Green Light Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I don't do texting. I just don't like it. I have a phone and all and I know how to text but I would rather talk to someone in person. It seems like every thread on here mentions texting with the opposite sex while dating or pre-dating. Since I don't have any interest in texting will this be a big turn off for some women or don't they care?
FitChick Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I don't text. Just being on this forum has convinced me never to do it. 3
Dire Wolf Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Would it make you feel better to speak your texts? If you've got an iPhone with Siri or an Android phone you won't have to do much typing.
Feelsgoodman Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I don't do texting. I just don't like it. I have a phone and all and I know how to text but I would rather talk to someone in person. It seems like every thread on here mentions texting with the opposite sex while dating or pre-dating. Since I don't have any interest in texting will this be a big turn off for some women or don't they care? I don't think it's a turn off per se, but it would definitely make it more difficult to communicate and thus hurt your chances.
Thieves Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I'd find it a turn-on, actually. I admire a guy who prefers calling or talking face to face. Texting can be convenient, but I don't like to use it very often with somebody I'm interested in romantically. It's devoid of much emotion and can be misinterpreted way too easily. Plus, seeing as badly misspelled texts annoy me to hell... I'd be more than happy with a guy who didn't text much. 1
justrandomchicks1 Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I wondered that too but I guess if there are people like us who don't then there are others like us right>
tina783 Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Months back I was dating a guy who texted me very often.. at least once a day, who would take forever to plan dates (over text.) Well now I know that he clearly just wasn't that into me. I am now dating a guy who rarely texts but initiates seeing me very often and makes *gasp* PHONE CALLS. At first it was confusing and I was kind of like wtf I am not used to this, but now I am loving it. 1
Author Green Light Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Would it make you feel better to speak your texts? If you've got an iPhone with Siri or an Android phone you won't have to do much typing. No, that wouldn't make me feel better. I would prefer actual talking over the phone or better yet in person. 1
Author Green Light Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Plus, seeing as badly misspelled texts annoy me to hell... I'd be more than happy with a guy who didn't text much. I absolutely hate, hate, hate sloppy writing in any form. A few typos here and there, fine. We all do that, but not this lazy texting language that so many do these days. Please actually type out the the word "you" instead of just typing the letter "u"! 2
Author Green Light Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 I wondered that too but I guess if there are people like us who don't then there are others like us right> I don't know anymore. Methinks there will be many people walking around with squinty-square-eyes and nubs where their thumbs used to be 30 years from now.
Thieves Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I absolutely hate, hate, hate sloppy writing in any form. A few typos here and there, fine. We all do that, but not this lazy texting language that so many do these days. Please actually type out the the word "you" instead of just typing the letter "u"! Yeah, you would think the shorter the word, the easier it would be to just type it out... but nope. You know you're not a natural born texter when you feel out of place actually spelling things out in a text message, like I do. Such is life.
mortensorchid Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Well ... I know of one person who has a cell and doesn't text. That's not too odd. I would make sure to inform whoever it is that you are trying to communicate with that they are to call and not text, because we automatically assume that everyone texts. If someone is trying to text, you will get a bounce back message automatically saying "landline" or "does not accept text". But, make sure you have a cell phone. It's just plain ridiculous and almost neglegent to not have one.
Author Green Light Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Yeah, you would think the shorter the word, the easier it would be to just type it out... but nope. You know you're not a natural born texter when you feel out of place actually spelling things out in a text message, like I do. Such is life. I'll one-up you! You know you're not a natural born texter when you hold the phone in one hand and type the letters one by one with the index finger on your other hand. That's what I do.
phineas Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 (edited) I don't do texting. I just don't like it. I have a phone and all and I know how to text but I would rather talk to someone in person. It seems like every thread on here mentions texting with the opposite sex while dating or pre-dating. Since I don't have any interest in texting will this be a big turn off for some women or don't they care? women text too much. way too much. maybe men do also but my male friends grunt at me over text & i grunt back & plans just work out. LOL! But I tell women upfront I prefer to do my communicating face to face. It pretty much forces them to either meet me or not. forever texters loose interest & find easier targets. Also, i've had women text me & I just stare at the screen wondering WTF i'm looking at. I see some horrible, horrible,horrible spelling and grammar & I know they have a smart phone that spell checks for them. seriously? Edited June 28, 2012 by phineas
Author Green Light Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 I see some horrible, horrible,horrible spelling and grammar & I know they have a smart phone that spell checks for them. seriously? I believe you because I've seen Twitter and what people [ahem] write on there and some of it is utter nonsense. I don't even know how they can be so bad.
Thieves Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I'll one-up you! You know you're not a natural born texter when you hold the phone in one hand and type the letters one by one with the index finger on your other hand. That's what I do. I used to do that too! Unfortunately, I've gotten pretty good at actually using my thumbs, but half the time I just say "Screw it" and resort back to your method. Guess we both better adapt then, huh? Or not... women text too much. way too much. Ahhh... hate to say it, but for once I actually agree with this generalization. I remember back in high school, I'd always see many girls in my class texting 24/7 under their desks. And I literally cannot count the number of times I've seen a woman texting while driving on the freeway. How... do they do that? I can barely text while eating!
writergal Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Texting and dating is a bad combination. I'm old-school like you and prefer talking on the phone. You can always block your text feature on your cellphone and let your dates know that they have to actually call you. Texting is lame and I only use it to say I'm running late/on time or to ask a quick question. But conversations via text? Yuck. I didn't buy my first cellphone until my 30s and survived high school and college without access to the internet. I don't tweet or IM either. I'll do Skype with friends who live abroad but won't do long distance dating.
monkey00 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I don't think it will. Usually these days I only text to make dates. If I fall into a relationship with a girl then I'll use the phone for both texting and calling. I think the times where me and another girl has texted daily it was either the case that she wasn't really into me or I wasn't really into her....it was more the case that we were using each other to pass time. I find having a conversation through text extremely inconvenient. I would much rather have a lengthy conversation via e-mail that's thought out or a nice phone conversation. Less is more.
Author Green Light Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 I used to do that too! Unfortunately, I've gotten pretty good at actually using my thumbs, but half the time I just say "Screw it" and resort back to your method. Guess we both better adapt then, huh? Or not... Or not. I'm not much of an adapter! Texting is a love it or hate it kind of thing and I hate it.
Author Green Light Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Texting is lame and I only use it to say I'm running late/on time or to ask a quick question. But conversations via text? Yuck. I didn't buy my first cellphone until my 30s and survived high school and college without access to the internet. I don't tweet or IM either. I'll do Skype with friends who live abroad but won't do long distance dating. I've been thinking that an internet/texting/Facebook/Twitter detox clinic would be a good business to start in about a decade or so because people will be so burned out with all this attention span destroying "communication." Like you I only do Skype with a couple of people and that's it. No texting, Twitter, Facebook, etc. I'm going on year 15 with the internet and I'm pretty burned out with it myself. 1
Author Green Light Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 I don't think it will. Usually these days I only text to make dates. If I fall into a relationship with a girl then I'll use the phone for both texting and calling. I think the times where me and another girl has texted daily it was either the case that she wasn't really into me or I wasn't really into her....it was more the case that we were using each other to pass time. I find having a conversation through text extremely inconvenient. I would much rather have a lengthy conversation via e-mail that's thought out or a nice phone conversation. Less is more. You got that right. Sometimes I even dream about writing an actual letter and putting it in the mail but who would I send it too? These days people would open it and not know what to do with it!
writergal Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I've been thinking that an internet/texting/Facebook/Twitter detox clinic would be a good business to start in about a decade or so because people will be so burned out with all this attention span destroying "communication." Like you I only do Skype with a couple of people and that's it. No texting, Twitter, Facebook, etc. I'm going on year 15 with the internet and I'm pretty burned out with it myself. Can I be your first client? It's so unhealthy, all this technology. That would make a great conversation in another thread - the side effects of being connected to technology 24/7. My sister sent her daughter off to camp this week for a week and when my niece asked why she couldn't bring her cellphone, my sister rolled her eyes and said, "because there's no reception or internet where you're going" which made me laugh out loud. And I completely agree with you that all this instant messaging and texting and tweeting is destroying our attention spans, distorting social skills of the Y generation (who would rather text than talk to friends in person). I have a LAN line phone and have totally downgraded my cellphone plan to just a phone with voicemail now. A month ago I had an expensive media package with texting, internet access to Facebook and Email and just got sick of being so connected to...a phone! So now that's its a basic cellphone with voicemail and no internet access I feel way more independent from it. I see people driving and texting on the freeway all the time. Like, what the he*l is wrong with those people that they just have to check their email or text someone while they're driving 65 mph.
monkey00 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 You got that right. Sometimes I even dream about writing an actual letter and putting it in the mail but who would I send it too? These days people would open it and not know what to do with it! I used to be old fashioned and made dates via phone calls. These days it's all about texting for everyone to make plans. It feels so insincere and impersonal. But this is 2012 and I have to keep up with new trends. If not I won't get any dates. It's so silly too because anyone I know would easily respond to a text, but when I call they would rather ignore my phone call and let it go to VM...it's just so stupid. The snail mail thing is great. Since virtually no one does it these days, it's nice to actually receive something in the mail. I send postcards sometimes when I"m overseas. And I have friends who mail letters once in awhile to keep in touch. 1
Author Green Light Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Can I be your first client? Sure, but I have to detox myself first! It's so unhealthy, all this technology. That would make a great conversation in another thread - the side effects of being connected to technology 24/7. My sister sent her daughter off to camp this week for a week and when my niece asked why she couldn't bring her cellphone, my sister rolled her eyes and said, "because there's no reception or internet where you're going" which made me laugh out loud.The poor kids will probably get the shakes from the withdrawl! I'm kind of glad we didn't have this stuff when I was a kid. I went out and played in the dirt and with other kids. It was nice. And I completely agree with you that all this instant messaging and texting and tweeting is destroying our attention spans, distorting social skills of the Y generation (who would rather text than talk to friends in person). I spent a little time on Twitter a few years ago and I have no idea what people were [ahem] talking about on there. It was just a bunch of people shouting out random c**p about nothing and most everything was misspelled. Couldn't take it! I have a LAN line phone and have totally downgraded my cellphone plan to just a phone with voicemail now. Same here. I have a prepaid cell phone and doing anything internet related sucks up the minutes so that makes it just a regular phone for me. A month ago I had an expensive media package with texting, internet access to Facebook and Email and just got sick of being so connected to...a phone! So now that's its a basic cellphone with voicemail and no internet access I feel way more independent from it.Good for you! It's good to get control of these things. I've even had the thought of canceling the home Internet and taking the laptop to the library if I needed it. Basically I'm just tired of looking into a screen period. I see people driving and texting on the freeway all the time. Like, what the he*l is wrong with those people that they just have to check their email or text someone while they're driving 65 mph.I know it's crazy isn't it. Reading that text is more important than their, and everyone else's, life. 1
Author Green Light Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 I used to be old fashioned and made dates via phone calls. These days it's all about texting for everyone to make plans. It feels so insincere and impersonal. But this is 2012 and I have to keep up with new trends. If not I won't get any dates. It's so silly too because anyone I know would easily respond to a text, but when I call they would rather ignore my phone call and let it go to VM...it's just so stupid. Then who needs them?! I have friends who have basically dropped me because I refuse to do Facebook. They are too lazy to pick up the phone and call people or even write an email. They would rather do mass updates to everybody at once via Facebook. Come on! I'm your friend not you fan! The snail mail thing is great. Since virtually no one does it these days, it's nice to actually receive something in the mail. I send postcards sometimes when I"m overseas. And I have friends who mail letters once in awhile to keep in touch. I have not written or received a letter for many, many years. I would love to open the mailbox and actually get a letter from someone. Can't even imagine that. 1
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