Esp0125 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Ok so I have a question. I almost divorced it has been over for a while. So I went on a dating site and I am not looking for a hook up I looking for the right women for me. Here is where I need some help. I am horrible at play THE GAME. If I like someone I call them I don't wait days on end to text or write. I'm not annoying by any means but I don't do the hard to get crap. So here is the date I went on she wanted to just meet for drinks to see if their was chemistry. So we met at a place and all she did was smile and said your pictures did you no justice. So I was happy right off jump street. After about 30 minutes she said so are we gonna have dinner hahah so we did and then we went back to the bar. Neither of us wa drunk and she kissed me and we kissed for a bit. Well before we kissed she said she was burnt in the passed and said I was a nice guy and she was afraid to hurt me. Then everything changed she was holding me kissing me. After we closed down the bar we went to my car to talked we kissed a little more and then just held each other. The date lasted 8 hours she said I wanna hang out again and hold each other and watch a movie. Now to back up before we met she said she doesn't do the call or text everyday that is not her and she got burnt in past so I didn't take anything of it. So the next day I said I had a good time she agreed and I said I woul like to see you again she said whenever but we haven't set a date yet. I texted her last night she said she likes me but doesn't do the texting or call every day and she doesn't jump into things and she has to go at her pace and if I can't handle it she understands. I said I could and to text me when she is free. That was last night and as expected I didn't hear from her today. I wear my heart on my sleeve and I am not used to this game. My friends say don't worry this is normal but can someone help with advice. As I said all of the kissing was started by her I'm confused. Thanks for the advice as I am new to dating again. Also she told me that we are exactly alike during the date.
FitChick Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I texted her last night she said she likes me but doesn't do the texting or call every day and she doesn't jump into things and she has to go at her pace and if I can't handle it she understands. I said I could and to text me when she is free. That was last night and as expected I didn't hear from her today. I wear my heart on my sleeve and I am not used to this game. She isn't playing a game. She told you she takes things slowly and doesn't text everyday and has followed through. You sound desperate and insecure and you will probably end up blowing what seems like a very promising beginning.
Philosoraptor Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I'd agree. She was quite open with how she approaches things and even said she'd understand if you couldn't go at her pace. You either decide she is worth taking it (emotionally) slow with or you move on to someone else. Keep in mind that patience is quite an admirable virtue that will help you in every part of your life.
Author Esp0125 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 I am by no means desperate and I do appreciate everyone's help on this, and we had a really good connection and I don't want to mess it up. As expected there was no communication yesterday. Do I just wait for her to call or in a few days do a drop her a text message to say hello. To this point I did not contact her either because I do not want to be "that guy" who is annoying.
Philosoraptor Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 You told her to text you when she's free. The ball is in her court so just be patient if you'd like to continue seeing her.
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