beeze7877 Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Ok so me and my ex split up about 2 months ago after 4 years of relationship. She told me she needed time to think and find out who she is. Anyway i went no contact with her first 2 weeks, then i contacted her just to see how she was doing she responded rather quickly and seemed happy to hear from me, so from there i texted her maybe 2x a week and we been meeting now maybe once a week in a month. From the time we broke up it´s usually been me who has been initiating contact with her but she responds to it well. When we meet she acts around me like she is still my girlfriend, holding my hand, telling me how good i look and saying things like she misses me. She has also been asking if i´m dating someone at the moment, and even ask´s if i had slept with someone after the breakup, she tries to be cool about it but i know she is the jelous type. Anyway i then asked her after our last meeting if this was going somewhere because of the way she been acting when we are together, then she said she want´s to just keep meeting and see where it goes from there and she said if we are going to do this i want to do this right. Anyway after that conversation i just cut of contact with her i felt like i was beeing played, cuple of day´s later she has been starting up conversations with me trough texts mostly small talk how i been, what i´ve been doing who i´m hanging out with. I do wanna make it work with her but also i´m a little closed because i´m protecting myself from getting hurt. It´s killing me inside of not knowing. So my question is do you think she still like´s me and want´s to get back together but doesnt want to make a drama about it in a conversation, but on the other hand i think maybe she is playing me ?? Dont know what to do? Any advice would be much appriciated
WeAllMightBeNuts Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 She is playing games. It's none of her business if you are seeing anyone, right? She won't make any type of commitment or exclusivity to you, right? Tell her you are looking for someone that is more open and serious toward you rather than being vague. Also tell her you want to keep your options open as you are ready for someone that does not want to play these games. She will either see the light and verbalize she wants you or she will bounce.
Author beeze7877 Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 i just cant seem to know why she is playing game´s with me is she just trying to keep me all for her self until she finds someone new or she doesn´t know how to go about the situation with the 2 of us anyway i think i have to have a talk with her and find out
Mallow Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 She is playing games. She wants you to herself while she seeks out other options. I would cut ties with her, go straight NC. Tell her that you refuse to be an option to her. It's not worth investing in someone who doesn't give you the same respect back. Don't play into her games, show her that you're capable of moving on.
Samilia Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 She's playing games yes. She probably doesn't want to be alone, and she likes to know she has you around, if she wants you to be. Eventually she'll date another guy and she'll tell you that your relationship isn't working out the way she wants it to. I should know, it kills me to be on my own again. I could go for my ex again, just to have someone around. Walk away, find someone who wants to be with you all the time, not just on their own terms.
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