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I need some advice guys you've been brilliant on peoples posts, so a little help here would be greatly appreciated.

 

Its been about 2 months since my break up and it's been 21 days of non contact but I've suddenly had this urge to text my ex and get back with her. I've just suddenly missed her so so much more than normal. I keep having these really vivid dreams about her and it doesn't help when Im trying to put the past behind me.

 

It was a mutual break up but we left it for a week to see how we got on without each other, when we met up again I wanted us to be back together and she didn't at the moment and 'there was a possibility of us in the future' yeah... Right.

 

But she wanted to stay in contact with me and see me to go out together but I said I couldn't and deleted her off everything. I said a very polite goodbye and said I still love you lots etc but I can't stay as friends. So that's why I feel guilty because she wanted to keep seeing me and text me, but she didn't want to lose me (if you read my earlier posts on this you'll see the story)

 

She never replied to this civil text anyways. So what do you think I should do? Suppress my desire to text her? Or drop her a text?

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It sounds like it was a mutual break, but not a mutual break-up.

 

I would say absolutely not -- don't send any texts or make contact. But your energy into YOURSELF and your own healing and moving on and let her miss you.

 

There's so much good advice here on toughing it out through the early days of NC, keep reading through the threads as it sounds like your situation definitely applies!

 

The constant thinking about her and vivid dreams are completely normal. They'll fade over time, and if you're having trouble with sleeping or eating those will normalize too.

 

The best advice -- other than absolutely sticking to NC! -- I was given after a bad breakup is to exercise, it really helps.

 

You're correct to have deleted her off everything and cut contact. Lots of dumpers want to keep contact or try being "friends" to soften the blow and help ease themselves into life without us.

 

Keep posting here when you need to. You're doing GREAT!

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