dhdh310 Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 So me and my now exgirlfriend was dating for almost a year and a half. The relationship was great we were always just so much in love that I honestly never thought that this would end. We were happy until about this last month and something just seemed to start to go bad. This all started when she all of the sudden wanted to hang out with these two other guys. I did not like the idea of this but I was trying to look into it by saying if there is more than just you and those two guys it is not as hard to think about. But it went on she was texting she even went as far to skype one of them and say that she was lonely at night and just wanted to let me sleep. By the way she had told me she was going to bed. Well we went through this and almost thought it was ending there but we made it through it and what I thought was happening is our relationship was just getting stronger. This is when she started to talk about just wanting to have fun in her senior year with her friends not really ever mentioning me like I was just there for when she wasn't busy. Then I thought the discussion was over she had a camp in which she goes to once a year where she is like a counselor for a middle school camp. I guess it is most like a church camp. She has other fellow counselors that are mostly her age or around it. The first day I got a call from her in the middle of the night she was crying saying she just wanted to come home and be with me. I wasn't opposed because I missed her but they would not let her come back. So we made it through the week and the friday she got home She wanted to go out with the very same people to the movies, I tried to be open to this but i had missed her and I really wanted to see her. I got over it she said she would be home early enough to hang out... this didn't happen instead she took a friend home and I was calling and she never answered. this is when we started fighting every night. She continued to go to this camp for smaller kids the next week even though she didn't have to. After she got back she still the weekend she went back to hang out with those people both nights instead of being with me. the next day she got back she didn't want to do much because she told me she wanted 'me' time. I began to get mad thinking she is avoiding me. The next day we ended up mutually agreeing to break up and the main reason is because she wanted to have fun her senior year. She is not the partying type. We have kind of been small talking the last couple of days. I bought her like a promise ring. and never gave it to her until I went to take her stuff to her i told her i had nothing better to do with it so she could have it. She went on to show me today that she is now wearing the ring on a necklace to remind her of me. "She said to give me piece of mind just remember your always with me even when were not together." I am confused I still love her to death and she claims to love me until the end. She said she wants to be with me in the future but not now. What should i do cut the communication off its hard for me when I'm still in love. Sorry for the long post but a responce would be nice.
Philosoraptor Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Seems like she was honest that she wants to have fun without the pressure of a relationship. She also seems to want you on the back burner just in case she wants the relationship back in the end. If you can't handle her out having her fun and possibly dating/"being" with other guys then no contact would be your best choice here. 1
flitzanu Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 back away quickly. "i want to be with you in the future" = i don't want to be with you but i want to keep you wrapped around my finger for when i'm bored or lonely.
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