Squishy_Belle Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I have never been the dating website kind of person. I would never meet up with anyone who i met online..or so i thought! Exactly a week ago today i was getting ready for bed when i thought i would quick take a look on pof (ive never really been interested in pof..only when i get bored) Well i had noticed a cute guy had looked at my profile. I checked out his profile and noticed we had so much in common and that we have literally the same interests. I thought to myself, he would never message me anyway and then my phone vibrated..he messaged me! Long story short, we have been talking through video call for hours on end every day since. It is like we have known each other forever. I've been dealing with a lot of stress lately and hes just taken it all away. We laugh so much its amazing. Unfortinatley he is deploying VERY soon which i was kind of gutted about because i really want to get to know him more but..He has bought a plane ticket for this weekend to come and stay in a city close by so we can meet. Ahhhh!!! I thought i would never be the kind of person to do that, i mean he could be some crazy creep lol. Im so nervous and excited at the same time but i need some advice.. Are there any do's and don'ts when meeting someone you met online? I think im going to be a hot mess when i go to see him lol
Pyro Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Just make sure that the meetup is in a public place and make sure his actions match his words because you can be whatever you want to be online. As long as you think it is worth getting to know someone who is being deployed soon then best of luck to you. 1
Author Squishy_Belle Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Just make sure that the meetup is in a public place and make sure his actions match his words because you can be whatever you want to be online. As long as you think it is worth getting to know someone who is being deployed soon then best of luck to you. We are meeting up smack bang in the middle of town, i made sure of that lol. I totally agree with you and thats why i would never have considered meeting someone off the net. i guess im just curious but i want to go about it in a safe way. My friend met her husband online and she told me it will be ok but you never know whats out there.
yongyong Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I don't think he is coming over just to hangout and get a good night kiss at the end.....
Author Squishy_Belle Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 I don't think he is coming over just to hangout and get a good night kiss at the end..... So what are you saying?
Emilia Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Don't get carried away until you meet him in person. So far this is false intimacy and projecting. 1
danm Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 How old are you? I would have said you were CRAZY and he was INSANE for the short time and effort of getting a FLIGHT to see a STRANGER who is, I assume, in the army and leaving soon? That said, I too met my girl on POF after a very intense short 'pre-dating' period like you. The chemistry was incredible. My car engine blew the day before the first date. Call it crazy, but I was so adamant to make the date, I went and hired a car for a day. I used it for a 40 mile journey, that was all. I went out my way to make sure it happened, and well, the rest is history. She is amazing! Just a word of advice...sometimes you can get caught up in things because you are so excited you fail to see any minor flaws that could be HUGE. Just be cautious and sensible. Keep around lots of people and if you can help it, dont go back alone anywhere with him. Resist alllll temptation. If he is THAT interested, he'd be content to stay chatting/dancing/hanging out til the last hour wherever it is just to hang out with you, not just ur panties. I probably sounded like a desperate creep to have hired that car, mr plane ticket could sound the same. But not always. Mine was an act of heart in not wanting to let her down that made me do it after she mentioned previous dates ditching her last minute for pointless reasons. Mine was real. So long as you be careful, have fun! Out of interest, when is he due to go back home on the ticket? Has he arranged accomodation already and told you? That would be good to know of his intentions... if he hasnt got anything booked, that is questionable as it looks suspect. If he is military, I'd be wary of being used right before he leaves. Let us know how it goes! Good luck, and have fun!
Pyro Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 We are meeting up smack bang in the middle of town, i made sure of that lol. I totally agree with you and thats why i would never have considered meeting someone off the net. i guess im just curious but i want to go about it in a safe way. My friend met her husband online and she told me it will be ok but you never know whats out there. My wife and I met online as well so there are definitely good stories out there. The fact that he is being deployed soon could be an indicator that he isn't looking for long-term here and only a fling, but perhaps I am wrong. Go at your own pace and have fun.
FitChick Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 He said he is being deployed but is he really? He said he was flying in but are you meting him at the airport? He might live nearby. Sounds a bit off. I agree with the others. Whether or not he's being deployed, I think he just wants to get laid. 1
yongyong Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 do you think guys are going to spend that much money and time just to see you and hold your hands? I am pretty sure you are one of those women who will say 'no he is different, every guy is not like you' hahahahaha Btw, I wouldn't do such things in America. It will look make you look beyond desperate as a guy. Why would I spend money & time that will label me as 'oh this guy is really coming, he is creeeeeeepy' by American woman? I would rather have fun with local woman while just talking to her online and if she wants to come, then I don't mind letting her staying at my couch.... obviously, after she goes back, I will go back local women to have fun. I hope it works like hollywood movies but it doesn't.... So what are you saying?
Author Squishy_Belle Posted June 29, 2012 Author Posted June 29, 2012 do you think guys are going to spend that much money and time just to see you and hold your hands? I am pretty sure you are one of those women who will say 'no he is different, every guy is not like you' hahahahaha Btw, I wouldn't do such things in America. It will look make you look beyond desperate as a guy. Why would I spend money & time that will label me as 'oh this guy is really coming, he is creeeeeeepy' by American woman? I would rather have fun with local woman while just talking to her online and if she wants to come, then I don't mind letting her staying at my couch.... obviously, after she goes back, I will go back local women to have fun. I hope it works like hollywood movies but it doesn't.... For a start i don't think you should judge by saying i am pretty sure you are ONE OF THOSE..!! No one said we were in America and no one said we were American?!? I was never asking if anyone thinks this is valid and if it is going to happen. There are 2 people who have experienced something themselves with OD and i was just after some advice on how to go about it. Im aware things can happen but i was not asking on opinions how you feel about people meeting up off the internet. I am also aware that he is deploying soon and he may not have the intentions of getting together or what not but i was never actively seeking a relationship in the first place. Im just curious to get to know him because we have so much in common and have been through similar stuff and just seem to get along really well.
Author Squishy_Belle Posted June 29, 2012 Author Posted June 29, 2012 He said he is being deployed but is he really? He said he was flying in but are you meting him at the airport? He might live nearby. Sounds a bit off. Im a bit confused on what sounds off?? The fact that he says he is a soldier and is getting deployed and that he says he is flying in to see me? Im 100% he is in the country he says he is in.
Author Squishy_Belle Posted June 29, 2012 Author Posted June 29, 2012 when a females says i would never, don't believe her Did you miss the part where i said..or so i thought?
Author Squishy_Belle Posted June 29, 2012 Author Posted June 29, 2012 i didn't have to even read it. So why even post something that is totally irrelevant to my thread?
Pyro Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 So why even post something that is totally irrelevant to my thread? stick around enough to know which people are real here and which ones are covered in fur and live under a bridge/in moms basement.
danm Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 Ignore the ridiculous posts. Go and enjoy yourself! Just be sensible, be safe, and in truth, dont expect everything from it. Take it as it is, and whatever else comes of it will be a bonus. That warm feeling you get is yours to keep. Don't let idiots here throw water on your flames. But do let us know what happens in this thread! Am intrigued!
Author Squishy_Belle Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 So a little update..He flew in to see me. As soon as we saw each other it was like talking to an old friend. It all came so naturally We spent as much time as we could together but i had to work a lot while he was here but he didn't mind waiting around. We had so much fun and laughed so much. It was just what i needed. Who knows where things are going to go from here. He will be deploying soon but we agreed to stay in touch and im going to write him letters and send him parcels and hopefully when he gets back we will get to see each other again.
danm Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Amazing! Glad the moment was happy for both of you - nice to hear a sweet story without lust, pure dirt and sweaty sex stories. Old fashioned movie-romance stuff here possibly! So how long do you have to wait until he is back then?
NateC Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Glad OLD worked out and you potentially have someone to be with. On another note, your title reminded me of a certain song that is now stuck in my head....and not in a good way.
Pyro Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Glad OLD worked out and you potentially have someone to be with. On another note, your title reminded me of a certain song that is now stuck in my head....and not in a good way. Glad that I'm not the only one with that song in mind now.
Emilia Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 So a little update..He flew in to see me. As soon as we saw each other it was like talking to an old friend. It all came so naturally We spent as much time as we could together but i had to work a lot while he was here but he didn't mind waiting around. We had so much fun and laughed so much. It was just what i needed. Who knows where things are going to go from here. He will be deploying soon but we agreed to stay in touch and im going to write him letters and send him parcels and hopefully when he gets back we will get to see each other again. Glad you had such a good experience with him
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I have never been the dating website kind of person. I would never meet up with anyone who i met online..or so i thought! Exactly a week ago today i was getting ready for bed when i thought i would quick take a look on pof (ive never really been interested in pof..only when i get bored) Well i had noticed a cute guy had looked at my profile. I checked out his profile and noticed we had so much in common and that we have literally the same interests. I thought to myself, he would never message me anyway and then my phone vibrated..he messaged me! Long story short, we have been talking through video call for hours on end every day since. It is like we have known each other forever. I've been dealing with a lot of stress lately and hes just taken it all away. We laugh so much its amazing. Unfortinatley he is deploying VERY soon which i was kind of gutted about because i really want to get to know him more but..He has bought a plane ticket for this weekend to come and stay in a city close by so we can meet. Ahhhh!!! I thought i would never be the kind of person to do that, i mean he could be some crazy creep lol. Im so nervous and excited at the same time but i need some advice.. Are there any do's and don'ts when meeting someone you met online? I think im going to be a hot mess when i go to see him lol Don't date someone in the military until they are out of the military unless you relish the idea of taking care of a disabled bf/fiance/husband or have romantic interests in full body bags.
KatZee Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I don't think he is coming over just to hangout and get a good night kiss at the end..... Agreed. Please be careful with Plenty of Fish. It is an EXTREMELY shady dating website, and I wouldn't even classify POF as a dating website anyway. 1. It's a free site. Those who are looking for quality relationships will steer themselves towards the more established sites; match.com, eharmony.com, etc. MANY if not MOST of the "men" on POF are after one thing, and one thing only. A lot are actually in relationships, or married and they get on that site just to screw around. My really good friend has some social anxiety and she's on POF all the time. I can't even tell you how many guys she's met, and how creepy they ALL WERE even if they appeared somewhat normal in the beginning. She's had people eventually come to her home only to say things such as, "I could totally hack your security system and break in." Or guys that has brought her to Pizza Hut as a first date, or the guys that appeared so "charming" only to get sex and then they bounce the next day. Quality guys are NOT FOUND ON POF. I just really have to drive that point in. I would say POF is worse than meeting a guy in a bar. They really can trick you because they're hiding behind a screen. 2. I highly recommend speed dating if you've never tried it. You're guaranteed to meet 15-20 single men in ONE NIGHT and you are face to face. They can't BS you as easy as they can online. They can't think up a response to what you're asking. You can see their body language, their facial expression, their tone of voice.
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Agreed. Please be careful with Plenty of Fish. It is an EXTREMELY shady dating website, and I wouldn't even classify POF as a dating website anyway. 1. It's a free site. Those who are looking for quality relationships will steer themselves towards the more established sites; match.com, eharmony.com, etc. MANY if not MOST of the "men" on POF are after one thing, and one thing only. A lot are actually in relationships, or married and they get on that site just to screw around. My really good friend has some social anxiety and she's on POF all the time. I can't even tell you how many guys she's met, and how creepy they ALL WERE even if they appeared somewhat normal in the beginning. She's had people eventually come to her home only to say things such as, "I could totally hack your security system and break in." Or guys that has brought her to Pizza Hut as a first date, or the guys that appeared so "charming" only to get sex and then they bounce the next day. Quality guys are NOT FOUND ON POF. I just really have to drive that point in. I would say POF is worse than meeting a guy in a bar. They really can trick you because they're hiding behind a screen. 2. I highly recommend speed dating if you've never tried it. You're guaranteed to meet 15-20 single men in ONE NIGHT and you are face to face. They can't BS you as easy as they can online. They can't think up a response to what you're asking. You can see their body language, their facial expression, their tone of voice. The moral of the story is getting date raped on an established site is much, much better than a Pizza Hut date on Pof. Even a drunken grope session at a bar or putting up with 15-20 jerks in a night is better than a Pizza Hut date. I know where I am taking my next date. PH is too good for internet dating. Chuck E Cheese it is.
Author Squishy_Belle Posted July 2, 2012 Author Posted July 2, 2012 Don't date someone in the military until they are out of the military unless you relish the idea of taking care of a disabled bf/fiance/husband or have romantic interests in full body bags. Just wow....
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