confuzzled1 Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 So about 1.5 years post break up (she ended things). First year or so I did everything to try and win her back. This obviously didn't work. About 3 months ago she called me late at night drunk and told me she needed to see me (we hadn't seen each other for a few months at this point). She came over and stayed the night, though nothing really happened aside from her crying and saying she "couldn't do this" when I tried to kiss her. I sent her a message the following day saying I wasn't willing or able to do the friends thing, and suggested she delete my contact details to avoid temptation to call or text me when she is drunk or feeling low. She didn't respond to this and we haven't had any contact for about 3 months (probably the longest stretch since the break up). Yesterday she sent me a text message saying "I couldn't not say it. Happy birthday. x" Why would she do this? I ignored her birthday last month. I haven't responded yet but I'm pretty angry that she would do that after I made it perfectly clear I couldn't be friends with her and didn't want her to contact me unless she had something more substantial to say (like let's give things another go). Is she reaching out? Should I respond?
Exit Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 (edited) No reason to respond it was nothing substantial. You could just say thanks if you can manage to leave it at that and not expect anything but that kinda encourages her contact. You put the blame on her but you should take control of your own situation and block her yourself to put an end to this. I know you want to leave the door open just in case but then don't get mad when she's does stuff like this. It's becoming all too common around here lately you see people mad that their ex contacted them but they aren't taking any initiative to stop the contact. I know you tried to tell her only contact you if she wants back in but obviously she isn't going to play by your rules. Edited June 29, 2012 by Exit
Coffee20 Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 No, I think there is no need to answer. If you are not completely over her, don't respond. Maybe if you respond she will write something back (or not) and because she doesn't want to return, it would just make you feel bad.
Gulf-Delta Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 Were I in your shoes, I'd tell her "thanks, but I told you I can be friends".
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