stillalive Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 (edited) My ex and I had been going out for a year and a half but we broke up a month ago because he wasn't happy in the relationship anymore. Before this, he had asked for a break because he felt the spark was gone and when I left him alone, he wanted me back. We stayed together for about a month after that and he finally decided that he wanted to break up for good. I didn't know about NC and did stupid things by crying and constantly asking him to come back to give it another shot. He would get really angry when I cried and pleaded and would say mean things just to make me leave. Lately, I've been seeing him getting close to this girl he used to like and it worries me that something will happen between them two because after all he used to like her. We were each others' first love and everything. When he broke up with me, he said he wants to be left alone and I told him that I'm scared to do so because I'm worried that you'll forget about me and find someone else and he replied saying, "If you knew me by now, you wouldn't say that." Even when I was leaving, I said "I'll always love you," and he said "Me too." It confuses me because he said these things when we broke up but now they seem close(she has a boyfriend but he doesn't know that and she hits him up everyday) and he says he doesn't feel like talking to me anymore. It's been over a month since the breakup and I've tried the NC thing too. I'm really worried that since it's summer vacation and there's no chance that I'll see him for these 2 months, it'll just help him get over me and he won't come back this time. I can't get over this guy no matter how much I try. I'm just hoping he'll realize how much he misses me, but that won't happen until that girl keeps talking to him >_< Will he end up coming back or get with this new girl sooner or later? Edited June 25, 2012 by stillalive
Ruby65 Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I know it doesn't seem that way, but this summer apart is actually the best possible thing that could happen to you. You need some time away from him to heal and focus on YOU. Forget about him. Forget about other girls. Make this summer about YOU, about feeling better, and discovering yourself and what else you have in your life that's amazing other than this one guy (hint: THERE'S A TON of great stuff in there!) This was your first relationship -- and while these can be hard to get over, you WILL get over it with time. It's very very rare that people stay with their first loves forever. Your best chance at feeling better is to remain NC this summer. No calls, texts, emails and no checking up on him through Facebook or mutual friends either. Post here whenever you need to. Follow the advice and take the support of everyone here. You're going to be FINE in the end! You CAN get over him -- and you WILL.
flitzanu Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 My ex and I had been going out for a year and a half but we broke up a month ago because he wasn't happy in the relationship anymore. Before this, he had asked for a break because he felt the spark was gone and when I left him alone, he wanted me back. We stayed together for about a month after that and he finally decided that he wanted to break up for good. I didn't know about NC and did stupid things by crying and constantly asking him to come back to give it another shot. He would get really angry when I cried and pleaded and would say mean things just to make me leave. Lately, I've been seeing him getting close to this girl he used to like and it worries me that something will happen between them two because after all he used to like her. We were each others' first love and everything. When he broke up with me, he said he wants to be left alone and I told him that I'm scared to do so because I'm worried that you'll forget about me and find someone else and he replied saying, "If you knew me by now, you wouldn't say that." Even when I was leaving, I said "I'll always love you," and he said "Me too." It confuses me because he said these things when we broke up but now they seem close(she has a boyfriend but he doesn't know that and she hits him up everyday) and he says he doesn't feel like talking to me anymore. It's been over a month since the breakup and I've tried the NC thing too. I'm really worried that since it's summer vacation and there's no chance that I'll see him for these 2 months, it'll just help him get over me and he won't come back this time. I can't get over this guy no matter how much I try. I'm just hoping he'll realize how much he misses me, but that won't happen until that girl keeps talking to him >_< Will he end up coming back or get with this new girl sooner or later? this has nothing to do with the other girl talking to him. he checked out a long time ago and has been very clear with you that he does not want to be with you. he's made his decision and you're deluding yourself if you think he really wants to be "alone".
Author stillalive Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 thank you so much guys for replying I'm really trying to focus on myself and distract myself by picking up other hobbies but it's really hard. I feel like if I don't talk to him at all over the summer, I'll lose him for good, yet I feel like I've tried so much there's not much I can do anyways. It's just hard for me to comprehend how someone can just get bored and not be happy in a relationship anymore. You don't get bored and end your relationship with your parents and your friends so why with your significant other?
flitzanu Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 thank you so much guys for replying I'm really trying to focus on myself and distract myself by picking up other hobbies but it's really hard. I feel like if I don't talk to him at all over the summer, I'll lose him for good, yet I feel like I've tried so much there's not much I can do anyways. It's just hard for me to comprehend how someone can just get bored and not be happy in a relationship anymore. You don't get bored and end your relationship with your parents and your friends so why with your significant other? if this exact same event didn't happen to thousands of people a day, forums like this would not exist. remember that. you're not the only one this happened to. it goes on every single day.
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