how soon is too soon to date a new guy after a break up?

[smudge]

Hi,

I have just broken up with my boyfriend who i cared about very much, but he has been very hurtful and so its time to move on. But recently i have become attracted to one of his friends and i feel he also likes me and i was wondering how soon is too soon to start dating someone else after a breakup?i still care for my ex and i'm also worried i might be liking his friend for the wrong reasons, how do i know?

thanks

[Olivia_19742004]

I wouldn't rush into any type of serious relationship for a bit, but I don't see anything wrong with going on dates. Go out and have fun! It'll get your mind off the break up.

[Sundaymorning]

My friend's and mine rule:

As long as you know what went wrong, how to fix it and prevent it in your next relationship....you must wait 3 days for every month you dated him, to start dating a new guy. Seriously, it works and its great. Sitting through the pain, feeling it out and crap like that is not worth it. Just know what went wrong and PREVENTION is the key!

[smudge]

Thankyou for your replies, i appreciate it

 

I was dating him for 10 months so that would mean i would have to wait a month - but then again i may need it becuase I actually don't know what went wrong in the relationship - he refuses to talk to me and so i have to accept its over. Do you think this will also cause problems in a next relationship? I'd like to know what happened but as i said he won't talk to me.

At the moment i'm not ready to have another serious relationship but i do think i deserve some fun

[UCFKevin]

Keep in mind you dating one of his friends could be very painful for him.

[smudge]

UCFKevin - as for dating one of his friends i really don't think he would care, he hurt me and refuses to tell me anything - like why our relationship fell apart so as far as i'm concerned he will have to deal with it.Before you speculate and say i must be a bitch just consider that i really wanted our relationship to work, i tried everything but in the end he made his decision.

[UCFKevin]

You certainly got over it quickly then...

[smudge]

What would you rather me do?? sit in the corner and cry?? He has made up his mind to hurt me and i spent over a month worrying about him and trying to contact him (L/D relationship). I found out eventually he had a new number and when i rang it he kept on hanging up on me. I don't know how to deal with the way he is acting so i have to accept its over, he set out to hurt me and i have to say that at no point will i accept this from anyone - so please don't judge

[UCFKevin]

I wasn't judging. I was making a comment on the situation that isn't false, right? Just calling what I saw. Down tiger!

 

And perhaps sitting in the corner and crying would help.

[Mr Spock]

Why bother to date one of his friends? Just casually go through and f*ck his closest unattached pals for maximum effect. You didn't date that long, you're angry with him, and you've stated you're not ready for a serious relationship, yet you desire revenge. The perfect plan......................

[DerangedAngel]

Just casually go through and f*ck his closest unattached pals for maximum effect. You didn't date that long, you're angry with him, and you've stated you're not ready for a serious relationship, yet you desire revenge.

 

 

smude, whether or not he would ever admit it, I'm sure that if you date one of his friends he will be hurt.

 

Give it a while before you try to hook up with another guy. If you're not completely over your ex, you'll risk hurting whoever you pursue right now.

 

Try out that corner.

 

-DA

[smudge]

sorry, i admit i am very hurt with what my ex has done to me and i'm not exactly dealing with it the right way and i'm not very good with revenge - i seriously wasn't planning to date this guy to get revenge, he's a nice guy and i've decided to back off a bit for the moment because i don't like the idea of hurting him.