Titanwolf Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Came back home from work today and my neighbour (nice elderly lady) says she saw one of my family friends (whom she knows) kissing a girl around the corner. Now, the problem with this is, he's engaged. Now I'm not judging him and I don't know what his reasons were, but it seems like every time I consider a relationship again, there's something in life that says "Dafuq is wrong with you?" True story. Also, when you find those rare gems who are truly able to remain faithful, finding a partner who is equally adamant in exclusivity, is damn near impossible. Would you say, most people view monogamy as outdated?
Emilia Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I think some people have always had a problem with it (cheating is as old as human kind) and some have always wanted to embrace it. Women have more opportunities nowdays because we don't stay at home with the kids anymore but whether you have moral fibre or not goes beyond that. Men have always had opportunities.
Negative Nancy Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 saw one of my family friends (whom she knows) kissing a girl around the corner. Now, the problem with this is, he's engaged typical behavior for men, so no real surprise there
HHC Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 typical behavior for men, so no real surprise there Cut that crap out. For some people monogamy is easy, for other's it's very difficult and they try to be someone they aren't. All people need to do is be honest with who they are and what they need and mate with like minded people in regards to that issue. I've kissed many men and women and even slept with another man. My husband knows about everything and it was never cheating. Just because someone is kissing another person doesn't automatically mean they are cheating.
Author Titanwolf Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 For some people monogamy is easy, for other's it's very difficult and they try to be someone they aren't. All people need to do is be honest with who they are and what they need and mate with like minded people in regards to that issue. I've kissed many men and women and even slept with another man. My husband knows about everything and it was never cheating. Just because someone is kissing another person doesn't automatically mean they are cheating. I agree with the first two paragraphs but, if I may, are you in an open relationship? It's considered cheating when both parties are in a relationship that they've declared to be exclusive, hence marriage. Also, under what circumstances would kissing not be considered cheating? bar a kiss on the cheek/hand etc.
HHC Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I agree with the first two paragraphs but, if I may, are you in an open relationship? It's considered cheating when both parties are in a relationship that they've declared to be exclusive, hence marriage. Also, under what circumstances would kissing not be considered cheating? bar a kiss on the cheek/hand etc. My husband and I decide what is cheating and what isn't. My behaviour isn't cheating and I do it with his approval.
fucpcg Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 In my 42 years I've never cheated on a girl. I wouldn't respect any man who would be with and cheat on one of my five sisters, and I wouldn't respect myself if I cheated. 5
somedude81 Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 People who cheat are scum and should be banned from relationships with non-cheaters. 5
Author Titanwolf Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 People who cheat are scum and should be banned from relationships with non-cheaters. Seems a little extreme but I can understand why you feel that way. The problem I have with cheating is, a lot of genuine people are cheated on, thus corrupting them and allowing the cycle to continue when they do it to someone else. If they don't, then they'll at least never be able to think as innocently as they once did. I've never been cheated on but I've always said that I'd rather take a bullet to the head (srs). If it does happen in the future, others will suffer the consequences of "another's" mistake (if it was even a mistake). That's my opinion on that matter. 1
Negative Nancy Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 and men wonder why women are bitter and jaded
El Brujo Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 To be blunt, I don't find the quality of today's women to even be worth cheating on. You'd just be ducking out on one disappointment for another disappointment. So... yeah, I'm faithful---to being openly asexual, and damn happy with it.
utterer of lies Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Would you say, most people view monogamy as outdated? Outdated? No. It's a relatively new concept.
Feelsgoodman Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Cut that crap out. For some people monogamy is easy, for other's it's very difficult and they try to be someone they aren't. All people need to do is be honest with who they are and what they need and mate with like minded people in regards to that issue. I've kissed many men and women and even slept with another man. My husband knows about everything and it was never cheating. Just because someone is kissing another person doesn't automatically mean they are cheating. Is your husband sleeping with other people too? Or is he just whipped?
Feelsgoodman Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Outdated? No. It's a relatively new concept. This. Monogamy is a social construct that is not natural to humankind. That's why it takes great effort to remain monogamous and committed to one person. 1
grkBoy Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I never cheat. I remember when I was a pre-teen, I saw a girl fall apart when she found out her boyfriend was cheating on her. Just from watching her emotionally fall apart, I vowed never to do that to a girl in my life. IMHO, those with plenty of options are more likely to cheat. 4
AD1980 Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 and men wonder why women are bitter and jaded :rolleyes: My buddy walked into his apartment to find his wife with another guy,a few weeks later he found out it wasnt just a one time fling and that she was going out with him a year prior to that..its not just men both genders cheat
FitChick Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I've never had a problem being faithful. It's a lot easier than trying to come up with different stories and lies to tell your boyfriend.
Author Titanwolf Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 I'm more of a "Actions speak louder than words, kind of guy" but I don't doubt you guys. It puts me at ease to know that there are people out there like us, who are strong enough not to damage someone like that. I was beginning to think I was in the minority
Sanman Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Can anyone remain faithful? No, but some people can. It really depends on the person and their outlook. I feel that one of the larger problems in (at least western) society today is how we pick our mates. It is usually based on looks, money, fun and excitement, etc. However, people only later, if at all, consider character, dedication, communication style, ability to compromise, and other factors in deciding upon a mate. By that time, you are already attached to this person and do not want to leave them. Thus, you put up with less than ideal circumstances many times. In my newest relationship, I talked to my gf for months before we met (as we were long-distance) and really got to know her character. The end result was that she was not as attractive as the women I dated before her (though still attractive), but her personality was more compatible and her character is several steps above that of most other women I have dated. Despite distance, I have no doubts about her faithfulness and commitment because of the type of person she is. She is also the first woman I have dated that I have no reservations marrying in the future. So, monogamy is possible, but you need to be selective in choosing a mate. 2
SJC2008 Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 If you've been cheated on I can understand that it's easy to say most men or women cheat but in reality men do cheat more than women but most men and women don't cheat. According to one statistic, 75% of men and 90% of women remain faithful in marriages. The only thing is what percentage of prople taking the survey are tellinv the TRUTH?? They say women cheat for "emotional" reasons and men cheat for physical reasons. Funny how sex is involved in both situations.
yongyong Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I don't think I will stay faithful to any American women. Banging several women while dating her (not bf/gf yet), makes you more attractive. Having few options make her chase you. Have banged many women and being experienced with women makes you more attractive. As you give her more affection, you will see more attitudes from her. If you are in a relationship, tell her how she is the only one for you and you will commit to her and let us know what happend after few months.......ROFL
Woggle Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 typical behavior for men, so no real surprise there It seems pretty typical for women these days too.
Author Titanwolf Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 I don't think I will stay faithful to any American women. Banging several women while dating her (not bf/gf yet), makes you more attractive. Having few options make her chase you. Have banged many women and being experienced with women makes you more attractive. As you give her more affection, you will see more attitudes from her. If you are in a relationship, tell her how she is the only one for you and you will commit to her and let us know what happend after few months.......ROFL Well I already decided that if I were to decide to get married, it'd be to someone from the east. We have things backwards up here, me thinks.
FitChick Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I don't think I will stay faithful to any American women. Why would you stay faithful to a Chinese woman?
yongyong Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I am nothing to do with chinese. Marriage here is more likely a business contract. If one party doesn't get profit by being with other partner, they will end the contract. eventually I will marry some american chick. If she becomes unattractive (gaining weight, aging faster, taking anti-depressant) or the better girl comes along, I would leave her. (Vice versa) Why would you stay faithful to a Chinese woman?
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