CarbonCopy Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 My friend (yes, it really is a friend) met a guy a few months ago. He has a gf, they live together, and I think they even have a kid. They talk quite often and have spoken on the phone a few times. My friend is really attracted to him and (I know this is horrible) would probably pursue a relationship/hookup with him should the opportunity arise. He has told her straight up that he will not cheat, but my friend has told me of all the texting and aiming that they do. It is very sexual. He even invited her to his hotel room when he was traveling for work a few weeks ago. But he has told her, "If you can't live with just flirting I'll understand if you don't want to talk to me anymore." Maybe I'm prudish or out of the loop or whatever, but is that really flirting? What exactly is this guy pulling? Is he just having fun with my friend ("flirting," as he says) or is he can't make up his mind? I didn't know what to tell her because I don't flirt with men like that, but maybe it's something people do. I don't know.
WeAllMightBeNuts Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Makes me kind of laugh. Sure, all straight guys in a "committed" relationship have secret sexual texts & conversations with single women. Then they ask them to our hotel room to strictly flirt. A hard d!ck defeats conscience every time.
Author CarbonCopy Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Makes me kind of laugh. Sure, all straight guys in a "committed" relationship have secret sexual texts & conversations with single women. Then they ask them to our hotel room to strictly flirt. A hard d!ck defeats conscience every time. LMAO, right? He also told her when he travels later on in the year he should join her. I said, "You'd be going to his hotel room just to cuddle, right?" Are you a guy?
WeAllMightBeNuts Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Me=Guy And if I'm in his position behaving the exact same way, I'm wanting to bone her.
Author CarbonCopy Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Yeah, I thought so! Too much shady stuff going on.
Author CarbonCopy Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Ok, want to hear something funny? She actually asked one of her male friends for advice and he said (I apologize if this is explicit): "Ok, listen up so you can get him in your bed! He will want you to blow him. DO NOT do it by any means! When it gets to that point just lay back, spread your legs, and tell him to please f&$k you. There's no way a man with a hard-on will be able to resist." True?
WeAllMightBeNuts Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Ok, want to hear something funny? She actually asked one of her male friends for advice and he said (I apologize if this is explicit): "Ok, listen up so you can get him in your bed! He will want you to blow him. DO NOT do it by any means! When it gets to that point just lay back, spread your legs, and tell him to please f&$k you. There's no way a man with a hard-on will be able to resist." True? Pretty much, yes. Naked woman & a hard on will result in f$$$king the majority of the time. P.S. Her male "friend" wants to nail her too. Yep.
Author CarbonCopy Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Pretty much, yes. Naked woman & a hard on will result in f$$$king the majority of the time. P.S. Her male "friend" wants to nail her too. Yep. LMAOOO, yes, he's been trying for a long time but she's not interested. I will send you a PM.
WeAllMightBeNuts Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I have no idea why. I don't have any type of PM blocking going on at all. Haven't been on here long. Sometimes moderators limit options until you get to a certain post count. Maybe that's it?
WeAllMightBeNuts Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I just poked around. Can't PM anyone myself. Like it has been turned off here. ??? I think this is a much older version of vBulletin. (Forum operating system.)
Author CarbonCopy Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Ok, cause I wanted to ask you a question but I didn't want to post it on here. I don't want people judging me or my friend for encouraging or engaging in "immoral behavior" but I guess I shouldn't care right?
WeAllMightBeNuts Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Ok, cause I wanted to ask you a question but I didn't want to post it on here. I don't want people judging me or my friend for encouraging or engaging in "immoral behavior" but I guess I shouldn't care right? The amount of "care" you should have...I don't really know. Just remember you are typing on a forum and it's not the end of the world if everyone calls you names and stuff. So, for me, I'll defend my position whether popular or not. But won't let everyone disagreeing with it make or break me. Fire away any question. Might be a good one.
Author CarbonCopy Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 The amount of "care" you should have...I don't really know. Just remember you are typing on a forum and it's not the end of the world if everyone calls you names and stuff. So, for me, I'll defend my position whether popular or not. But won't let everyone disagreeing with it make or break me. Fire away any question. Might be a good one. Hah, you're right. I basically relayed your response to my gf and now she wants to know what steps to take to get it to the point where they are in a position to mess around, LMAO. Basically she's worried that he might actually mean what he says and that if she tries something he might be all "I told you I couldn't! I was just flirting!" and she would be so embarrassed and humiliated. They're planning to meet up this weekend but I don't know where they're going or what they're doing.
WeAllMightBeNuts Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Hah, you're right. I basically relayed your response to my gf and now she wants to know what steps to take to get it to the point where they are in a position to mess around, LMAO. Basically she's worried that he might actually mean what he says and that if she tries something he might be all "I told you I couldn't! I was just flirting!" and she would be so embarrassed and humiliated. They're planning to meet up this weekend but I don't know where they're going or what they're doing. Hmmm....how to proceed. If I say one thing am I a contributor to breaking something up? Say something else and not? F it. Old saying....Know how to get a guy in the mood? Show up. I don't know her or the guy. So I'll just tell you how I would be. If we're alone, attracted, chemistry, I'm going to be the aggressor and initiate sex. Probably what will happen in her case as well. Think of me what you will. Just how I am.
Author CarbonCopy Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Hmmm....how to proceed. If I say one thing am I a contributor to breaking something up? Say something else and not? F it. Old saying....Know how to get a guy in the mood? Show up. I don't know her or the guy. So I'll just tell you how I would be. If we're alone, attracted, chemistry, I'm going to be the aggressor and initiate sex. Probably what will happen in her case as well. Think of me what you will. Just how I am. Ha! Well thank you for your honesty!!! If you are not alone or in like a club or something would you still try something?
WeAllMightBeNuts Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Ha! Well thank you for your honesty!!! If you are not alone or in like a club or something would you still try something? Try something? You asking me to expose myself in public places? J/K Myself? If the signs are there, absolutely. Now you're gonna' ask me what are the signs? Ugh! I just know when a woman has that attraction and she can tell it as well. They can't control it. Eyes dilated, breathing changes, way they face me. Just can unwittingly detect it. I'm sure I do things involuntarily as well. So yeah, I'd move in for more.
Author CarbonCopy Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Try something? You asking me to expose myself in public places? J/K Myself? If the signs are there, absolutely. Now you're gonna' ask me what are the signs? Ugh! I just know when a woman has that attraction and she can tell it as well. They can't control it. Eyes dilated, breathing changes, way they face me. Just can unwittingly detect it. I'm sure I do things involuntarily as well. So yeah, I'd move in for more. Oh yes, the signs of attraction. She's just worried she's going to be rejected but she has shown me their convos and stuff and this guy is sending mixed signals all over the place. He drunk texts her with all this crazy stuff, come to the hotel, we'd f#*k everhywhere, etc and then the next day he was like 'you know all those amazing thibgs can never happen.'. He confuses me and I'm not even the one persuing him lmao.
Leigh 87 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Your friend should NOT want a relationship with this guy, if ANYTHING does happen. He is a low life and a jerk. Guys with a conscious and who can exercise self control, do not flirt that way with other girls. This guy should not have a girlfriend. That girl deserves a guy who is 100% into her, and is not exploring other options behind her back! Or, if he is into her, why would he be disonest to a girl he cares about? He obviously is not being a good boyfriend to his gf. She is stringing her along, and not giving her the choice to opt OUT or a relationship - if she knew he needed to go and flirt with girls, she should have a SAY in wheather she wants to stay with him! All girls with self respect and good self esteem would say NO, and kick his jerk @ss to the curb. If anything, make sure your friend just hooks up with him, as he is clearly not a good guy. He may be if he tries to better himself, but it is just plai wrong of him to act this way, when he has a girl who is investing her feelings and possibly LOVE in him. Talking with a girl your attracted to, and having an animated conversation, where is is obvious the guy is attracted to the girl, is innocuous - After all, you cannot help it if you happen to bump into a girl who is attractive, and who also wants to have a conversation with you. The " conversational" flirting, where two people click and are attracted, cannot be helped. As long as my boyfriend does not get their NUMBEr - great. No big deal. Your friend should not be a part of this. Yes, he would cheat anyway, but it is morally wrong to be involved in a girls pain - the best thing she could do, is to say to him " look, I want to encourage you to do the right thing - either get out of the relationship if your not totally committed and into your girlfriend, or committ to her if she is worth it, and stop flirting and being a jerk" I always try to do the best thing for everyone - in his case, your friend would do her best by alerting him to the " right" option, and seeing if he follows through. He needs to make a desision on his gf OR her.
Author CarbonCopy Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 She wants to sleep with him lol! Although I don't know if she wants a 'relationship' out of it too. But she definitely wants him sexually.
WeAllMightBeNuts Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 She wants to sleep with him lol! Although I don't know if she wants a 'relationship' out of it too. But she definitely wants him sexually. Alone, things will likely escalate to sex. Then, your friend will likely want a relationship. Past behavior is a good predictor of future behavior. So she should have zero complaints if he sleeps with others in the future even if a commitment has been verbalized or insinuated between them. Remember that.
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