t. And, yeah, most guys would sleep with her--I agree with you there. While they would date her, they would also wish she was shorter. No thanks. I’d rather be with a guy who didn’t feel like he was settling for me.

 

I dated a guy who was 5’6” (maybe 5’5”) and he admitted the height difference made him uncomfortable. (I was OK with it, except that guys in public sometimes made rude comments to me—not to him. They’d wait until he had walked up the bar or something and ask me why such a tall, pretty girl was dating such a short guy.) Another guy who was probably 5’10” complained one night when I wore heels, which I rarely do. So, if you polled me, I’d have to say that I’m apprehensive about dating a guy shorter than myself, but it’s not because I find his height a turn-off.

 

Taller guys like that I’m tall. My last two exes are tall. My most recent ex said he’d have a hard time dating anyone under 5’7” after dating me because he liked my height so much. My ex before him always said my height made him feel like he was dating a supermodel. I went on few dates with a guy in Nov. who was very tall and he said my height was perfect. I'll stick with guys (typically tall ones) who find my height attractive, not just something they are willing to deal with or don't like very much.

 

So how tall are you?

[threebyfate]

I can tell you why.

 

If there were numerous men coming on here saying things like...

 

"I just like to be with a slim woman. It makes me feel like a man knowing that a slim woman is by my side. That I can protect her. Fat women make me feel there's nothing to protect."

 

That wouldn't go over so well here.

 

But anyway, overweight women just have to get over it, realize people are shallow and move on.

 

As do short men.

Fail.

1. LS has its own little posse of men who hate overweight women to the degree of anorexic expectations.
   
2. This thread is about short men.
   

[iris219]

So how tall are you?

 

I already stated that I'm 5'9" (a smidge under actually).

 

I don't reject guys for being too short because guys shorter than me never approach me. Guys my height and taller will, but never shorter. I already knew the guy who I dated who was 5'6". He admitted that he wouldn't have approached me if he didn't know me and saw me out in public.

[NYC-BigKat]

This is so bad 'cause I'm short. I'm around 5'9 I think & I already got lots of problems getting girls to like me at all .

[MrCastle]

I already stated that I'm 5'9" (a smidge under actually).

 

I don't reject guys for being too short because guys shorter than me never approach me. Guys my height and taller will, but never shorter. I already knew the guy who I dated who was 5'6". He admitted that he wouldn't have approached me if he didn't know me and saw me out in public.

 

We got like a chicken and egg thing going on here huh?

 

Men who don't approach tall women don't approach them not because they're not attracted to them; but rather because they think they have no chance

 

Somewhere down the line, they got in their head that women prefer taller men.

 

Now where would they get that idea?

[sid3]

I already stated that I'm 5'9" (a smidge under actually).

 

I don't reject guys for being too short because guys shorter than me never approach me. Guys my height and taller will, but never shorter. I already knew the guy who I dated who was 5'6". He admitted that he wouldn't have approached me if he didn't know me and saw me out in public.

 

Not sure what a smidge is exactly, so you're 5'8" and something. Nice never the less as 5'7"- 5'9" is the perfect height for ladies. I can see why you wearing heals would bother a guy who's 5'10"

[Titanwolf]

We got like a chicken and egg thing going on here huh?

 

Men who don't approach tall women don't approach them not because they're not attracted to them; but rather because they think they have no chance

 

Somewhere down the line, they got in their head that women prefer taller men.

 

Now where would they get that idea?

 

 

[Badsingularity]

This is so bad 'cause I'm short. I'm around 5'9 I think & I already got lots of problems getting girls to like me at all .

 

 

Being 5' 9" is not a problem. I'm 5' 9" and have no problems attracting women.

 

Work on your confidence and social skills. These are more important for attracting women.

 

Your height is not a problem.

[2.50 a gallon]

So what is the big deal?

 

Yes in general women find taller men more attractive.

 

We guys tend to like our women slim with a larger bust.

 

We (men & women) also have preferences, when it comes to body shape, hair color, eye color, etc.

 

But there always exceptions, not all women like taller men. I'm short and skinny, hardly a muscle on my body, but my Ex was almost 6 inches taller then me.

 

And my current GF when we met was a super perfect 36, that is she also has 36 inch legs and was age 36. She is about 3 to 4 inches taller than me.

 

She also liked tall tough guys with muscles, especially a 6-pack. Her favorite actor was Steven Segal. When I met her she was in love with and living with a guy who was a couple of years younger than her, a six-footer, with a long pony tail who just so happened to resemble Mr. Segal. And he was also, a semi-pro boxer.

 

Notice that I said current GF, as a couple of years later they temporarily broke up while he took off to get himself cleaned up from a drug problem.

We've been together now for coming up on 17 years. And yes he did want her back.

 

About the only thing of my personal appearance I could change was the length of my hair. I have sported a long pony tail ever since.

[LittlePrince]

I always dated shorter guys,taller then me but short by other mens standards but lately dated a taller guy and never had the feeling with the short guys that i had with him and now i think i want to stick with taller men,i felt a little shallow about it but this girl articulated what im feeling perfectly

 

Don’t Want No Short… | TattleTales | Jewish Journal

 

Ok so during Thanksgiving cocktail hour this year, my family took some time to run through the list of family friends we have with young single men and interrogate me about why I refuse to date them. I tried to explain why there was no future with a door-to-door insurance salesman who lives with his parents in the Valley and is shorter than me, but what caught everyone off guard was my mentioning the height factor. My dad literally called me superficial and was shocked that I could list something so trivial as a negative.

 

I suppose I’m tall for a girl but it doesn’t really feel like it. I’m 5’8” which apparently is three inches taller than the average woman in America. Actually I wish I was taller, but if I’m wearing my four inch heels (which I love), I do notice that a number of men suddenly seem less dateable. Despite my feminist instincts, I am more attracted to someone who is taller than me. I think on some primordial level, as a woman, I want to know that if there’s a fire or an earthquake, the guy I’m with can lift me up, throw me over one shoulder and run out the door.

 

I guess if he was an inch or two shorter but I still got the sense that he was strong enough to sling me over his shoulder in one fell swoop, I’m probably less likely to notice the height thing. And I would never say that it’s a deal breaker because as I tried to assure my father, I am completely willing to give up any pair of shoes for love. But I can’t shake this feeling that I want a man to not just be taller but actually be physically stronger than me. I know I’m supposed to want everyone to be equal and in most things in life I really do. But there is some primitive desire inside of me to be with a man who is physically stronger than me – not just equally as strong. I hate the idea of having to bend down to whisper in his ear, or be the one to reach things on the top shelf or have my arm be the one on top of his when we’re walking down the street. Should I really be shunned by the feminist community if I admit that I don’t believe in physical equality for men and women? Men are generally physically stronger than women and I like it that way. I believe women should have every opportunity a man does in life’s pursuits, but I also believe that I have a right to admit that I want him to be more physically powerful than me.

 

I know there are plenty of men who may be a few inches shorter than me and still plenty stronger and therefore I’m not willing to completely disqualify everyone shorter. But size does affect strength and it’s just in my DNA to associate one with the other. The fact is, if an earthquake comes and he thinks he’s hopping into my arms, I’m telling you right here and now, I’m making a run for the door. Alone.

This sure was hopelessly romantic.

[LittlePrince]

I love how this woman in the OP's article assumes that a guy whose not that tall can't pick her up. I've been able to pick up women that were 5'10-11 , and would probably struggle to lift up for too long some of the 200 LB 5'3 women you see everywhere in America. Height has nothing to do with whether you can pick up a woman during an earthquake, it has more to do with the individuals involved, and how strong the man is (height=/=strength) and how obese the woman is.

 

 

I think most rational people will agree that the OP's got it wrong. I think there's a bigger personality correlation between women and their Judaism (can't cook, tries to swipe your balls, infantile, lack grace, get uglier every year, complains all the time, runs up your credit cards, etc), than there is between a man and being 1 inch below average height.

 

But of course, I just picked on a group that's not politically correct to criticize right?

I think the bigger issue is how can getting picked up save one from a earthquake on top of the fact no one can out run a quake.

[GG2W]

Heroine?

 

I've reread his post several times, and did not see the word heroine.

 

All it takes is one fabrication, or lie, to invalidate everything you post.

[Emilia]

I don't subscribe to this idea a few women put forward in here that men are more hung up on height than women.

 

I think that is absolutely false.

 

I think if you went out in public and polled men and asked if they would date/sleep with a taller woman and asked women if they would date/sleep with a shorter man, the results would kill that idea.

 

You can't know either way because what people say and what they do are two different things. You can only rely on what you have observed in others' behaviour