no_radar Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 So, I'm 23 and she is 19! I'm usually very good at dating, I am a relatively good looking guy and get a fair bit of attention from, as my mates would put it 'fit girls'. I would say I have been good at dating in the past and have got good 'game'. However, I have well and truly met my match in this girl, we are still at the early stage of dating and getting to know each other. We originally met through work, but neither of us still work there, and are both students, her a nurse and me in business and economics. Well we have enjoyed a few great dates so far, with just a kiss on the lips at the end of the second and third date. We do not see each other all the time as we are both so busy and work shifts. However I recently asked her out on a saturday, to which I never got an answer, only for the very next day on the sunday she asked me to meet for drinks and meet her mum also. I had to decline as I already had plans with friends. She said that was cool and later text me saying that she wished she were seeing me that night and that was it. I text back simply saying I promised we would do something together this week and I'd call her in the week, along with the obligatory kisses at the end. she said, 'you do that xx' So I called her today, no answer so just left a voice mail saying just wanted to see how she was, apologies for not making it sunday and to give me a call to arrange a night together when she was next free. I have not yet heard back, but this is not my problem, my problem is, there seems to be alot of games between us, one of us gets a lil close and the other backs off just a little and it sends the other wild I don't know whether these games are healthy for a start to a relationship, the last person to back off was me and she came back even stronger. I have a feeling she may now do the same again, is this healthy? Is it likely that she is into me romantically or just fooling around? she sometimes calls me babe or hot stuff but very rarely. she is a kind compassionate girl, with a good sense of humour but is also a bit of an 'indie chick'. Thanks in advance for your words of wisdom
fishtaco Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 You're 23, she's 19. Play on. Enjoy, and have fun. For me, it there's games afoot, that's basically a go ahead for me to multidate. So I would recommend you to not focus on this one so much. Date a few others. But you make the judgement call. Dating culture where you are may be different from where I am. Plus I'm 41. When there are games going on it's because people are intentionally playing them, as opposed to because they don't know what they're doing. Plus I'm not a good looking guy like you, so when I have opportunities, I tend to want to maximize them by exploring every single one. So if you get opportunities all the time, then there's less reason for you to multidate as well. Good luck.
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