iris219 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I CANNOT meet single men. I’ve met two this year. It’s like when I walk into a room, all the single men over 30 walk out the back door. I am not exaggerating when I say I don’t even SEE single men from a distance. I’m not even saying I don’t meet suitable men; I’m saying I don’t meet ANY men at all. I am out and about a lot. There are no single men at the coffee shop, at the gym, when I’m out with friends at night. There are none where I work (well, there’s one recently divorced older man who I tried to date last year, but it didn’t work out. He wasn’t over his ex and we didn’t have a connection anyway.). I don’t see them at the grocery store. I have friends who play on a co-ed sports team so sometimes I go to watch them play: no single men there either. None of my friends or coworkers know any single men, though they know lots of single women. I recently attended a wedding in a different sate. There wasn’t one single man (though this is common for weddings in the South. People rarely show up alone, though there were a couple single women). I’ve been to concerts and art events and still nothing. At first I thought it was the town where I live, but I’ve been to three major cities and a couple smaller towns this year and it’s the same thing. (In one of the major cities I saw a man my age who wasn’t with a woman a few hours before I was flying home. That has been one of the most exciting “encounters” with a man this year.) How is possible to go to a city of over a million and not meet a single man? I wonder if the 30 somethings are home raising children because they sure don’t seem to leave the house. I notice men on here talking about approaching a certain number of women a week, and I’m always shocked. So these guys seriously see numerous single women they’re interested in on a daily basis? I am SO jealous. I couldn’t approach a man if I wanted to because there aren’t any to approach. How is it possible that I don’t run into any single men at all? What can I do? I feel cursed. I'm starting to believe that I just have bad luck and the universe doesn't want me to meet anyone. 1
Emilia Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 How can you tell whether every one of them is taken? 2
jobaba Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I CANNOT meet single men. I’ve met two this year. It’s like when I walk into a room, all the single men over 30 walk out the back door. I am not exaggerating when I say I don’t even SEE single men from a distance. I’m not even saying I don’t meet suitable men; I’m saying I don’t meet ANY men at all. I am out and about a lot. There are no single men at the coffee shop, at the gym, when I’m out with friends at night. There are none where I work (well, there’s one recently divorced older man who I tried to date last year, but it didn’t work out. He wasn’t over his ex and we didn’t have a connection anyway.). I don’t see them at the grocery store. I have friends who play on a co-ed sports team so sometimes I go to watch them play: no single men there either. None of my friends or coworkers know any single men, though they know lots of single women. I recently attended a wedding in a different sate. There wasn’t one single man (though this is common for weddings in the South. People rarely show up alone, though there were a couple single women). I’ve been to concerts and art events and still nothing. At first I thought it was the town where I live, but I’ve been to three major cities and a couple smaller towns this year and it’s the same thing. (In one of the major cities I saw a man my age who wasn’t with a woman a few hours before I was flying home. That has been one of the most exciting “encounters” with a man this year.) How is possible to go to a city of over a million and not meet a single man? I wonder if the 30 somethings are home raising children because they sure don’t seem to leave the house. I notice men on here talking about approaching a certain number of women a week, and I’m always shocked. So these guys seriously see numerous single women they’re interested in on a daily basis? I am SO jealous. I couldn’t approach a man if I wanted to because there aren’t any to approach. How is it possible that I don’t run into any single men at all? What can I do? I feel cursed. I'm starting to believe that I just have bad luck and the universe doesn't want me to meet anyone. Whatever. I'm over 30 and single. I'll meet you. Do you want to meet me? That's what I thought. Conversation over. Stop whining. 1
verhrzn Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 You're not cursed, I have the exact same experience. I went out to a big bar in my downtown metropolitan city with my sister on Saturday. There were tons of female-only groups, but absolutely no guy-only groups. When we would spot a guy, he was always with a group where guys and girls numbers were equal (so, couple groups.) This is at a major bar, on a Saturday night, in a big city. I cycle through 3 different coffee shops weekly; one in my suburb, one in the "young people" neighborhood, and one downtown. The only guys I see are with other women. I supposedly live in a big city with lots of single men, but they all seem to be hiding under rocks. Even the guys at comic book stores have girls with them!
Emilia Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Why don't you make friends with men regardless whether they are single or not (including gf/wives of course)? They will have single friends. That's what I would do
verhrzn Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Why don't you make friends with men regardless whether they are single or not (including gf/wives of course)? They will have single friends. That's what I would do I have tons of male friends, but they don't have single male friends. Actually, most of them have primarily female friends. And most of those girls are in couples.
Author iris219 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 How can you tell whether every one of them is taken? I rarely even see men over 30 (and under 50!). When I do, they are either with a woman or have on a wedding band. They are often pushing a stroller or with their children as well.
veggirl Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I'm with Emilia, how do you know they aren't single if you don't approach them? Unless they are ALL wearing wedding rings or are with women?
Emilia Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I have tons of male friends, but they don't have single male friends. Actually, most of them have primarily female friends. And most of those girls are in couples. I meant male friends who go out
Emilia Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I rarely even see men over 30 (and under 50!). When I do, they are either with a woman or have on a wedding band. They are often pushing a stroller or with their children as well. Just looking at someone is hard to tell how old they are sometimes, especially in this day an age. It sounds to me you don't hang out in places where these guys go to in the spare time. The fact that they are with a woman doesn't mean they are not single.
Author iris219 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 You're not cursed, I have the exact same experience. I went out to a big bar in my downtown metropolitan city with my sister on Saturday. There were tons of female-only groups, but absolutely no guy-only groups. When we would spot a guy, he was always with a group where guys and girls numbers were equal (so, couple groups.) This is at a major bar, on a Saturday night, in a big city. I cycle through 3 different coffee shops weekly; one in my suburb, one in the "young people" neighborhood, and one downtown. The only guys I see are with other women. I supposedly live in a big city with lots of single men, but they all seem to be hiding under rocks. Even the guys at comic book stores have girls with them! Yep, that's what I see too. Groups of women and couples. I do see groups of young guys, maybe 21-23, but that does me no good. SO frustrating. You occasionally talk about being interested in someone in your group of friends, so you're doing better them I am! Wasn't there recently a single guy in your group that you liked? What happened with him?
Author iris219 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 I'm with Emilia, how do you know they aren't single if you don't approach them? Unless they are ALL wearing wedding rings or are with women? They are!
seachangeoflove Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 face is most men between 28-35 are going to bve married, yes. If they are not married it's because they don't want to be in a relationship or can't be in one due to being a social retard. So, date older men or married men. I am 36 and love love love to date men 45 and older. Have their **** together, are responsible and most of them have already been trained how to behave around a woman since they're usually divorced. And since they are also divorced they're not used to getting sex. give a 45 year old due a blow job and then bring him a beer and he will eat out of the palm of your hand like a well trained puppy. That does get old after awhile so you can move on to the next one. And if you find one with shared custody of their kids they usually have to plan things far in advance which makes it easy to juggle multiples of them. ladies, if you can support yourself and give up the idea of a traditional family you can have things pretty good. 3
Emilia Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Maybe in smaller towns but in major cities? Doubt it very much
FitChick Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I wish I had OP's supernatural powers of observation to be able to spot a single man from a distance. I need to get up close to look at their ring finger and even then, if there is no ring, that doesn't necessarily mean a man is single or not.
jobaba Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Yep, that's what I see too. Groups of women and couples. I do see groups of young guys, maybe 21-23, but that does me no good. SO frustrating. You occasionally talk about being interested in someone in your group of friends, so you're doing better them I am! Wasn't there recently a single guy in your group that you liked? What happened with him? You know ... you've been running this game the whole time I've been here. You're attractive and there's no single men in the little town where you live. In the little town where you live, even a short, ugly single man would be swept up in a fever by desperate, undersexed females. Well ... where is this place? You've been asked like over 100 times. At least give the state. Otherwise, I'll assume you are a troll. 1
FitChick Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 So, date older men or married men. I am 36 and love love love to date men 45 and older. Me, too. Only I call them younger men. 1
january2011 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Have you tried Meetup.com, OLD, volunteering, further/adult education classes? I'm nthing the posters who mentioned the ability to spot singledom based purely on observation - wide margin of error.
Author iris219 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 face is most men between 28-35 are going to bve married, yes. If they are not married it's because they don't want to be in a relationship or can't be in one due to being a social retard. So, date older men or married men. I am 36 and love love love to date men 45 and older. Have their **** together, are responsible and most of them have already been trained how to behave around a woman since they're usually divorced. And since they are also divorced they're not used to getting sex. give a 45 year old due a blow job and then bring him a beer and he will eat out of the palm of your hand like a well trained puppy. That does get old after awhile so you can move on to the next one. And if you find one with shared custody of their kids they usually have to plan things far in advance which makes it easy to juggle multiples of them. ladies, if you can support yourself and give up the idea of a traditional family you can have things pretty good. My situation is bad, but not bad enough to want to married men. I have no problem dating older men. I'm 33 and will date men into their late 40's. I want children, and unfortunately I've noticed that many older men don't because they've had them and don't want more. Maybe in smaller towns but in major cities? Doubt it very much I agree. That's why I'm starting to believe I'm cursed. Although V lives in a major city and doesn't meet single men very often either.
Emilia Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Although V lives in a major city and doesn't meet single men very often either. I live in a major city too and I do meet single men
Author iris219 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 You know ... you've been running this game the whole time I've been here. You're attractive and there's no single men in the little town where you live. In the little town where you live, even a short, ugly single man would be swept up in a fever by desperate, undersexed females. Well ... where is this place? You've been asked like over 100 times. At least give the state. Otherwise, I'll assume you are a troll. C'mon. Don't be one of those guys who can't stand to hear that there are women who have trouble dating too. People on here know I live in the South, that's no secret, and a few know in what state.
Author iris219 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 I live in a major city too and I do meet single men Where (what places) are you most successful in meeting these guys? Maybe it has to do with the fact that I've haven't spent extended amounts of time in major cities. I think OP you are not open to meeting new people What makes you say this? Do you think of projecting some sort of vibe that makes men scatter? I hope that's not true!
seachangeoflove Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I want children. you should change your mind. Life on the other side is dang good.
jobaba Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 C'mon. Don't be one of those guys who can't stand to hear that there are women who have trouble dating too. People on here know I live in the South, that's no secret, and a few know in what state. Then meet me. I live in NJ.
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