momiss2 Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Waiting for my divorce papers... have been in a relationship for 2 years, and jealousy keeps cropping up about every 2 months. When he gets jealous.. over his own issues from his X having an affair during his marriage... I just feel like running away from it all. Until he gets back to normal again then things are wonderful. He has no need to be jealous... and I don't trigger it or play games around the jealousy he has. I've stopped trying to defend myself against his imagination. Any suggestions or ideas that will help him when he goes through this and help me not to personalize it? He's been dealing with jealousy for about 18 years... X screwed around when in the second year of his marriage and they stayed together until she did it again towards the end of his marriage ... 20 plus years. I don't consider myself jealous and if it happens only for a few seconds then it goes away.
Ninja'sHusband Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 What does he do/say that drives you nuts? I'm so scared I'm going to turn into this man...my 14 year marriage is ending due to her infidelity...
Author momiss2 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 He will doubt my whereabouts when he calls and I'm out or the phone doesn't work, wonder if I bent over deliberately in front of men, if men look at me, or if I'm just friendly sometimes. I've let him know my hotmail and facebook are available. He checked my computer once and a dating site had been searched ... by my 20 yr. old son. Every time I have to explain... or if he blames me which it feels like... I'd like to smack him and its not fun. So the last time it happened I just didnt' speak to him for a few days... he apologized once I said that it was his issue from his past and not mine. Little does he realize it may get to the point where I just end the relationship. What does he want .... he has a good relationship... yet it pushes me away. Lack of trust isn't a good thing.
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