Kandyr14 Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Ive been in an on and off relationship. We have a son and recently a daughter. We were living together when I was pregnant with my daughter but left 6 months ago. The main reasons I left were because the relationship was one sided (all about him), no commitment after 2 children, and he was always making me cry. I know I was extra hormonal because I was pregnant but all I needed was to talk to him. He wouldn't want to hear anything I ever had to say. He'd roll his eyes at me when had a problem, causing me to close off. one night left, now this was a very hard decision, but I always felt he truly didn't love me and I couldnt live like that. 6 months later I have had my baby, and he never bothered to call, wasn't there during the birth. I called him a week before and nothing. So I began to move on with my life and every time I'm doing great he finds a way to come back. I get a call from him asking me out and I say no, so then come Monday he asks if he can see the kids. Now I don't want to be a complete bitch and say no so I said ok. Well, he came by picked us all up and took them to buy clothes. I will admit it was hard on me knowing we weren't together but he led me to believe we were going to work things out. I just want a family, and now all he can say is we're friends! Basically, he just wants to be around the kids, I've told him how I felt, why I left, what I want but nothing. This guy is so cold towards me and I'm so depressed now and sad, he has a great way of making me feel it's all my fault because I left....I don't know what to do anymore, I need help!!
Makavelli Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Sorry to hear that you have experienced this kind of mistreatment.... That is a tough situation because of the kids involved, so there is more feelings attached and it is harder to let go... To me it seems like he does not care and is pretty selfish... if someone loves you they should be there and listen to the situations or problems, and help solve them together... it goes both ways 50/50 is what I think ... my relationship seems 80/20 with me being the 80% that cares so i can kind of relate ;/ 1
Author Kandyr14 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 Thank you sooo much for replying and not being mean. I just needed advice because Im in such a hard place right now. I just wish I could switch off all feelings for him but it's harder said then done. He claims to not be talking to anyone but I feel he is. So I guess I must move on....thank you again
Philosoraptor Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 It does sound like you did what was best for you and your children even if it meant pain in the short term. Are you receiving any sort of support for your children? 1
Author Kandyr14 Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 sadly I do not get any child support on him, but thus my choice. I have always had a feeling of "you can't make it on your own" from him. As of lately he has tried to buy them stuff asks if they need anything. All I can think of is saying children need everything. He doesn't give me money but thinks buying stuff helps....I can honestly say I could do it on my own because it seems like he sees them when he has time.
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