BB7 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Wow dude...she doesn't deserve you at all and her attempt to see your dog is just plain laughable. Seriously, it's your dog...how hard is that to understand? She has no right to make that request and it's a clear attempt to get under your skin and annoy you. I hope this isn't a set back for you but one thing is clear to me as a result of this...you can do so much better and you deserve better. You're the better person mate, don't forget that.
YellowShark Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 She sounds positively PSYCHO! You did the right thing and walk away with your head held high. Just reading her texts gives me the douche chills! She comes off as very manipulative.
Nefrit80 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I have been following your story since I am here (like last week, when my now ex bf left me,because he didn't stand my dog, who is a working therapy dog-but it is a different story) and I must say your ex is totally immature and childish for using King as her cover story for talking to you!!! I had an ex (not the one that broke up w me last week), who was part of my life for one year. When we met my dog was 1 year old and Maya absolutely loved him. It was mutual, the guy loved her as well and when we broke up my dog refused food for like 2 weeks! She didn't want to play or eat, she was very depressed and clearly was missing my ex. So much that I always had to keep her on lead, because everytime she saw a black car she wanted to run and check if it was my ex. Otherwise she is a calm and obedient dog, but for like 8 weeks she wasn't herself. 6 weeks after the break up my ex contacted me and asked if he could see Maya. I said no and told him the reason why I didn't want them to meet. He understood, accepted my reason and only asked me to send sometimes new pictures about my dog and let him know how she was doing. We broke up last summer but till this day, once a month he writes on Fb and asks about Maya. It doesn't bother me, I am glad he loves her, but for my dog's sake I don't want them to meet...and he never asks anything private or he never wants to see me, it's really only about the dog.
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Thanks guys now you see what I have to put up with haha. I gave my heart to a crazy! But at least now I have an " I broke NC" story to share with everyone who needs it She's mos definately a psycho and I deserve a lot better. You're all correct. Thanks again for reading Let's see how I feel tomorrow
Ruby65 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 She's not crazy imo. She's just exhibiting the typical psychologically-driven behaviors of a dumper..... Her need for ego stroking makes her contact you -- for any stupid reason, doesn't matter what. She just wants the strokes. Then, when you respond with strength and integrity -- as opposed to the begging pleading wuss she was hoping for -- you get rage and b*tchiness. There WAS a real relationship with a worthy human being... but those days are over for the two of you.
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 You're completely right ruby. It just feels good to call her things like that in this thread. It lets me get rid of the urge to be petty in return. Because like you said that is all she wants. How do you think she will feel now that she saw my strength and reacted in a bitchy way and recieved the cold shoulder? Am I on top of this?
Ruby65 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 YOU are on top of this no matter what she says or does... because of your inner strength, which is something she can't ever touch. But expect the b*tchy rages and breadcrumbs to continue.... She wants the EMOTIONAL INVOLVEMENT to continue.... nevermind the relationship or positive loving feelings at this point.... She's out there in the real world now and finding out that not ALL smart hot guys like you are CARING about her and her feelings.... maybe she's even being rejected, god forbid! hahahahhahaaaa...... All you need to worry about is protecting yourself from her breadcrumbs..... she wants you on the backburner and you inspire everyone here with your refusal be used and manipulated this way!! 1
Jaded82 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Hi Alex, I've been following your posts on here for quite a while now, and firstly I wanna say congratulations for how well you are doing! I think you handled that in the best way possible. She sounds like my ex in some ways, my ex has starting texting me random crap because she wants attention, negative or positive is irrelevant as long as I reply. So I haven't replied. What I wanted to mention was that yesterday I got a "fake text". You know the ones that are made out to look like they are accidentally sent to you but really, are intentionally sent. It said "Friday was great babe, can't wait to see you again xx". Trying to wind me up about another guy in her life because she had no other way of rubbing it in my face because I don't speak to her about her life. Instantly I flew into a rage and was SO close to texting back. Instead I went on the forums and read a few posts, one of them was yours. So I sat back and calmed down, and thought about it. I came to the conclusion that it was a totally petty thing to do, and just another ploy to get my attention, which is pathetic. Then I realised that by not replying to it, she had shifted the power balance over to me, which I have to say is a good feeling after being on the receiving end for so long. Long story short, it was one of your posts about how you're handling NC which turned the tables for me and stopped me from playing right into her hands. A text that was sent from her in spite and designed to be cruel, ended up being a blessing in disguise because I had the right advice on hand. LS rocks! Keep up the good work dude, we're all rooting for you. P.S. - That day to remember track is AWESOME!
DMS Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Well done Alex, I actually think it is a good thing that you broke NC for this because as it played out it gave you a much needed victory to get you out of the low point you had been in and onto the next phase. Good work, lad.
EgoJoe Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 You did decently. If and when you hear from her again I recommend the following no matter what she says, "You are starting to look very foolish and unbalanced. I am very happy with the way things are when I do not hear from you, I'd like to continue that pattern uninterrupted." Change the word-track to something personal but the theme will get her to leave you alone.
Author AlexanderJames Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 (edited) Ruby - Thank you for your support through last nights episode. I felt I was doing pretty well despite breaking NC and to hear you guys supporting me and telling me that I did a good job really put my mind at ease. Without you guys I would probably be feeling a bit on edge today wondering if I stuffed up. And thanks for shedding some light on her position as well. I probably would have gone around in circles thinking about what impact my stern actions might have had. I'll be ready for her to try and get a reaction out of me again. You're right about her keeping me on the back burner. My good friends think she just wanted to use me as a keep close for personal gain until she found someone better and didnt need me. Jaded - First of all thanks for taking the time to follow my story and leave such valuable input. And congratulations for sticking at NC and staying strong! Wow... your ex sounds like mine indeed. Sending a txt like that is amoung the lowest of lows.... Intentionally going out of her way to cause you pain.. But your absolultely right all she has done is shifted the power into your hands. As long as you stay strong and dont give an inch, all she is doing is feeding your strength. I cant tell you how much it means to me to hear you say that you've been following my story and that it was one of my posts that helped keep you on track and calm you down despite what your ex did. Thank you so much P.S I know right. Those guys sing some of my all time favourite songs. Even after my breakup I kept listening to them, I've even paid to see them live since and I'm a disc jockey haha! DMS - Always good to hear from you friend. Thank you, I think the confrontation with her was going to happen no matter what as it involved our old lease and shared billing info. So im glad I was able to get it over with under my terms, and completely control the direction of its outcome and end it when I saw fit. You're right it seems it has got me out of that low point I had been in this week. Ill post a thread thismorning with exactly how im feeling. EgoJoe - Thats brilliant mate, I'll keep that in mind in case I find myself unable to avoid breaking NC. Like if she approaches me in person or calls from a friends phone or something. Thanks for all the support everyone You're doing me wonders. Edited June 26, 2012 by AlexanderJames 1
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