Is there meaning here?

[AlexanderJames]

Do people think dreams hide a meaning? If so lets discuss what I dreamt last night because it was all over the place.

 

The first dream I had started off good, I was with a bunch of old friends and close mates and a girl I had been thinking a lot of lately (A girl who is not my ex) was there too. We were getting very close. Cute close though, this wasnt a sex dream haha. Then there was lots of loud noises and we went outside and the city I live in was being invaded. (I think they where chinese.. Strange right?). Lots of helicopters, planes and explosions. Anyway I got shot, and woke up in a cold sweat.

 

I went back to sleep and had another dream. This time I dreamt I was back with my ex gf. The normal crappy dream everyone hates having. Where they're back with someone theyre trying to move on from and find themselves loving every minute of the dream... Sigh..

 

Anyway I woke up from that dream a bit confused... I didnt feel sad or miss my ex or anything And I was disappointed that I dreamt about her that way, I considered it a nightmare.. It seemed like my mind was waging a war (literally) between thoughts of a potential new romance and thoughts of romance past.

 

I'm feeling a bit blue today, but it's a very cold, dark, cloudy and wet morning. Havent seen sunlight in days and I havent spoken to friends so maybe thats why. Also I'm hungry.. But I'm always hungry haha.

What do we think?

Edited June 25, 2012 by AlexanderJames

[VandelayInd]

I dream of my Ex every night it seems and it ruins my day. Mornings are the worst. I had discussed this with a councilor I am seeing and he asked me what my dreams were about and if they were good dreams. And I said no they were bad dreams like her being with another guy, or running into her on the street and her being mean to me etc. And he said do you think that its your subconcious basically telling you that this girl is no good for you when youre having these bad dreams. And I guess I kind of believe it. I havent had one "good" dream about my ex where we were together and happy, its always been ones with other guys or her treating me bad.

 

I really Dont know what dreams mean but that might be one way of thinking about. All I do know is that they can make you wake up feeling pretty bad.

[AlexanderJames]

Yeah I can see where your councilor might be coming from. Thanks for reading and leaving input buddy.

 

I dont want to think that me dreaming of her in a good way means she was good for me though. I know she wasnt good for me thats why I'm in NC and moving on.

Perhaps theyre just thoughts in the subconcious that we have been trying to block out leaking out while we're asleep.

 

For instance you are worrying about these things happening, so you dream about it. Maybe as a way to try and prepare yourself for if it does happen? Or as a way of confronting the painful thoughts in order to make peace with them.

[Svet74]

I dont dream of my ex often. At times i want to dream about him. but the times i have dreamt about him. we were always together and happy. Happy to be together.

 

Anybody know what that would mean?

[whoknows11]

Do people think dreams hide a meaning? If so lets discuss what I dreamt last night because it was all over the place.

 

The first dream I had started off good, I was with a bunch of old friends and close mates and a girl I had been thinking a lot of lately (A girl who is not my ex) was there too. We were getting very close. Cute close though, this wasnt a sex dream haha. Then there was lots of loud noises and we went outside and the city I live in was being invaded. (I think they where chinese.. Strange right?). Lots of helicopters, planes and explosions. Anyway I got shot, and woke up in a cold sweat.

 

I went back to sleep and had another dream. This time I dreamt I was back with my ex gf. The normal crappy dream everyone hates having. Where they're back with someone theyre trying to move on from and find themselves loving every minute of the dream... Sigh..

 

Anyway I woke up from that dream a bit confused... I didnt feel sad or miss my ex or anything And I was disappointed that I dreamt about her that way, I considered it a nightmare.. It seemed like my mind was waging a war (literally) between thoughts of a potential new romance and thoughts of romance past.

 

I'm feeling a bit blue today, but it's a very cold, dark, cloudy and wet morning. Havent seen sunlight in days and I havent spoken to friends so maybe thats why. Also I'm hungry.. But I'm always hungry haha.

What do we think?

 

Ive been going through this everyday for the past month. Bad dreams/depressing mornings. Not to mention headaches have gotten worse. As for dreams, they mean nothing. Its just your mind trying to solve problems in a subconcious state. You wake up upset cause sometimes your feelings are into it so much that it just feels like its still happening when you wake up.

[AlexanderJames]

Sorry to hear. I have a dream about them once in the blue moon and it's difficult enough, I guess I should consider myself lucky...

 

Just seems ironic that I'm having a good dream about a new romance interest in my life, then the dream is invaded, and I go on to have a nightmare about my ex.

[RogerWallace111]

I think there is some significance to most dreams. If it's the "mind trying to solve problems in a subconcious state", I'd say that alone makes them somewhat meaningful and indicative. There's a wealth of research/writing on the topic... And though I'm always wary of speculative, vague things like astrology, etc, I've looked up certain elements of my dreams, and their supposed symbolism, and it often makes a lot of sense within my daytime situations/issues. The other night I dreamt about bounding and bouncing down a steep green hillside, low-gravity, moon-walking style. I was getting twenty feet of air when I'd push hard. But initially, I was super worried about my landings, thinking how if I jump that high, I'm gonna hurt myself crashing down. Slowly I became more sure of myself. I interpreted that, silly or not, as pertaining heavily to the standstill/monotony of my life right now, and my fear of taking the risks I know I need to to get out of it. Cause that ****s been heavy on my mind all the time. I gotta take the necessary leaps, and as scared as I might be of failure, I will be fine and it will have been worth it.

 

Anyway, to stay on topic- I dream of the ex from time to time, but it's slowed down I can tell. There was one where she wanted me back, and I was ecstatic at first, holding her super tight, feeling very relieved. We went for a stroll and at some point I started to get this feeling in my gut that something was wrong. I started feeling trapped being back with her, in the dream. Which is interesting because deep down I know that's exactly how it would be if she were to come back to me in actuality (I fear but somehow still almost hope for it - even though it wouldn't be right).

 

But a simple dream about being back with her could have minimal implications. Could just be your mind reminiscing on a time that you still think about regularly, processing that nostalgia. I've had a few like that, and they'll bum you out of course. I prefer dreams of new girls, haaa. Though in many of those there's some obstacle to my actually getting them (whether my desire's sexual or just romantic). And they often turn into someone else by the time I get my hands on them, usually less attractive. Like the bathroom scene of The Shining ... I think there is at least some meaning to most dreams. And in those I'd think it would basically be my desire for new female affection but my difficulty in attaining it, and fear of it not being all it seems once I were to

Edited June 26, 2012 by RogerWallace111

[AlexanderJames]

I think there is some significance to most dreams. If it's the "mind trying to solve problems in a subconcious state", I'd say that alone makes them somewhat meaningful and indicative. There's a wealth of research/writing on the topic... And though I'm always wary of speculative, vague things like astrology, etc, I've looked up certain elements of my dreams, and their supposed symbolism, and it often makes a lot of sense within my daytime situations/issues. The other night I dreamt about bounding and bouncing down a steep green hillside, low-gravity, moon-walking style. I was getting twenty feet of air when I'd push hard. But initially, I was super worried about my landings, thinking how if I jump that high, I'm gonna hurt myself crashing down. Slowly I became more sure of myself. I interpreted that, silly or not, as pertaining heavily to the standstill/monotony of my life right now, and my fear of taking the risks I know I need to to get out of it. Cause that ****s been heavy on my mind all the time. I gotta take the necessary leaps, and as scared as I might be of failure, I will be fine and it will have been worth it.

 

Anyway, to stay on topic- I dream of the ex from time to time, but it's slowed down I can tell. There was one where she wanted me back, and I was ecstatic at first, holding her super tight, feeling very relieved. We went for a stroll and at some point I started to get this feeling in my gut that something was wrong. I started feeling trapped being back with her, in the dream. Which is interesting because deep down I know that's exactly how it would be if she were to come back to me in actuality (I fear but somehow still almost hope for it - even though it wouldn't be right).

 

But a simple dream about being back with her could have minimal implications. Could just be your mind reminiscing on a time that you still think about regularly, processing that nostalgia. I've had a few like that, and they'll bum you out of course. I prefer dreams of new girls, haaa. Though in many of those there's some obstacle to my actually getting them (whether my desire's sexual or just romantic). And they often turn into someone else by the time I get my hands on them, usually less attractive. Like the bathroom scene of The Shining ... I think there is at least some meaning to most dreams. And in those I'd think it would basically be my desire for new female affection but my difficulty in attaining it, and fear of it not being all it seems once I were to

 

Thanks for the insight Roger. And taking the time to share your opinion

 

I suppose I shouldnt think too much into the dreams themselves. I was just a little concerned because previously I had dreamt about her coming back to me and me saying no to her. Which left me feeling great when I woke up. But last night's dream was about us getting back together, not just being how we were. Like we had gone from being apart to back together, and I remember finding myself really attracted to her physically in the dream. So my concious thought is taking big steps forward, but my subconcious is still throwing thoughts around in my sleep.

[RogerWallace111]

Well that's cool you were saying no to her in some. The one I had where I felt trapped with her was similarly reassuring in some way... I wish my dreams were just a bit more consistently happy and less strange and unsettling. I have a strong feeling that after all this I'm gonna have a dream about her tonight ! hahaaaaa. **** it !

[RogerWallace111]

Oh and yeah- don't look into it too much. I think dreams of ex's or girls in general tend to have a bit more straightforward meanings. It's just on the male brain, especially going through this process...