tc37 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Hello everyone, Its been 2 months and 13 days since my ex dump me. It was really hard bcause he did without an explanation. I tried to call and text and got no answer. Finally, I gave up and decided to move on with my life. A month later I was still hurting badly. I text him..to my surprise he replied. I asked him what happened to us and he said that he wanted to make it work but I didn't believe in him. He apologize to me for the way he ended things. I told him that's not true and told him I think about him every day. His reply was that he's very lonely, but don't want to rush back to anything. I continue to text him randomly weeks apart, which he always replied to. He never initiate anything though. I finally gave up again and stopped contacting him. Then one day he text me asking if was raining on my end??? After that I text him couple more times and stopped. Its been about four weeks now and nothing. It's killing me that I can't stop thinking about him.I'm beginning to think maybe something is wrong with me. I've never been like this about a break up. I usually cry my heart, go out with my girls and move on. I keep myself pretty busy. I work, go to school, and even join a gym. I went as far as joining a dating site, which sucks..I deleted my account after two weeks. I'm in need of some advice please.
Fran1979 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I don'y have any advice because I am right in the same mess myself. Just love and miss him so badly. Maybe it will just help to know that I am on the other side of the world and feel the same. And there will be lots of poor girls feeling the same tonight. It helps me a little to remember that...and then I just text him so am no use to you lol! Hugs x
Author tc37 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 So sorry you're going through the same mess. God knows how bad it feels. I guess we can just support each other. It's always nice to know you're not alone. Try not to text him though, I know it's really really hard, but you can do it.
Philosoraptor Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 The most important thing to do when your heart is hurting is to take the focus off of the person you are obsessing over and place it on yourself. Treat yourself kindly and do the things you enjoy in life. Try not to focus on the past or future but be mindful of the moment instead. Enjoy the little things going on right now whether that be feeling the sunshine on your skin or taking the time to smell a flower. These things don't get better overnight so take it a moment at a time and try to find enjoyment in all of the little things going on.
Author tc37 Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 You're right Philosoraptor, but it's not easy. I'm trying really hard though.
Philosoraptor Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 You're right Philosoraptor, but it's not easy. I'm trying really hard though. It certainly is not. Just treat yourself well and be patient with yourself. DOn't expect a change overnight, but keep chipping away at it.
Author tc37 Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 Thanks! I'm going to treat myself to a movie this weekend. That stripper movie with Channing Tatum sounds pretty right now. Lol
StellaA Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I know how you are feeling, it's been 2 months for me and I still miss him a lot BUT I know contacting him will not do any good! You need to cut all contact to allow yourself to move on otherwise you are going to be stuck like this for ages and that would not be good! I don't want to feel like this forever and who knows what the future holds! by not contacting him you will know if he misses you and you want him to contact you if he wants to not because he feels he has to! You are important, put you first! Trust me, I know how hard it as and yes, I still have bad days but I have faith that there is only one way forward and it can't get worse! One day you will be strong and look back and really be proud of how you got through it and how it has made you the person you are. You will always remember him but give yourself some chance of happiness again by putting you first! You never know, you may find out sooner than later that it was just not meant to be and you will be happier! Don't expect miracles bit it will happen
Author tc37 Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 Thank you StellaA. I just wish that I can wake up one morning without him on my mind. There are much more important things to worry about, but yet I can't concentrate on those things because of him. It's kind of sickening.
StellaA Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 It will take time, mine is still on my mind all the time, that's whay I am trying to keep busy and then hope as each days goes by I think about him liess, even if it's 1 minute
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