This new guy?

[monie33]

Ok I promise to keep this as short as possible. Ok so met a guy named Jay on a dating website called Plenty of Fish and I'm 21 and he's 23. and we chated on the there for a couple of weeks until he finally got my number. We started to then causally text via phone and then eventually we started talking over the phone. I forgot to mention he is in the miltary. So anyway when we first started texting/talking he would always text me first in the morning and call me everyday. We have great convos and he always makes me laugh and I feel all giddy everytime I talk to him. Even when he visited his family, after a year of not seeing them, he was calling me and texting me everyday when he was away on vacation for 2 weeks. Well after about a month of talking we decided to meet each other. He said that he wanted to come visit me (we live about 45 mins apart) but everytime we plan on doing so something pops up and he can't make it (this has happened three times) and well I understand that things come up and I was semi fine with that. Anyway we have been talking for almost two months and last weekend I decided to visit him. So I went down there and we meet and of course I like him he's very funny ect. Well I spent the night there and around 5 in the morning his phone starts ringing recieving a call and then he got two text mesg from a girl. (no I didnt snoop in his phone it just popped up on the screen) So I was a little upset because he told me awhile back that I was the only girl he is talking to and I kinda believed him ( I mean he is a guy in the military and girls love that kind of stuff.) Well the next day I asked him in a playful manner "Was that your girlfriend texting you last night?" and he replied "no, that's not my girlfriend, I got some calls from my mom." so I blew it off. Well I lefted for home on a good note with him stating he'll visit me next weekend. So when I get home he calls asking me if I called another girl from his phone because his 'homegirl' said that some female called her saying something about messing around with Jay. I don't really know what that meant but I told him no, and he said ok but he wasn't really worried about her because he's talking to me anyway.Now he's barely talking to me and he hasnt dont this before weather he's busy or not. I know since being in the military it does keep you busy but I have a weird vibe that something is wrong and he doesnt have interested in me anymore. Well my question is what should I do about Jay? I mean I really like him and he's the first guy I've actually like since me and my ex broke up ( we were off and on for about a year, and he really broke my heart) and I want to keep seeing Jay but I really REALLY don't want to get hurt again from a guy and I'm trying to take things slow and control my emotions but I tend to fall hard for guys. What should I do? I mean he still texts me but not that much but the work week has started so he might be super busy. I like this guy but I really dont have time to get hurt again. Pls help!!

[Quest4_TheLost]

No ones mom calls them at 5am.. I'm just going to put it simply. This guy sounds like a player. Some girl called him saying some girl card her. Its prob his gf.. He has blown you off 3 times. Probably plans came up with someone else.. He isn't txting you as much which says he probably got what he wanted. He isn't txting you much cause he isn't that interested in you. FOr whatever reason. A guy thats interested will txt and call MORE! Not less..

Cut your losses sweety. If a guy stands me up on a date without a really good reason he dosen't get another chance..

[mortensorchid]

I agree with the OP, no one's Mom calls at 5 am unless it's a true emergency. And no one has that many emergencies or need to call/text at 5 am. Also, this is suspicious that he has never come to see you on your turf. He's not very serious about you. Whatever is or isn't going on with those mysterious phone calls / text messages is one thing, but he does not take you very seriously. You should reconsider this whole situation because there are only so many excuses one can give until it turns into a bald faced lie.