Fmrbrknhrt22 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Hi you guys, You probably all think I am crazy and a fool after this post, but basically I became friends with a fantastic girl in college. It wasnt until about 6 months into our friendship that I had some feelings for her. After I got back from abroad, we almost started dating, but I broke things off b/c it didnt feel right. Then I changed my mind a few weeks later and we did date. Then I broke up 3 weeks later b/c I felt like we were in too much of a comfort zone and I got bored. 6 months went by, I missed her like crazy and I made a romantic plee with roses and a card. Eventually, I got her back. Then she told me on my Bday that she was into another guy. The next day she apologized and said she wanted to make it work. 2 weeks later I left to go on vacation for a week and cuddled with another girl out of spite for what she did. I came back, we dated for over 10 months at that point and had a great relationship and in a lot of ways I fell for her, up until the beginning of this year. I realized that she had 2 years to go in school, I had a career, and that she would be leaving for 3 months in the fall to Europe. I also felt that I was not spending anytime with my friends or had much going on in my life. We had a night where we were about to have sex for the first time and I broke it off because it didn't feel right. I broke up with her a day later and said I couldn't give her a committed relationship. So why is it now that I'm here still missing her terribly 4 months after I ended things with her and it not being the first time I ended things? She's moved on and found someone else, I haven't. So many things remind me of her that I experience in my daily life, it's awful. I wish I could just tell myself I made the right choice, but everyday I struggle with it and think about why I'm single and alone and she's not and how I screwed it up so many times. Any comforting words would be greatly appreciated.-Chris
Snakechammah Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Yes no yes no... all this ping-pong makes me dizzy just reading it. Imagine HER. The poor girl. You are lucky she took you back after the first time you bailed on her. Why should she go back to you now? After the countless times you have played with her emotions? My advice. Move on. Find someone else. Let HER find someone else who is sure about her. You clearly are not. So let it go and find someone you are certain you wouldnt ping-pong around. Good luck.
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