Decapod33 Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 Im crying uncontrollably while I write this. My GF left me last Sunday. Been alone in our house for the last 4 days. I asked her today if its def over, she said yes. We used to fight alot due to the stress of her having a child from her EX. Jealousy issues etc... Im in a real bad place right now... It doesn't make it easier that I have to live in this house alone where we shared so many memories. Im just looking for someone, anyone to comfort me here...
Charlie25 Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 Hang in there mate, it will get better in time. The first week or so, is pure hell. Luckily my best friends were there for me, they brought pizzas, movies, games, beer and some weed So get some friends over, quick ! Not the most healthy weekend, but it felt so good just to talk to someone and do something else. As for you and you ex, just go "no contact"
CopingGal Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 A break up can make you feel like you are literally going to die and not going to make it through the night. Right now, just cry as much as you need to. Start reading some self-help books. Make a list of what you like about yourself. Journal about your feelings and the relationship and get ready to feel like chit for months. Don't drown your pain in a rebound relationship. Feel the pain to get through the pain. 1
Author Decapod33 Posted June 29, 2012 Author Posted June 29, 2012 Hang in there mate, it will get better in time. The first week or so, is pure hell. Luckily my best friends were there for me, they brought pizzas, movies, games, beer and some weed So get some friends over, quick ! Not the most healthy weekend, but it felt so good just to talk to someone and do something else. As for you and you ex, just go "no contact" Thanks man... im trying to focus on myself and hanging with friends but they're all married or have GF's. I guess ill just have to muscle thru this empty, god awful feeling yet again in this life. I don't know if I can do it, tbh ...
Author Decapod33 Posted June 29, 2012 Author Posted June 29, 2012 A break up can make you feel like you are literally going to die and not going to make it through the night. Right now, just cry as much as you need to. Start reading some self-help books. Make a list of what you like about yourself. Journal about your feelings and the relationship and get ready to feel like chit for months. Don't drown your pain in a rebound relationship. Feel the pain to get through the pain. I can't even begin to explain the void I feel in my chest right now. I deleted her number and stuff so I don't text her but its def going to be beyond hard for me.
hinatticus Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 Everyone will tell you that time needs to go by. But what you do with that time is key. Counseling and reading different kinds of books help. Self help is very important. Going through the stages is very important. Not doing stupid things is important. I'm 4 months post break up and I'm in a better place now. I was in a 4.5 year relationship, she lived with me, we have a 23 month old, just to put things into perspective. Hang in there man. I know how painful it is.
reapwhatyousow Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 Listen to Hinatticus. I'm going through the same thing. My GF of 2.5 years took her 7 year old (one of my closest friends!) picked up and left me almost 3 weeks ago. The first couple of weeks was a pure nightmare. I started reading self help books, this website (and others like it), going the church, seeing my family more, seeing my friends more, reading the Bible. We talked off and on for the first 2 weeks then a week ago I initiated NC. It's still hard and I still miss her but it's getting better day by day. All the reading is making me kind of start to realize how much of a c*nt she was actually, I'm starting to think I don't want her back as my single life is starting to come back together. So keep your head up and READ it really helps keep your mind busy. I found going out and doing things sort of hard because everything reminds you of her but when you're face down in a book or a website it's easier to lose track of your thoughts.
Author Decapod33 Posted June 29, 2012 Author Posted June 29, 2012 Going to be night time here soon. Im dreading it so bad. I didn't think it was possible to feel this low. I honestly didnt. I don't even feel human...
YellowShark Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 "Less gravy more steel." That was the quote that really got me through my breakup. And so she dumped ya, guess what? She dumped ya into a HUGE pool of eligable women!!! Doesn't feel like it now, but it is the truth. 1
Samilia Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 I'm sorry to hear that, it gets better though so hang in there. Can you get out of the house for a while? Do something else, like going to the movies? Since it's over, make sure you get rid of everything that remind you of her. You don't have to throw it away though, just put it in boxes, till you ready to look at it again. Hugz 1
Author Decapod33 Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 I'm sorry to hear that, it gets better though so hang in there. Can you get out of the house for a while? Do something else, like going to the movies? Since it's over, make sure you get rid of everything that remind you of her. You don't have to throw it away though, just put it in boxes, till you ready to look at it again. Hugz She left me last Sunday and still hasn't come here to grab her stuff. Its like she enjoys the fact that I have to sit here day after day and look at it for a constant reminder of what I don't have anymore. I will never trust another girl with my heart as long as I live. Sad to say but I can't take they risk again. This is my second heartbreak in 8 years (both serious relationships) and I will not go thru this again. Im actually physically sick. My body aches as well as my soul.
Balzac Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Get a plan for hour by hour. Talk here. You are feeling the pain and overwhelming emotions----that is the most useful thing you can do now. Delaying these feelings would be worse. Hang on. Stay connected here.
Samilia Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 She left me last Sunday and still hasn't come here to grab her stuff. Its like she enjoys the fact that I have to sit here day after day and look at it for a constant reminder of what I don't have anymore. I will never trust another girl with my heart as long as I live. Sad to say but I can't take they risk again. This is my second heartbreak in 8 years (both serious relationships) and I will not go thru this again. Im actually physically sick. My body aches as well as my soul. Ok, this is what I told my ex, to come get his stuff, I gave him a time, he agreed. Do the same thing, you aren't her storage unit, she wants out, then she's out and so is her stuff. It's 10pm here, I wouldn't send a late message, but tomorrow morning, set a time for her to come pick everything up. I am sorry to hear that you ache that bad. I have been dumped before myself (I'm so poetic!) but I don't give up. I can't tell you to be careful with your heart because obviously you guys weren't dating, you were on a serious path, but it saddens me to see you giving up on loving and being loved. So anyway, be my superman, try to be strong, get her out of your life and take care of number one, you!! We're here for you if you need to talk Hugz
Balzac Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Talking helps. Venting helps and nobody here will judge you for ranting!! 2
Author Decapod33 Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 Ok, this is what I told my ex, to come get his stuff, I gave him a time, he agreed. Do the same thing, you aren't her storage unit, she wants out, then she's out and so is her stuff. It's 10pm here, I wouldn't send a late message, but tomorrow morning, set a time for her to come pick everything up. I am sorry to hear that you ache that bad. I have been dumped before myself (I'm so poetic!) but I don't give up. I can't tell you to be careful with your heart because obviously you guys weren't dating, you were on a serious path, but it saddens me to see you giving up on loving and being loved. So anyway, be my superman, try to be strong, get her out of your life and take care of number one, you!! We're here for you if you need to talk Hugz Thank you so much for listening. I have given her 2 opportunities to get her stuff this week. Each time she makes an excuse as to why she cannot make it to pick her stuff up. Its almost like she likes that its here. We were def on a serious path... We fell in love at first sight, and talked about children and growing old together. I think I am in shock right now cuz I can't feel anything, really. It almost feels like a dream that I can't wake up from.
BlazePT Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 First, I'm very sorry to hear about your Breakup. Much of the advice has already been said, but my two cents is I'd keep posting here on LS and searching for similar stories throughout the web. For now, it hurts like a Muthafk*r but with time it will pass. You already know what's waiting for you now, since you've already been through a breakup before, but try to use the experience of that previous breakup to recover more rapidly. Let all of your emotions out. Don't hold them in you. And post here whenever you feel like it! It will definetly make you feel better. Hang in there, buddy. We're right there with you
Author Decapod33 Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 Talking helps. Venting helps and nobody here will judge you for ranting!! Thank you, Balzac. Means so much to me right now. I wish I didn't have any feelings right now. Im going on 4 days of minimal sleep. Its horrendous. I didn't feel this bad when my grandparents died.
Author Decapod33 Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 First, I'm very sorry to hear about your Breakup. Much of the advice has already been said, but my two cents is I'd keep posting here on LS and searching for similar stories throughout the web. For now, it hurts like a Muthafk*r but with time it will pass. You already know what's waiting for you now, since you've already been through a breakup before, but try to use the experience of that previous breakup to recover more rapidly. Let all of your emotions out. Don't hold them in you. And post here whenever you feel like it! It will definetly make you feel better. Hang in there, buddy. We're right there with you Thank you, Blaze :-) it def makes me feel better knowing at least some people are good hearted and care.
Samilia Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Thank you, Balzac. Means so much to me right now. I wish I didn't have any feelings right now. Im going on 4 days of minimal sleep. Its horrendous. I didn't feel this bad when my grandparents died. Ugh I feel for you. Don't forget to eat something.. order take out if you have to.. I bet you aren't eating well either...
Author Decapod33 Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 Ugh I feel for you. Don't forget to eat something.. order take out if you have to.. I bet you aren't eating well either... Haven't eaten in like 2 days, Samilia... Ordered pizza tonight and just stared at it for 20 minutes.
forgottenangel99 Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 First, I'm very sorry to hear about your Breakup. Much of the advice has already been said, but my two cents is I'd keep posting here on LS and searching for similar stories throughout the web. For now, it hurts like a Muthafk*r but with time it will pass. You already know what's waiting for you now, since you've already been through a breakup before, but try to use the experience of that previous breakup to recover more rapidly. Let all of your emotions out. Don't hold them in you. And post here whenever you feel like it! It will definetly make you feel better. Hang in there, buddy. We're right there with you Great advice Blaze!! I know exactly how he feels because I went through the same thing when my ex first left and left all of his **** here for me to look at. Hang in the Decapod, sometimes people are meant to leave from your life for the better.......
Balzac Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Thank you, Balzac. Means so much to me right now. I wish I didn't have any feelings right now. Im going on 4 days of minimal sleep. Its horrendous. I didn't feel this bad when my grandparents died. Of course you didn't!! Different kind of love. They were at the end if normal life. The deal here is you've been prematurely cut off from love and the hoods and dreams of a future life shared. Now your thoughts naturally turn to what went wrong. What coulda, shoulda you have done differently? Are you lovable in the long haul? Why did you get the shaft again? How can this be happening?
Samilia Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Haven't eaten in like 2 days, Samilia... Ordered pizza tonight and just stared at it for 20 minutes. And how are you doing today?
Author Decapod33 Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 And how are you doing today? Eh... just woke up crying. Seems I can't even escape this with sleep. Now im having dreams about her :-( This is really terrible.
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