How long should I wait before I contact him to not seem to eager?

[blackcrow37]

A good friend of mine revealed that he liked me so we kind of started seeing each other a little more, nothing serious because we both knew I was leaving. Just being friends like before plus added physical bonus. So I've moved away now, I don't have a phone and he doesn't have facebook. He's really reserved and doesn't talk much, so I'm not really sure what's going through his head. I'm going to be gone traveling for a year.

 

I don't want to come off that I expect him to wait for me, but I'd like to stay in contact with him. I think I've already given off the "over eager" impression and I accidently said something about "when I get back" (oops!) so I'd like to amend that so he doesn't get scared off.

 

It's been a month, and I haven't heard from him (he has my email). Should I make the first contact? I was going to send him a letter, is a month too soon?

I just want to stay in touch and would like to hear from him because I care about him without scaring him off. If he was still available when I got back, great. But if not, well he's still my friend.. I figure I shouldn't contact him TOO much to give the wrong impression.

[Arabella]

It's been a month and he hasn't contacted you, even though he could... I hate to break it to you, but I doubt he has any interest in keeping in touch with you, or sustaining any sort of long-distance relationship. He doesn't even sound that good of a friend.

 

Email him if you want, but keep it brief and don't expect anything.

 

-A

[pettie]

I sent an innocent "hi!" email to my current boyfriend 2 weeks after I left. We weren't planning on being on a LD relationship. He didn't have a facebook and we only had the other's email.

 

It's been more than a year already and we are still together, in a increasingly serious relationship.

 

You won't lose any ground just by saying hi, if you want to keep in touch.

[blackcrow37]

It's been a month and he hasn't contacted you, even though he could... I hate to break it to you, but I doubt he has any interest in keeping in touch with you, or sustaining any sort of long-distance relationship. He doesn't even sound that good of a friend.

 

Email him if you want, but keep it brief and don't expect anything.

 

-A

 

see this is the thing about this logic. I see this all the time, "oh you haven't heard from him, he's not interested". Ya maybe, but on the flip side he hasn't heard from ME for a month either, yet I remain interested. why is it up to guys to make the first move? He said to me before that he doesn't ever get any girls unless they make the first move..