Oncehadluv Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Hi everyone Ok my dilemma is about attractiveness and flirting I'm starting to hang out with a new buddy more often at night to the bars and clubs and what not What I'm noticing is where ever we go and we just run into girls they automatically show him interest and be flirty Now me on the other hand girls will barley speak to me when I speak to them and flirting is zilch I'm mid thirties and now taking inventory of my life's aspects , and to see him and the girls connect instantly gets me down when I think of it Should I stop hanging with him when I want to enjoy the weekend nightlife? I'm stumped here Thanks guys
USMCHokie Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Find uglier friends. But seriously though, I have this same problem. I just accept it and forget about the women around. If I don't, I don't have a fun time.
Author Oncehadluv Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Find uglier friends. But seriously though, I have this same problem. I just accept it and forget about the women around. If I don't, I don't have a fun time. I believe your spot on The other night we went to a lounge, before I got my drink he was already chatting with 2 girls and they were both into him I immidiatley started bullsh**ting with a few of the other guys outside smoking The night was fun but just seeing the women connecting with him inspires me to have same kind of experience, and too add that my GF left me a while back makes this self observation sting a bit more
Snakechammah Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Keep hanging out with him. Do not be jealous. He could open doors for you. He could be the link for you to meet the awesome new girl you are dreaming about. One man's meat is another man's poison. Among those girls who notices him, there will be one or two special ones who will notice YOU. Because you are standing next to him. It doesn't make you invisible. Yes, they see you, they're just more interested in your friend. Nothing wrong with that. Do you really want girls who are interested in your friend? Nope. You want them to want you. Now imagine this. A group of girls notices you and your new buddy. The gregarious flirty one in the group decided she wants to hook up with your handsome buddy. The other girls just tag along. Somewhere along that line, the other shyer (possibly less flirty girls) sees that you're with the buddy - and MAY have a crush on you. For all you know, the other girls would flock to you (could be superficial reasons that the loudmouthed girl has booked the buddy so it's hands-off for them, so they turned to you instead - or it could be that there were SPARKS for them!) So never say never. Hang out with him. Use him as a landing board (as long as you don't harbour any grudge about him lapping up the attention). Sooner or later, you will meet someone through him. If a girl sees past your handsome friend and goes straight for you, isn't that a sign she likes you for YOU and she's not like the other girls. That is a solid foundation for a future trustworthy relationship. You won't be worried she finds him attractive - cos she doesn't! She likes you. Good luck!
AD1980 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I have a friend like that he recently is divorced and whenever we go out women are all over him while im invisible it sucks but it is what it is i guess theyd rather fight over him then give me a chance Even the married women in our group talk about how good looking he is,i try to to get jealous but its hard lol
AD1980 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 If a girl sees past your handsome friend and goes straight for you, She likes you. If its anything like my exeprience that probably wont happen anytime soon:laugh: u just gotta hope u pick up one of the women he rejects i guess
Snakechammah Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 If its anything like my exeprience that probably wont happen anytime soon:laugh: u just gotta hope u pick up one of the women he rejects i guess Don't be discouraged. You just need to take the crash course in 'How to be a Stud 101'.
AD1980 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Don't be discouraged. You just need to take the crash course in 'How to be a Stud 101'. Its easy i just need a new attractive face and ill be fine
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