Imajerk17 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 (edited) Hm, small town women don't take online dating seriously? Not sure why they wouldn't considering their selection is quite limited as compared to a larger city. That is my impression from what I have seen in MY town. My demographic is SWF no kids age 28--40 cute and athletic and smart. To quote carhill, YMMV. If a woman's text is short and is basically the usual OLD cliches, and if she has pictures of her "too close" to another guy--both things I see a lot of with the women who live nearby me, then it is a reasonable conclusion that she didn't put much thought into her profile. And by extension, that she isn't taking OLD that seriously--if she were, she would have put more thought into her profile. As for the what you have in common thing: Listing out what you have in common sounds too much like a sales pitch. She can read your profile dude. Asking her a question that expands on something she said e.g., "You like mountain biking? That's awesome--I went last week. Where is your favorite place to go" is awesome. Edited June 28, 2012 by Imajerk17
USMCHokie Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Another issue in getting visitors to your profile is your stats such as height, race, income, body type, etc...if you don't meet certain criteria, you won't fall within the search parameters of women, many of whom might set a minimum height or other criteria. So unless you have great pictures and see their profile first, you just won't get much visibility from women... Do you just lie...? 1
Imajerk17 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Another issue in getting visitors to your profile is your stats such as height, race, income, body type, etc...if you don't meet certain criteria, you won't fall within the search parameters of women, many of whom might set a minimum height or other criteria. So unless you have great pictures and see their profile first, you just won't get much visibility from women... Do you just lie...? The big thing is for you to write them first, I'd say. Tell the truth in your profile too--don't lie--but present yourself in the best possible light. That you are (or even were) in the Marines but come across as an intelligent thoughtful guy will carry you extremely far.
USMCHokie Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 The big thing is for you to write them first, I'd say. Tell the truth in your profile too--don't lie--but present yourself in the best possible light. That you are (or even were) in the Marines but come across as an intelligent thoughtful guy will carry you extremely far. Oh, I absolutely agree that if you aren't the "ideal" candidate for OLD, you have to out in a lot more effort than a guy who regularly gets messaged first due to his good pictures combined with stats that women will search for... Just identifying another source of difficulty is all. Edit: but then when you message first, you fall into the sea of messages women will receive...and it's easy to get lost in the majority if nonsense they receive... 1
yongyong Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 The best way to get her to meet you is showing 'I have other options. I don't have to do online dating but you are somewhat interesting. maybe we can just talk' you have to send out mixtures of interest and disinterest in a good ratio. Have you felt you wanted to buy it more when the seller is not that interested in selling? 'it's a good car, you should buy it' Vs 'hm I've already gotten few offers, let me think about it'
WonderKid Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 It's the picture man! I tell you! Its not "all" the women, but if you are an 8 or 10 or something like that, they won't give no effort. And 18 out of 20 women I see on there have a car. I don't. And if they see you don't have a car I think its an automatic red light. OLDing just isn't for everybody. I feel I'm better off doing it all IRL. :/
Shaun-Dro Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 I know there had been some posts on what you could do to improve your chances of getting replies from women, online..and some have "claimed" to have such success, and I've even taken heed of the tips. For instance, email the ones that you think you have most in common with, and even expound upon those interests or hobbies. Thing is, if they don't like your height or you have a big nose, they might not care. For instance, there was a woman I saw that was in a rather obscure profession that I'm in, the environmental field/scientist. I rarely find women in these positions, at least in my neck of the woods, it's mostly men. And I thought, "Oh cool, something I can talk about with her" Usually, I would say, "Hey, I noticed we are in the same profession, what kind of lab work do you do? Water analysis, soil, etc?" Of course that goes to wasted breath when they don't respond, but you'd think you could hook them into responding by using such the "proper bait" (a term coined by POF) Figured you'd at LEASt get them to talk about her job or something and talk about what you both do. Funny, but I bet in REAL life, I'd stand a shot if I bumped into her at a convention for environmental analysts. LOL Women and the games never go away, huh? The easiest way to get them to open their mouths is to plainly insult them about anything in the photo. Of course they won't respond favorably, but the silence will end.
todreaminblue Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 Whatever you do, don't write: "How are you?" "Hey sexy" or "You're hot" can i please add "hey babes" "you can light my life with your radiance and to meet you soon will be my day to show you my love" and another gem "i hope you have a big ass i love a big ass" there is a cross section of jewels i hold close to my radiance......green faced radiance
WonderKid Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 most of the decent single guys i know have pretty much given up on online dating, including me. i dont have any problems meeting women irl, i just thought it would be easier to meet women online who had similar interests. for most men, online dating is just too much work for too little reward. i dont see how any sane person can accept reading profile after profile, and sending out message after message, just looking for a reply or two. no thanks. I can see what you mean by getting a woman who had similar interests. I think that's why I hit up the dating sites to see if there were women with a bit of a similar interest background.
Author irc333 Posted June 29, 2012 Author Posted June 29, 2012 Nah, I've seen feedback women who had mentioned they've pretty much been non-responsive to men that had contacted them. They complained they'd get follow-up emails with not really "insulting" remarks, but more digs, if any. Like, "I see after a year, you're still on here, so how's being so picky workin' out for you?" Some men, instead of doing outright insults, would be more obscure in their comments, attempting to provoke a woman into responding, even if it's a negative one, so at least they can get them talking. LOL. But some are smart enough not to encourage it. Women and the games never go away, huh? The easiest way to get them to open their mouths is to plainly insult them about anything in the photo. Of course they won't respond favorably, but the silence will end.
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