tanya2345 Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Hey everyone ive been looking around here for quite a while now so thought id post my story and see if anyone can shed some light me and my ex had been together for 4 years and are both just turning 20. First for everything ectt. I hadn't been the best girlfriend, allways demanding and never appreciating anything my ex did for me. I have realised for some time this was my HUGE downfall and probably ultimately lead to our breakup. About a year ago he went on holiday, as soon as he returned he changed. Nothing has ever been the same since that day. He started becoming cold a distant, treating me like i meant nothing, never wanting to see me never wanting to be with me. I broke my foot and it took im 3 days to come and visit. Anyway toward the end of march we broke up. His reasons for breaking up with me were that he wanted to let go, didnt really care anymore and wanted to just chill out. He said i was too moany (right to some extent but i could tell what was happening) and that it was over. So although he hasnt got another girl he sure as hell doesnt want to be with me, or does he? This is where i get confused. We have had limited contact ever since and have met up about every 3 weeks. Despite him saying he loves me still and misses me he has no intentions of being with me and insists he needs to let go. He is constantly tweeting song lyrics that connect to our break up which make me think he wants to be with me but he flat out says he does not and that he wants me to let go. His exact words where 'you need to let go, if you find somebody else then so be it atleast he will know what he wants and wont treat you badly'. Is this a time thing? Give him time to see what he feels 'let them go and if they come back their yours to keep if they dont they never where yours at all' situations or do i treat this like a proper breakup NC all the way type thing. Ive been through the crap over this, signed of work for a month because i cant bring myself to get out of bed knowing he isnt around anymore. Now i have a level head, am thinking straight ready to either let go completely or watch how it plays out. Im not expecting him to come back, i gather how these things work and he probably wont. I just have this gut feeling it isnt the end.
Philosoraptor Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 It matters not what happens from here. Worry about only what you can control which is taking care of yourself. Work on yourself as if it will not work out so that no matter what happens you will be in the best place personally. Find a new hobby, join a club, volunteer... just do whatever makes you happy on your own and try to take your focus off of him and put it on yourself.
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