somedude81 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 For a while now a girl at my work has been reacting oddly to me. I never knew what to think of it until I got the idea that she might be teasing me. She's early 20's. When I arrive to work and if she's already there, she might say something like, "Hey somedude is here!" It's mostly done in an obviously fake overly excited way. Something else that happened; the store has a metal gate that needs to be pulled across and locked when the store closes for the night. The manager said something like, "OK who is going to stay a few minutes and help me with the gate?" Then right away she said, "somedude will help you!" There were about five of us employees there. In general work stuff she normally ranges from nice to sarcastic with me. When we do talk it's mostly awkward. For some reason, I'm just not able to get comfortable with her and I think it's something to do with how she acts, as well as me having some interest in her. And no, I've never made a move, asked her out, or suggested doing anything together. I don't think I've ever given her any reason to act differently with me then every other girl in the store does. As far as I can tell, I'm the only one in the store she acts this way with. Anybody have an idea what's going on?
jobaba Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Signals from women mean nothing. If you like her ask her out. If not, then don't.
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 A girl once acted that way towards me (a classmate of mine in college). Turns out she was just being friendly and interested in nothing more.
Desinova Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Next time she volunteers you for something, say that you will but only she stays late with you. When she says "hey! somdude his here" say "you brighten up my day too". 2
Author somedude81 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 A girl once acted that way towards me (a classmate of mine in college). Turns out she was just being friendly and interested in nothing more. That's what I'm thinking. If I ask her out now, it will make things more awkward. We always work the same shift and frequently interact with each other. Though if she is just being nice, it seems pretty weird.
Cracker Jack Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Who cares if it makes things awkward? By your own accord, it's already awkward to begin with. If you actually have some interest in her, man up and ask her out. Or at least ask her questions about herself.
Author somedude81 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Who cares if it makes things awkward? By your own accord, it's already awkward to begin with. If you actually have some interest in her, man up and ask her out. Or at least ask her questions about herself. What should I ask about her?
Snakechammah Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 For whatever reason is it, she wants your attention. Now comes the hard part - to interpret WHY she wants your attention. It could be she has a sincere crush on you (and she's probably an aggressive Aries and that's how she rolls, lol)...or it could be she is just another attention-seeker who will not hesitate to reject you when it befits her. It's up to you to find out. Good luck!
Cracker Jack Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 What should I ask about her? Anything. Do you know anything about this girl? It's clear she's fishing for your attention, so you're really in a position to just give anything a try.
Author somedude81 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 For whatever reason is it, she wants your attention. Now comes the hard part - to interpret WHY she wants your attention. It could be she has a sincere crush on you (and she's probably an aggressive Aries and that's how she rolls, lol)...or it could be she is just another attention-seeker who will not hesitate to reject you when it befits her. It's up to you to find out. Good luck! She wants me attention? That's something I haven't thought of. Yeah, I don't really know her intentions. Maybe she could be an attention seeker. Anything. Do you know anything about this girl? It's clear she's fishing for your attention, so you're really in a position to just give anything a try. Dude, how did you miss my joke? Your avatar, that picture..... As for what I know. She's from out of state and going to college here. I'm pretty sure she's single. She's been at the store a big longer than I have.
Cracker Jack Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Oh, lol. I just quoted it without clicking on it. I'm weird. Okay, so you know some things about her. That's cool. And since you're sure she's single, well, get it poppin. Even if you don't ask her out yet, just give her more of your attention, because it seems like she's trying to get yours.
Seneca Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Next time she volunteers you for something, say that you will but only she stays late with you. When she says "hey! somdude his here" say "you brighten up my day too". I agree with this. Just start teasing and bantering back with her. Don't jump into asking her out right away.
Author somedude81 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Next time she volunteers you for something, say that you will but only she stays late with you. When she says "hey! somdude his here" say "you brighten up my day too". I agree with this. Just start teasing and bantering back with her. Don't jump into asking her out right away. Ah teasing and bantering back with her. I also got a feeling I shouldn't be too nice or easy with her. Oh, lol. I just quoted it without clicking on it. I'm weird. Okay, so you know some things about her. That's cool. And since you're sure she's single, well, get it poppin. Even if you don't ask her out yet, just give her more of your attention, because it seems like she's trying to get yours. What's also weird, is that there are some times where it seems like she's avoiding me. She's kinda random. But when she gives me extra attention it feels off. Either way, I want to play with her more.
USMCHokie Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 What's also weird, is that there are some times where it seems like she's avoiding me. She's kinda random. But when she gives me extra attention it feels off. Meh, I would never have the patience for this nonsense. I'm SO glad there isn't a single woman in the building of my workplace...I feel kind of spoiled that I don't have to deal with this sort of bullsh*t on a daily basis. Two options here: (1) Banter back and ask her out, sooner rather than later. (2) Treat her like another dude you work with.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Anybody have an idea what's going on? She's fooling around, teasing you. You figured it out yourself.
Author somedude81 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Meh, I would never have the patience for this nonsense. I'm SO glad there isn't a single woman in the building of my workplace...I feel kind of spoiled that I don't have to deal with this sort of bullsh*t on a daily basis. Two options here: (1) Banter back and ask her out, sooner rather than later. (2) Treat her like another dude you work with. Damn, no women at you're work place? That's crazy. Sooner than later, I've known her for about almost a year now. Damn, I've been at the job that long, but this has only been happening for a couple of months. She's fooling around, teasing you. You figured it out yourself. But why? Or are their simply too many possible reasons to give any?
USMCHokie Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Damn, no women at you're work place? That's crazy. Not a single one. I have nothing against women, but I've come to cherish the lack of man/woman drama and distraction that often goes on in a mixed-gender workplace... But why? Or are their simply too many possible reasons to give any? Meh, it doesn't really matter. Make up a reason for yourself if you really want one... 1
KathyM Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I think she's disrespecting you. It doesn't sound like interest to me. It sounds to me like mocking behavior. Volunteering you for stuff. Faking enthusiasm when you arrive. Sounds kind of mean-spirited to me. I think you should be sarcastic back to her. Next time she volunteers you to close up, you should say "Nah, I'm volunteering (her) for that job, since I did it last time. Give her a little of her own medicine. When she shows fake enthusiasm when you arrive, show fake enthusiasm that she is there. She's disrespecting you, and I think you need to turn it around on her.
Author somedude81 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 I think she's disrespecting you. It doesn't sound like interest to me. It sounds to me like mocking behavior. Volunteering you for stuff. Faking enthusiasm when you arrive. Sounds kind of mean-spirited to me. I think you should be sarcastic back to her. Next time she volunteers you to close up, you should say "Nah, I'm volunteering (her) for that job, since I did it last time. Give her a little of her own medicine. When she shows fake enthusiasm when you arrive, show fake enthusiasm that she is there. She's disrespecting you, and I think you need to turn it around on her. Finally something from the other side. My first impression was that she was being rude or disrespectful to me. I've never done anything to her so it didn't make any sense why she would do that. I've always had a feeling that she didn't like me and then she started to do those things. And I simply don't have a clue what is going on in her head. Hmm, I wonder if I should ask one of the other girls at work about her?
USMCHokie Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 She's disrespecting you, and I think you need to turn it around on her. Or just completely ignore her. I find that that pisses 'em off more. 2
Els Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 For a while now a girl at my work has been reacting oddly to me. I never knew what to think of it until I got the idea that she might be teasing me. She's early 20's. When I arrive to work and if she's already there, she might say something like, "Hey somedude is here!" It's mostly done in an obviously fake overly excited way. Something else that happened; the store has a metal gate that needs to be pulled across and locked when the store closes for the night. The manager said something like, "OK who is going to stay a few minutes and help me with the gate?" Then right away she said, "somedude will help you!" There were about five of us employees there. Ummmmm.. this is really weird. I mean, I can't say for sure that it DOESN'T mean she's interested in you, young women do a lot of weird stuff when they are interested in someone and don't know how to react. But my gut reaction to it is ranges from: 1) she's making fun of you out of spite, to 2) she thinks you're a good friend whom she can make fun of and won't mind. I could be wrong, of course. In general work stuff she normally ranges from nice to sarcastic with me. When we do talk it's mostly awkward. For some reason, I'm just not able to get comfortable with her and I think it's something to do with how she acts, as well as me having some interest in her. And no, I've never made a move, asked her out, or suggested doing anything together. I don't think I've ever given her any reason to act differently with me then every other girl in the store does. As far as I can tell, I'm the only one in the store she acts this way with. Anybody have an idea what's going on? I would suggest just ignoring her unless she makes genuinely friendly overtures. Be the bigger, better person.
Seneca Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Wow I don't think she was disrespecting him at all... It's more like a friendly tease. I volunteer my friends to work overtime just to bust their balls. Since you've been working there for a year with her. This pretty much means that she has gotten a little bit more comfortable with you to tease you in a friendly way. But it doesn't mean that she is attracted to you at all.
Author somedude81 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Or just completely ignore her. I find that that pisses 'em off more. Do I want to piss her off? LOL, so complicated. Ummmmm.. this is really weird. I mean, I can't say for sure that it DOESN'T mean she's interested in you, young women do a lot of weird stuff when they are interested in someone and don't know how to react. LOL, so she could be interested in me, but has no idea how to react to me. And I don't have a clue how to react to her because I'm inexperienced and she's acting random Ugh, I need to find a girl whose more forward and easy to understand. But my gut reaction to it is ranges from: 1) she's making fun of you out of spite, to 2) she thinks you're a good friend whom she can make fun of and won't mind. I could be wrong, of course. She doesn't seem like a mean person, and she's nice to everybody else at work. It's just me she acts this way too. But it could be #1. Maybe we knew each other in a past life and I cheated on her with her mother or something #2, I wouldn't call us friends. That doesn't seem too likely. Wow I don't think she was disrespecting him at all... It's more like a friendly tease. I volunteer my friends to work overtime just to bust their balls. Since you've been working there for a year with her. This pretty much means that she has gotten a little bit more comfortable with you to tease you in a friendly way. But it doesn't mean that she is attracted to you at all. Yeah it could be her just busting my balls. But is their any reason why it's me and not somebody else? I've had to made some impression on her to get "special attention." Heh, she's probably just weird and I should let her know.
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