paperboy48 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 New to this, I am a 35 -year old guy with 2 kids. So, I am planning on targeting women who also have kids and are divorced/seperated. Common Ground, right? My question - do divorced/seperated women with kids who are on OLD get tons of messages everyday similar to a single woman with no kids?
phineas Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 In our age group (i'm 40) id say it really depends on how hot she is & if the guy has kids. I personally see a huge problem with dating single moms because I always have my kids on the weekend & most single mom's don't.
yongyong Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I still hit on single moms at the club or online. Of course, it's just for fun. They will still get good number of messages but I am sure they know most guys never want to be a step daddy. you might have better chance with single moms I believe.
yongyong Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I agree but it's not just one way like that. (single man= predator, single mom=victim) While they wouldn't mind finding a beta man who will take care of their 'mistakes', not all single moms are looking for a true husband. Just like guys they need to satisfy sexual desire while being single. Go see those 'single moms' hanging out at the club, making out with a guy and talking about their kids.....I don't want to do anything other than sex with those because it's disgrace to my family I've been a member of a popular dating site's forums for a few years now (even though I don't use it to find dates anymore) and to hear single mothers tell it, a lot of them get messages from guys who are looking for sex mostly because they figure single mothers are an easy target and happy for any attention they can get. Case in point - look at what the poster above me wrote. While that's not always the case, that's the mindset of a lot of the guys who write to single mothers because they don't want to take on someone else's kids or deal with always being the last priority to the woman they're dating. As to whether they get more messages than single women with no kids, I have no idea.
todreaminblue Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 (edited) I agree but it's not just one way like that. (single man= predator, single mom=victim) While they wouldn't mind finding a beta man who will take care of their 'mistakes', not all single moms are looking for a true husband. Just like guys they need to satisfy sexual desire while being single. Go see those 'single moms' hanging out at the club, making out with a guy and talking about their kids.....I don't want to do anything other than sex with those because it's disgrace to my family How do you know they are single mothers hanging in a club...... music is a bit loud to hear conversation or do you eavesdrop.... do they advertise somehow by putting photos up at the traffic lights.....I am a single mum i do dance and the last place i would go to find a man is at a club where most men are intoxicated and wont remember if they even went to that club... i actually go there to break free.....aka......dance..... and i don't even have to get drunk to do it......i dont know where you have been hanging but when single mothers go out they actually are most likely looking for some adult conversation and some time to not talk about the kids...so your family is safe from disgrace on the most part....and its alpha strong compassionate caring kind non judgemental alpha male beta is for testing before the real thing comes in..........deb Edited June 28, 2012 by todreaminblue
luvinthesun Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 No idea abouts lots messages n I. Divorced with kids. But I'd rethink the separated part...I'd never wanna be party to a divorce...
Quest4_TheLost Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 (edited) I'm a single mom with kids. I get messages regularly from everyone. I'm ver picky with who I date.. But to be honest there has never been a shortage of options and guys that don't mind that I have kids. Even guys that don't have kids themselves and are a great deal younger then me. Now I'm sure the chicks that don't have kids probably get alot more messgaes. But its no diffrent! Most of the guys out there claim to be looking for a relationship and what not but still only want the one thing.. I use to go on POF its basically a booty call site full of men just looking for sex. They don't care who its with as long as the person they're pursuing is attractive. The funny thing being is I usually end up with the guys that are immature with no kids. I should make it clear I am not and never was looking for a booty call. So I no longer visit that site.. Edited June 28, 2012 by Quest4_TheLost
RedRobin Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 (edited) My observation is that most men doing OLD are just looking for sex. Some are straightforward and will tell you that. Others will claim they are looking for a relationship. No way to tell what their intentions are without getting to know them. If they press for sex ASAP, well, you know which one he is. Regarding divorced women with kids... I don't observe their situation to be much different than those who have no kids. Men will make time for women who are attractive and have a fun personality. It is up to her to make time for dating... not much different than women who are busy building careers or who need to travel alot for work. as for the OP... Are they getting more or less emails than those who don't have kids? Who cares? All that matter is if she is talking to YOU, right? Edited June 29, 2012 by RedRobin 1
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