thistle Posted July 3, 2004 Posted July 3, 2004 I am currently in a 18 month dating relationship that has wonderful possibilities for a committed relationship. We both feel that lifestyle compatibility is important and we are both objective with each other. We have many things in common together and we love and appreciate each other. I feel that marriage is a blending of 2 individuals. We have common goals financially, socially etc... Each month we have the same discussion: Do our lifestyles fit? He wants to go to a third world country and devote a few years to Medical Missionary work and I also want to do the same and have wanted to do this before I met him. Today he told me that he thinks that I should find someone who is more like me in my lifestyle--- he feels that he is short changing me. I am perfectly happy with what we are doing and involved in and our goals are very similar for the future and what we want to do to help mankind. Why when everything is going so good does he say this. Is he rechecking my position or what. Of course we are not exactly alike, but we are happy and have similar goals and mission.
msrealdoll Posted July 5, 2004 Posted July 5, 2004 Is it possible that he doesn't have the same feelings for you as you do for him? When the subject of marriage comes up, who brings it up-you or him? If you, how does he respond? It could be that he's just insecure about what he can offer you, or is seeking reassurance about your feelings for him.
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