dazedandconfusedgirl Posted July 3, 2004 Posted July 3, 2004 I have been with my bf for 5+ years now. we have lived together for 3. I cheated on him before we lived together, mostly because I felt I missed out on dating because I started dating him at a young age. We got through that and ever since he has been understandably restrictive when it come to me going out. we just bought a house together and he works nights and all of my friends come over every night. well, i have been noticing that i am feeling more attracted to people other than him. i don't think we have a great relationship. He makes me feel really bad about myself a lot. i'm so used to being with him that my friends are constanly telling me to stop apologizing for everything i do (not just with him). my friends also ask me why i always walk behind them and never have my head up. i've bumped into people on the street because i always walk looking at the ground. he is not physically violent with me AT ALL. sex is ok, but i used to really like it and now i don't like it with him. i always want to have sex but i usually wind up disappointed when we do. i feel like i am there only to please him and he has little or no interest in pleasing me. he never pays attention to the signals i give him. but sometimes he treats me so good. and i know that he would be a great father and he can fix anything and he is a wonderful person most of the time. but know i find myself so attracted to other people. I started spending more time with this other person. we were so attracted to each other but couldn't talk about it. we spent 2 nights holding hands, and that felt great. then we wound up making out one night. he was very wonderful about everything. he started to go farther but i just had to lightly touch his hand to stop him and he did. he only did what i wanted and never made me feel bad. the next day i felt so good. i couldn't stop smiling and i felt like i was walking on air. I don't want to hurt my bf. i love him but i'm no longer in love with him. i don't want to mess up my life. if i break up with him it will be messy and complicated and i won't have anywhere to go and it will be hard to maintain my friends because they are friends with both of us. HELP I need advise!!!
pupit Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 What you can do is ask for a little bit of break from him, tell him you love him, but for now you need a bit of a break. He loves you more than you do, and it is good to try dating other people. But, since you have been together for so long and bought a house with him, I do not think you should leave him, just ask for a little break from him. The guy you met might not be as good as you bf, he might just be looking for something else and will end up hurting you than you think, since you don't have much experience with other guys. I think you should stay with you bf, because he loves you and leaving him might hurt him so bad, when a guy goes through a broken heart, it is hard for them to heal from it or forgive the girl who hurt them. As long as he did not hurt you, do't hurt him. You just need a break, so ask him gentle and humble. He will be the only one you will return to if things don't work out. hope this helps and good luck.
Recommended Posts