angedemusique87 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 (edited) So this is probably going to be quite long but I really need some opinions on this situation... My boyfriend and I were together and very happy for two years. We lived together and it was great. For about the last three months of our relationship (we broke up about a little over a month ago) his friend moved in with us because he was kicked out of his house. Me and his friend had a few minor arguments but were mostly quite civil with each other. However, once he moved in, I noticed my boyfriend and I started arguing a bit. I believe this was because we no longer had our own space to just be us, you know. Then one day he just told me he wants to break up and told me to get out. It was very heartbreaking. However, he was talking to some of my friends about the breakup and they said he was very upset about it and he cried about it for quite some time. He also cried when I went to go pick up all my stuff from our apartment. I didn't talk to him for a week or so then we got together and we ended up having sex, probably not the best idea but oh well lol. Then I didn't have much communication with him at all for a few more weeks. I text him again and we hung out a few days ago. The first thing he did when I walked in the door was hug and kiss me, like actually kiss me. Again, we ended up having sex, but he made sure to ask me if I really wanted to have sex. Then he was talking to me after and said some things that I just don't know how to take. His one stupid friend said that I cheated on him, which I most certainly did not, and now he says he doesn't know if he can trust me, but I don't know how to get him to believe me, all his "friend" was doing was trying to get him to stop crying over me! He also told me that he wishes he could turn to me and tell me he loves me but he just can't. He said his emotions for everything just aren't there anymore. When I say for everything, I really mean everything! He said he went to his little brother's tee ball game and he didn't care, he just wanted to go home and sleep. He doesn't enjoy writing or anything he used to, he doesn't enjoy his job like he used to and clearly he can't care for me like he used to. He said he enjoys working for himself and made it very clear to me, a few times, that he is not sleeping with anyone else and that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone. He said it hurts him that he can't give me a straight answer about what's going on with him or between us. He said he just can't find what makes him happy because nothing seems to make him happy anymore. Then he said he used to get anxiety when he saw me and now it's hard to even look at me because it hurts to remember how much he used to love me. I don't know. He told me that I shouldn't move away. He said he honestly can't give me an answer about what's going on or anything. He said he knows he's changed and even compared himself to a rock, just emotionless and kinda there. He said he goes to bed early, just wakes up and takes life by the day. He doesn't know what he wants to do with the rest of his life and nothing makes him happy. I'm concerned he might be in some sort of depression or something but he doesn't want to talk to me about it so, I don't know. Then before I left he kissed me on the hand and said he's like to be my friend at least because he dated me for two years and isn't going to just forget that. With everything he's saying and stuff he makes it seem like he wants to care but he just can't. I don't know what to do. We were always best friends and boyfriend/girlfriend. This isn't even about "omg I want him back!" even though I would love to have him back, it's more just, I don't know if he's okay or what he's going through and I'd really like to help him. Any thoughts about his feelings toward/for me through all this and what he might be going through or how to help him snap out of whatever he's going through. Thanks for those who actually read all this and t=I appreciate anyone who leaves some genuine help. <3 Edited June 26, 2012 by angedemusique87
Philosoraptor Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 He does sound like he's pretty messed up. What most concerns me is that he would just believe a friend saying you cheated. It doesn't sound like he trusted or cared much at all if he was able to throw it all away due to a bit of hearsay. I wouldn't rule out this all being a bunch of crap to relieve his guilt either.
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