ohmygoshistalk Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 About their relationship problems? I mean it is normal from time to time, whine about something.. but to have it engulf 99% of your time w/ them I really don't know. Usually I whine but I stop after a while, I would feel guilty because I should solve it myself instead of whining about it. There are times when you give advice and they seem to agree then just do it over and over again. I have a friend whos bf gets drunk and picks on her for things that he doesnt seem to confront her about when sober. It doesnt make sense. Then she goes and whines to me about it, for days on end. It has been like 2 weeks. We meet up, talk about it..it takes about 90% or so or more of our conversations. Then we go home, I go online, she emails me and sends me IM messages about it. I dont know how long I can endure it.
burningashes Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 Just change the subject in a humorous way, "Honey, you've been talking my ear off about this thing, and nothing's changed, so... let's talk about something else." This is of course if you want to be blunt and have her get the hint. Or, sit down and talk to her about it. Tell her that you think you feel neglected, that your friendship with her is becoming all about her issues. Explain that every time you talk to her (phone, IMs, what not), it's been about her issues. Keep it generalized, don't be specific about what issue because the issue is that your friend is talking to you all the time about her problems. Tell her you want to talk more about other things, and if you really need to be frank, say it's because nothing is changing for them, and it's pointless to keep talking about it. Good luck, hopefully your friend will understand and back off a little!
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