dudesomewhere Posted July 4, 2004 Posted July 4, 2004 so cute story for your input... the story... my nephew who's about 4...very smart boy...genius I think. Anyways, he knows I have an Xbox, and he's into Yugioh(cartoon stuff). I told him I had Yugioh for my Gameboy, of which he knows of too, and he got all goofy and bug eyed, lol. Anyways...maybe 2 weeks pass by when I told him I had an xbox and he brings out this flyer(me visiting my sister) and proceeds to tell me...Look Uncle X(X cuz I want to be anon and I have a unique name) it's Yugioh, I want it. I grab him in the middle of laughing at this and say..."AND? He started laughing...then I asked him..."What, you want me to buy it for you?" and louder laughing. A day later my sister asks me to bring up the xbox and that is today, so I'm off for a bit to bring them this xbox o mine...they rented Yugioh for the xbox So...my dilemma and question(s) and they seem to be related but ignore that for convenience . Ladies, give me all your ways to try and tell a guy to leave you alone NICELY...and I stress that because of how some women use the social euphemisms to let a guy down NICELY. What are some or ALL the ways to get the hint across to a guy to LEAVE you alone? This based on the 2 of you liking each other prior...or at least the guy liking you prior ....and then FEELING that you don't. And I stress feeling because of what he has to work with...assumptions being made about what is given or handed to him factually/physically and not through euphemisms. And if you aren't one to use such tactics but know of the tactics used because of other female associates...please enlighten still
Author dudesomewhere Posted July 4, 2004 Author Posted July 4, 2004 so I go and play with my nephew...evidently yugioh on xbox is harder than would imagine...but then again not, since it's a card based game. He couldn't do much with it but I had another game he had fun with bah, no responses...Are the secrets too golden to tell? hehe . Hmm, guess this'll have to be one of those things I have to go it alone...by my own intuition and all things point to negativity. Which isn't bad with me...the only thing bad is not knowing
Bojickwoman Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 To let someone down gently, you make excuses NOT to see that person. For example, if the guy is always asking to get together, you always tell him you are busy, have other plans etc. In other words, make excuses. I'm not really the type to do this tactic, as I believe in being honest up front, but I have seen it done many times by friends who thought the guy was sweet etc and didn't want to hurt his feelings. Now, that is to assume that the guy and girl had an initial attraction to each other, whether friends or otherwise and then one party decides that the initial attraction is gone once getting to know that person better. But, there are other situations that the excuses tactic can be used. I have also seen women who do not send out any signals whatsoever to the guy that they are interested and the guy still chases after them, constantly asking them out etc.
thecake Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 saying you're too busy doesn't work...just makes a guy more aggressive. My plan for the next few months is to tell guys I'm not interested in that I just came out of a relationship and I'm not looking for anything serious. Sounds good...it's sort of true and no one gets their feelings hurt....I think.
Mr Spock Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 I just ignore unwanted advances. What does X box have to do with your question?
tattoomytoe Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 yeah the whole story thing confused me too, unless it was the subtle way the x-box was borrowed. i feel bad when i have to let some guy down. usually i will "have other plans already", and if that fails i just stop answering my phone when he calls....which IS a b$tchy thing to do, or fake having a bf.
CurlyIam Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 I'll tell you what happens right now in my life, this summer: I have lots of stuff to do. I have to study, to write, to take exams etc etc. and I rarelly feel like seeing anyone - contrary to my usual "let's go out" type of person that I am. And I act upon what I feel: I tell everyone I am too tired, too busy, too lacking sleep to do anything together. It isn't always the truth, but it does save my butt. So my suggestion to you is to.... lie!!! Make up a big project, something time consuming! Like writing a novel! Or like inventing a new flavour of yougurt . And keep it like that each time he makes contact with you and wants to hang out. After the first 4 refusals, he'll get tired of asking, trust me!!!! It's nice, it's clean ... it's an alternative!
tattoomytoe Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 the truth? or something that will make feel bad about yourself?
msrealdoll Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 I try not to use any excuse that doesn't put an end to his advances for good. Saying that I'm busy will encourage him to ask again later. If he's a close enough friend, I just tell him the truth. If not, I say I'm already seeing someone, or interested in someone else.
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