ishika Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 hello, i'm new to the forum. there is this guy who had got me thinking a lot. need your suggestions about it. we are both in our early 20s, he's a bit older, one or two years. here are the sings i want to know about: *he gets up from the middle of any conversation with his friends when he sees me to talk to me. *he seems to enjoy spending time with me, he never says "see you later then", it has to be me always to say "i should go now" *he has tried giving me hints that a lot of girls dream about him (which is true) *he compliments my intelligence and maturity. he says that i'm intellectual, he compliments my talents. *he is concerned about my health issues. *he shows a lot of respect towards me *tells me that i should get married :/ *his friends tease him when they see us together *in conversation with me, if i look directly to his eyes for long, he looks away. feels like he doesn't want to get mesmerized by the eye contact. now the thing is, he did all this before he got a girlfriend. yes, he has a girlfriend now, and we have known each other since he had not even met his new gf. and he always gave this hints, before he had a gf, also now when he has one. we were always like friends, he's a senior at my university so we don't really get much time with each other as we do not have common classes. i am too introvert as a person, it's hard to understand for people what i want, or am thinking etc. so it could also be that he thinks i'm never gonna think about him in that way and moved on and got a new gf. but he's still the SAME! he's still talking to me leaving his friends gang, still concerned about me, still gets jealous when i talk about others and gets quite angry when i don't pay the same attention to him (he has not admitted so though). the only thing which has changed is his friends don't tease him when i'm around, may be that's because they think he has moved on. i can not think that he wants to "use" me as i'm an average looking girl, i'm not a "hot" thingy. on the other hand, he is a heart throb of the university. he pays attention to me as he does to no one else, but he behaves strangely when with his gf. tries to avoid me but still makes the eye contact that his gf wouldn't notice. tried to make me jealous of her telling me indirectly that when he was single i did not pay much attention to him and that now i know what i missed. oh and his gf is real, my friends tell me that he could have this fake gf to make me jealous but i don't think it is so. what does this guy have in his mind?! what should i do? if he IS interested i would consider thinking about it, i think.
Emilia Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 So the question is, do you want to be involved with a guy who would potentially cheat on his girlfriend with you? What then? Would he cheat on you too? Most likely he just likes attention from girls by the way. Not great boyfriend material 1
Author ishika Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 So the question is, do you want to be involved with a guy who would potentially cheat on his girlfriend with you? What then? Would he cheat on you too? Most likely he just likes attention from girls by the way. Not great boyfriend material no, just the opposite. i do not want this to continue, that is why i want to be sure about what really is happening. the summary of my story was that he seemed interested, i needed time to realize things and by then he thought i'm not interested at all and he tried to move on getting a gf. but he still seems interested the same way. i wish he could talk about it with me.
Emilia Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 When a guy gets a girlfriend your history with him becomes irrelevant. You have to push him out of your mind and move on. If keeps trying to trap you, you tell him to go and talk to his girlfriend and leave you alone.
Emilia Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 You sound like a really nice girl with a good head on your shoulders, he isn't worth your time. Seriously.
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