ishika Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 i know, i'm going to get a lot of advises on how i should stop thinking about this and etc. but first let me tell you, in my country, teacher and student love relationship is ALLOWED. i have a lot of friends who are married to their teachers! i am having classes of this teacher since last term, been about 6 months dat i know him. we are freinds on a social site, we do talk a lot on there (just to let you know we do have a little bit of friendship like something outside the class) but that's nothing major. not of that sort where i can ask him for a date or something you know. i also do not want him to think i'm desperate. he's in his mid 30's. and i'm in my early 20's. i know that he his divorced. he is a very understanding, mature, charming personality. he seems to like me, he likes me as a student atleast. but he is sort of moody, so he makes it really hard for me to guess whether he is interested or not. i really don't know actually. i can not propose him directly, after all he's a teacher! considering above situations, what would you suggest me to do to get him thinking about me seriously?
Author ishika Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 Wow. You move on fast, don't you? if you're saying that from my previous post, read it again dear. that was completely a different thing where i wanted to know about someone else's feeling for me. this one is about "me".
veggirl Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 If teacher / student Rs are so openly accepted and smiled upon in your country then why can't you proposition him? Perhaps he's not interested if he's not approaching you. How did your friends get together with their teacher boyfriends?
denise_xo Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 teacher and student love relationship is ALLOWED. They might be allowed, but do you think hooking up with your teacher is very smart?
Author ishika Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 If teacher / student Rs are so openly accepted and smiled upon in your country then why can't you proposition him? Perhaps he's not interested if he's not approaching you. How did your friends get together with their teacher boyfriends? i don't know, have not heard the love stories. i can not propose him simply because i'm shy, and if there's any chance he's totally not interested about me then i don't want to embarrass him or make him feel that i'm desperate.
Author ishika Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 They might be allowed, but do you think hooking up with your teacher is very smart? there's nothing wrong in it, it is accepted and there's no reason for it not to be accepted either.
Oxy Moronovich Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 If you want him to think about you seriously then dress sexy and see how he responds.
veggirl Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Ookay. Well how much longer will he be your teacher for? Maybe on the last day you could email him or something, then even if he says no you won't have to see him again?
Author ishika Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 If you want him to think about you seriously then dress sexy and see how he responds. i hope that was not intended to make fun of it.
denise_xo Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 there's nothing wrong in it, it is accepted and there's no reason for it not to be accepted either. I'm not asking if it's accepted, I'm asking if you think it's smart, when he is the person who is going to set the grades for your course.
Author ishika Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 Ookay. Well how much longer will he be your teacher for? Maybe on the last day you could email him or something, then even if he says no you won't have to see him again? that sounds good. he is leaving the institute pretty soon. i'll see if i can convince myself for doing this. that's a good advise. thanks.
Author ishika Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 I'm not asking if it's accepted, I'm asking if you think it's smart, when he is the person who is going to set the grades for your course. i should not say this but IF we really get together, this won't be a problem. but if i get rejected then it might cause trouble, who knows. this is also a reason why i'm afraid to ask him out.
denise_xo Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 i should not say this but IF we really get together, this won't be a problem. but if i get rejected then it might cause trouble, who knows. this is also a reason why i'm afraid to ask him out. How do you know that?
denise_xo Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 common sense OK. Well, my common sense tells me that it is not in my interest to get involved with someone who has the power to rate my academic work, since we could very well have a really ugly fall out the day before he is to mark all the exams, and that could affect how he sets my grade.
stillafool Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 i considering above situations, what would you suggest me to do to get him thinking about me seriously? I think if you start studying your grammar and punctuation instead of worrying about a romance with your Teacher he will take you more seriously.
Snakechammah Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Before I start yakking away about attracting him.... Make sure he is OFFICIALLY divorced and single and ready to mingle. No point doing anything only to realize he's a cheating douchebag. My advice is NOT to chase him. Let him chase you. Create oppotunities for him to ask you out. Like a poster said, dress sexy - I repeat 'sexy, not slutty' - look at him and flirt - gaze into his eyes during classes and coyly turn away, ask him a question about the subject, when his talking, lick your lips slowly (when he catches you doing that, pretend nothing happened and coyly bite your pen).... Surprise him with your actions. Excite him! Do subtle body language. Don't try to chitchat to him. Let him come to you. Stop being a friend-friend to him. No more mutual meet-ups after school UNLESS it's an official date. Make him think of you as a potential partner. Stand out, don't fade into the background. And at the end of the day - if he doesn't take the bait after ALL that mascara batting and come-hither looks, forget it. He's not worth another tube of mascara. No loss. You can't be rejected if you didn't ask... Move on to the next conquest. Maybe a man who's not your teacher this time. Good luck.
ladyabstrused Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 i know, i'm going to get a lot of advises on how i should stop thinking about this and etc. but first let me tell you, in my country, teacher and student love relationship is ALLOWED. i have a lot of friends who are married to their teachers! i am having classes of this teacher since last term, been about 6 months dat i know him. we are freinds on a social site, we do talk a lot on there (just to let you know we do have a little bit of friendship like something outside the class) but that's nothing major. not of that sort where i can ask him for a date or something you know. i also do not want him to think i'm desperate. he's in his mid 30's. and i'm in my early 20's. i know that he his divorced. he is a very understanding, mature, charming personality. he seems to like me, he likes me as a student atleast. but he is sort of moody, so he makes it really hard for me to guess whether he is interested or not. i really don't know actually. i can not propose him directly, after all he's a teacher! considering above situations, what would you suggest me to do to get him thinking about me seriously? When you say propose, I assume you mean propose dating? I'd be weary to go ahead with it, if I were you. But since you say it's a norm in your culture, then why don't you just go ahead tell him how you feel. At least talk about it and come to an agreement whatever the outcome is. If he's interested then you guys are good to go but of course we don't know what consequences will come because I'm sure there's more to this than what you write on your OP. If he's not interested, at least get a mutual understanding between both of you to move on professionally as student and teacher or friends (don't know what you would call your relationship with him to be). Anyway, if it were me, I wouldn't even try.
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