rose45 Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I personally think online dating is hard but it's my only outlet after working, errands etc etc When you do finally talk and meet someone you think you could like and potentially be with--how do you deal with them continuing to log onto the site? I started talking with someone and we have gone out twice so far. (two days in a row) He seems like a good catch. It didn't bother me before we met that he logged on because it didn't seem too often but now since we met, for some reason it bothers me. We still are in some contact each day but I feel like maybe he is going on the site more often now making me think he made contact with someone else. I know we owe each other nothing at this point; we aren't exclusive, we just met. But it's just annoying after texting or talking to see he is logging onto the site. It makes me nervous because it already seems like there are slim pickings out there. I guess I am hoping this can continue to grow and I'm not competing with other girls (false hope, i know) How do I keep my cool and continue dating without ruining anything? I actually emailed him on the site joking saying guess who because I saw he was online and he wrote back joking around as well and I did the same. Nothing was said about why is he online or anything but I figure maybe he should know atleast that I am doing the same and know he is as well. How do I deal with that nervousness and touch of anxiety when I see he is going on the site? I know logically I should just ignore it, keep things light and fun, keep my cool and pretty much ignore all this until things develp (if they develop). But it's hard for me to do this I guess....
sid3 Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 It sounds like after two dates you are expecting a relationship and you are rationalizing your insecurity. Like the last poster suggested, stop checking up on him.
writergal Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Online dating is not for the insecure. If you go into it knowing that you're just someone's option until you become their priority then you'll be fine. But that goes the other way too; keep your options open until you find someone you want to date exclusively. Online dating is a numbers game. You have to go through a lot of profiles before you find the right one.
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