Dave41 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 ok, this is going to sound priceless, i broke the no contact rule and kinda stalked my ex gf last weekend. she did reply on my first text but after i confessed my love to her and asked her out for dinner she kindly explained she wasnt interested and asked me to leave her alone. i ignored her request and started calling her and texting even more now i feel ashamed and regretfull. i really want to apologize to her, therefor breaking the nc rule again. should i apologize for herrassing her last weekend or should i just leave it like this? gr :love::love:
Author Dave41 Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 i just want to elaborate: i dont even want her back. i know i shouldnt have asked her out, because of wrong signals, but now i feel like i can deal with missing her.. not with this guilt.. i mean, i miss her and i know she doenst want to be with me but each time i try and search for 'something' that once was between us, even if its just friendship, she tells me i should move on and acts like there never was anything of any importance..
tryingtodiscoveranew Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I think you should just leave it be. She probably wouldn't give you the warm response you desire from an apology, which may cause you to feel worse, or make matters worse.
skyisfalling Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 i just want to elaborate: i dont even want her back. You do want her back, otherwise, her not contacting you or the way she thinks about you wouldn't even matter. The damage has already been done.. lets stick with NC. Hang in there, I know everyone says it'll get better, and it sounds really annoying, but it will. We're all in it together, NC is hard, but its the only way we'll recover from this addiction.. keep us updated on how you're doing dave.
Author Dave41 Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 You do want her back, otherwise, her not contacting you or the way she thinks about you wouldn't even matter. The damage has already been done.. lets stick with NC. Hang in there, I know everyone says it'll get better, and it sounds really annoying, but it will. We're all in it together, NC is hard, but its the only way we'll recover from this addiction.. keep us updated on how you're doing dave. Ok, maybe i want her back. She ment a lot to me. But what im saying is, now that i see clear after the mental breakdown i had this weekend i feel more confident about not wanting her back, but now this regret has taken the overhand. thank you both for the advice. i will maintain a NC from now on and hope this feeling passes. Thnx
Author Dave41 Posted June 29, 2012 Author Posted June 29, 2012 Okay, so here i am again i can't stand that my last reaction to her dumping me was: im sorry and i want you back i've been doing a lot of soul searching and finally reaching the 'anger' stage 'anger' :bunny: now i just want her to know im angry any of you ever felt this? This relation ship btw was a complete joke: as where i fell in love and even changed my whole life around for her, i was just a rebound thing for her and she has moved on without even once looking back. ive been depressed, angry, sad and jealous. But now that im trying to reach accaptence and move on i just dont want her thinking of me as an apologizing pussy. So im glad i actually didnt apologize (actually i did, trying to explain my mistakes to her in hopes of getting her back a view times before i posted here..) and i know i still cant break the NC, but now i just want her to know im angry. I know i cant contact her because she doesnt care wtf i think but it feels so wrong thinking that she thinks i still want her back. I want to let her know im over her. Any of you guys ever experience that same emotion?
Author Dave41 Posted June 29, 2012 Author Posted June 29, 2012 (edited) or am i still in denial ? Edited June 29, 2012 by Dave41
Tiera D Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Yes we do its like a drug or smoking isnt it?you just want more,and the demon in you keeps trying to convince you to contact her.OP you can tell her how angry you are but she either wont respond or troll you back with mean words..Dave move on because you are still confused and angry,the best way to deal with this breakup phrase would be deleting every way of contacting her,hide your phone,send away your computer..Its similar to quitting drugs,to stop being a drug addict you must send the drug away.I promise you at last stage you will find inner peace. TD
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